Earning her submission

[li****]

Personally this is red flag behavior. You are not ok to go around telling people this. And it’s dangerous. Submitting to someone takes trust and sometimes even putting my LIFE in someone else’s hands. That absolutely IS EARNED. Trust is earned. Just because I’m submissive doesn’t mean I “just bow down to anyone”. That’s a great way to get myself hurt and to put myself in a very traumatic situation. Don’t put other women in that same scenario because you and them are both inexperienced and can’t crack a book or do some real research on what being a Dom means. I like to say being dominant and being A DOM are not the some. For one. One is a noun and one is a an adjective. The adjective is required for the noun. It the adjective does not MAKE YOU the noun. Being dominant does not make you a Dom. knowing how to treat a sub is what makes you a Dom

[JB****]

^^ What they said. Especially in this world, it's pretty silly to treat anything as black and white. Even the definitions we try to give to specific types of dom/sub play don't always do the best job of explaining ones likes and dislikes, so you can't expect everybody to be the same. One would likely point out that the poster of this is looking for a very specific type of submissive, one that they feel entitled to and don't need to impress, likely because they would struggle to do so.

[Deleted Member]

To be able to experience the dynamic to its fullest you must learn each other. Once you both become comfortable and *** with each other that’s when the relationship actually blooms. When she trusts you she will fully embrace the dominance. That’s when you will truly experience what you think you deserve. You’re still young and that’s ok but you have a lot to learn. Once you understand what it means and how to unlock it you will know exactly what I mean.

[Ka****]

This post might even win the award of the most stupid post from 2026.
How ignorant one person can be?
I am just amazed

[li****]

You start with a statement that’s actually backwards. Any TRUE sub will earn your trust. A fake sub will submit to anyone without even trying to figure out if they’re a good person or not. Smh

[li****]

Ps. It’s ok for a sub to have boundaries and for her to tell you what SHE wants. And if you’re not even interested in that then you are not a dom. you may be dominant but you lack the respect and the kindness that is required to be a true dom

[Deleted Member]

Seems ur a bad dom, when I play as dom and thats a boundary a sub sets I comply. The sub is the one in contorl, remember that. They allow us to see their vulnerability, and we must show gratitude to those that let us use them.

[Ch****]

Complete red flag🚩Any man who doesn’t listen, doesn’t respect boundaries, and expects submission without earning trust is a danger to women

[wa****]

You earn true submission...if your truly Dominant

[ge****]

To each their own, but I disagree with your view completely - both submission and dominance are "earned" in as much as they come from a position of mutual respect and trust.
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Wanting respect and trust doesn't mean someone isn't fake or that someone isn't a dominant or a submissive.

[Deleted Member]

A dom has to show what he can and will do for his sub, for a sub to fully submit to their dom there needs to be a level of trust and they can’t get that trust without the dom proving he is trustworthy. Otherwise it’s just a game of words and empty promises that never get held up. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[si****]

Actually it is lol and yall come in these here inboxes acting like we should submit to you off rip. You haven’t established boundaries or trust or tried to make conversation. You just drop pictures of your cock all call girls your slut as if you wanting them automatically makes them belong to you. Beat it lol this logic is so backwards

[Ir****]

Finallyyyyyy a post not about how bad we are as doms. Thank you.

[Mi****]

You do have to earn their submission. It’s not about bowing down to them. It’s about showing them that you’re capable of providing what they want and need and that they can put their trust in you. They have to know that you’re worthy of being followed.

[Zis]

Greetings from a femdom! One look wont make the deal: You need to know the person for a real dynamic and if you think, you get that from one look, you have no clue of the complex idea of personality 😉
But if you just want a submissive girl, who wants to be fucked hard, then you are right. She will know it after one glance at your appearance if you are suitable...soooo, its not working out for you, hu?

[Gh****]

Calling them a "female" is a red flag to me.

I'm submissive. I'm subby as they come. But if you're not a good Dom then you're not a good Dom and I'm not gonna fake it for your ego 😂

I don't say to earn it but I do say to like y'know fucking try to get to know me, what I like, and actually *try* don't just expect me to submit because you claim to be a Dom. That's how I know to avoid you 😂

[to****]

disagree :)

[jpb]

I think you have a dangerous opinion akin to an incel who gives 2 shits for the sub.
Why should it be different to any other relationship? You need to know someone, you expect a petson to submit to you based on what ? id want a sub to expect some level of earned submission(and by that i mean normal things like building trust)

[Ou****]

Wrong.

[Ou****]

Not even close to the truth and a perfect example here of a fake dom.

[fl****]

To me when a woman does this it implies she has a deeper rooted issue from a past I was not a part of and have no intention of fixing. The problem is not mine and I am not here to fix her.

A truly submissive and interested woman will not have these safeguarded measures in the way, she's just about it. Her submission is in how she lives not just for the right man. There's rules for men she doesn't like and the men she likes she breaks those same rules for. Learning which side you are on is crucial.

Earned submission doesn't exist as earned domination doesn't exist. It just exists without permission.

[Ft****]

Submission requires trust because you need to feel safe to submit too many "doms" want power but no responsibility. I use to just submit but I was almost killed by a fake dom who didn't have any experience and tried to strangle me with his full forearm.

So now submission is earned for my own safety I've had too many fake doms put my health and safety at risk.

[Deleted Member]

A True Dom knows that there is a bond that is created between him and his sub. A sub is bonded to her Dom when she feels safe, protected, respected and heard. Her full submission is easily given when she is relaxed and comfortable. Her duty is to serve her Dom with respect, openness and willingness to provide him pleasure, excitement, fulfillment and submission at their agreed upon comfort levels. There should always be open discussion and dialogue prior to play sessions.

[Jp****]

A lot to learn my guy you’re 26 time is the great factor that changes the mind and grows your knowledge base . BDSM is a relationship it’s not paid service it’s not a porn set either and I can confirm as stunt dick what you see on porn is scripted agree semi rehearsed and then delivered to the magic box you goon to ….. take your time enjoy the realness submission is the results

[Dr****]

A fEMalE iS tElLinG... hahahaha