Earning her submission

[Deleted Member]

I get not blindly trusting, as you should NEVER DO THAT. But if we have talked for a period of time, YOU AGREED TO COME OVER AND SLEEP WITH ME, you can’t then say “ oh hey by the way you have to show me in person you are worth it before I submit” 💀💀💀🤡🤡🤡🤡 give me a break. Get off the app.

[Mr****]

I would like to understand whether this is based on specific interactions (eg transactional/only scams) or if it is your general belief on power exchange dynamics? If it is the latter; then it is ignorant, entitled and outright dangerous.
Submission is a gift and it is given by choice, not because someone with a self-effected title and delusions of grandeur expects it.
If someone is too insecure in handle rejection, or too "fake" themself to build a foundation of trust, respect for boundaries and most importantly consent, then they're not dominant. Lions don't need to tell anyone they're a lion.
And if someone sets as a basis to give their submission, or for it to be "earned" based on feeling safe and having freedom to consent, then that should receive nothing but respect.
If someone isn't interested, wants to build trust and feel safe entering into a dynamic, it certainly doesn't make them a fake sub. It makes them an intelligent, sane and self-respecting human being

[jpb]

These dom guys with this magic wand holy grail lost city of Atlantis Where’s Wally Rossetti stone talking in tongues HD ready voice activated unlimited warranty vegan diamond tipped long hard thic and naturally ribbed that just don’t quit Energy reserved for the internet and Tate inspired mirror masturbation
so wavy it’s warped

[Bl****]

21 minutes ago, tallnbig said:

I get not blindly trusting, as you should NEVER DO THAT. But if we have talked for a period of time, YOU AGREED TO COME OVER AND SLEEP WITH ME, you can’t then say “ oh hey by the way you have to show me in person you are worth it before I submit” 💀💀💀🤡🤡🤡🤡 give me a break. Get off the app.

Maybe you should’ve discussed boundaries and expectations before she came over. 🤷🏼‍♀️ sex does not mean submission.

[Wi****]

Agreed

[Po****]

This whole framing seems very transactional. Relationships, even casual spontaneous ones, are opt-in arrangements, not a trade. I've never encountered a situation as you've described, but I think if it's come to that point you don't have trust built yet. Either spend more time together, and build more trust, or move on

[Deleted Member]

Actually it kind of does equal submission. A woman has to submit to have sex period right? And I always discuss it ahead of time. Still happened.

[Da****]

*topping

[Deleted Member]

Just like respect, it has to be earned. No one has ever gotten respect by just showing up and demanding it. The same with submission.

[Deleted Member]

9 minutes ago, 2233Sean said:

Just like respect, it has to be earned. No one has ever gotten respect by just showing up and demanding it. The same with submission.

First sane comment ☝️

[Deleted Member]

8 hours ago, FionaS said:

I found that most are fake Dom, they just use to get access to women’s body. Lots of them are jerks.

„Acces to woman‘s body“… it isn‘t about body that much as it is for the act of submission. I like to see my sub in doubt or surprise while waiting to see and or sense what is my next step, it is definitely very much about control. You could have the most beautiful body but if she isn’t feeling it, i don’t feel it either. It’s so much about chemistry.

[Ca****]

56 minutes ago, 2233Sean said:

Just like respect, it has to be earned. No one has ever gotten respect by just showing up and demanding it. The same with submission.

Exactly. In theory sounds like a simple dynamic, but there’s a ton of trust that goes into full surrender… I’d be very worried about someone’s mental state if they just immediately submitted fully. You have to talk limits, interests, contracts are always great!

[si****]

Yall telling on yourselves in these comments. Every single one of yall is gonna catch a report. You’re unsafe to be around.

[Deleted Member]

6 hours ago, Scrappy_V1 said:

I respect your opinion but i think theres a level of trust needed to be earned. Not jump through hoops but trust. At the end of the day in the dynamic, the sub is trusting to give you power over them. And when you’re talking brats, it ain’t supposed to be easy. It’s part of the fun of reeling them back in.

"I respect your opinion..." Nope. Not even a little bit. Also makes me block anyone who even slightly agrees with this nonsensical formation of words into dangerous rhetoric such as this.

This is not the time to appease men's prejudices and tolerate their moral bankruptcy. This is a time to call out toxicity, which you failed entirely.

[Be****]

Didn’t we just see a post a post recently about fake doms and here we are with a prime example

[Go****]

7 hours ago, tallnbig said:

I get not blindly trusting, as you should NEVER DO THAT. But if we have talked for a period of time, YOU AGREED TO COME OVER AND SLEEP WITH ME, you can’t then say “ oh hey by the way you have to show me in person you are worth it before I submit” 💀💀💀🤡🤡🤡🤡 give me a break. Get off the app.

Agreeing to come over and sleep with you doesn’t mean that someone has agreed to or has to submit.

And women do not have to submit to have sex. You’ve heard of female Dommes, right?!

Nor does it mean she cannot change her mind or feel unsure and need further reassurance once there. 

Edited February 25 by GoodGirlBetterBrat
Missed out my comment 🤦🏻‍♀️

[Al****]

1 hour ago, IfUKnowMe-NoUDont said:

 

"I respect your opinion..." Nope. Not even a little bit. Also makes me block anyone who even slightly agrees with this nonsensical formation of words into dangerous rhetoric such as this.

This is not the time to appease men's prejudices and tolerate their moral bankruptcy. This is a time to call out toxicity, which you failed entirely.

Yep.

 

One has to respect that everyone can have an opinion but you do not, in any way, have to respect that opinion.

[Deleted Member]

Sleeping with a man requires submission. You are literally contradicting yourself

[An****]

I do not like your attitude 2muchpull. You expect submission prior to her knowing your capabilities, character, or compassion. When a male demands submission without any understanding of domming responsibilities, it rurns my stomach. Have tour opinion. You might be domineering, but you're not a dom unless a sub trusts you 🙄 You're just another male that wants access to womens bodies.

[la****]

9 hours ago, tallnbig said:

Actually it kind of does equal submission. A woman has to submit to have sex period right? And I always discuss it ahead of time. Still happened.

By this logic, men would also have to submit to have sex? Because the latter would be 'men dominate into sex' and that gives big predator vibes. You essentially submit to eachother in an act of intimacy. People have sex all the time outside of dominant/submissive dynamics/kinks too so tf are you on about? And for the record, people can withdraw consent AT ANY TIME and you have no choice but to RESPECT THAT regardless of agreement beforehand, people are allowed to change their minds. Things can be vastly different from connecting behind a screen to in person

[Zis]

4 hours ago, tallnbig said:

Sleeping with a man requires submission. You are literally contradicting yourself

Nope...trust me😈

[da****]

All types of games

[Mi****]

The difference between a boy and a man…

[Deleted Member]

11 hours ago, sirensuccubus said:

Yall telling on yourselves in these comments. Every single one of yall is gonna catch a report. You’re unsafe to be around.

Dang, what'd I do?

[go****]

You always have to earn submission if you’re complaining about that you’re a rapist. Earning submission goes hand and hand with consent