Casual guys vs serious relationship guys

[Officer_DaddyDom]

Interesting this topic came up, I have been thinking a lot lately about how I only see women looking for nothing serious/casual/etc. or majority are Poly. This goes for dating apps and kink websites like FetIfe and Fet app.

I make my intentions known on my profile, I don’t do hookups/casual/open relationship or Poly anything. While I’m not religious, my dating values are more so stemming from my family and European nationality.

When I think of dating someone, I don’t think of dating multiple people, but solely 1 person at a time. I don’t like how dating has gone to people dating multiple people at once, then the other person doesn’t even say anything about it and you don’t know if they’re being sexually safe with other people.

People are fucking greedy, they want instant gratification and won’t commit to 1 thing. If people see something better and they can acquire it, they’ll dump and leave the person their with currently. The way these people don’t have any emotional attachment to someone they’re seeing is fucking scary, they’ll lie about loving you and caring about you.

Dating is a fucking joke.

[jinxed]

15 minutes ago, Officer_DaddyDom said:

When I think of dating someone, I don’t think of dating multiple people, but solely 1 person at a time. I don’t like how dating has gone to people dating multiple people at once, then the other person doesn’t even say anything about it and you don’t know if they’re being sexually safe with other people.
 

Very glad to see this comment on here. It's an interesting time when people are looking for advice on how to be seen as a hook-up-only person. No disrespect to the author of the OP, but it's nice to have someone mentioning sexual safety and I'd extend this to emotional health. Whether monogamy or polygamy, in my personal opinion any connection is more nourishing if it is involving the whole system, including the heart. That doesn't mean that it has to become a marriage-like situation as in forever and ever, but for whatever time is being spend together, there is a deeper and I'd claim a more fulfilling connection.  

Unfortunately, I agree, it seems there's a clear tendency towards quick and physical. However, what the excessive consumption of fast food leads to is no secret. 

[Officer_DaddyDom]

2 hours ago, jinxed said:

Very glad to see this comment on here. It's an interesting time when people are looking for advice on how to be seen as a hook-up-only person. No disrespect to the author of the OP, but it's nice to have someone mentioning sexual safety and I'd extend this to emotional health. Whether monogamy or polygamy, in my personal opinion any connection is more nourishing if it is involving the whole system, including the heart. That doesn't mean that it has to become a marriage-like situation as in forever and ever, but for whatever time is being spend together, there is a deeper and I'd claim a more fulfilling connection.  

Unfortunately, I agree, it seems there's a clear tendency towards quick and physical. However, what the excessive consumption of fast food leads to is no secret. 

I’ve honestly become more of a Demisexual person, I can’t jump in bed with just anyone anymore. I feel I would need a deeper bond and connection, I want to know that the person I’m with is strongly and deeply attached to me emotionally. I want to form an emotional bond, I want person be me “My person” and I theirs.

When you know someone is afraid to show you all their emotions and feelings, whatever they may be. You just appreciate that person so much more. You both know you aren’t afraid to be weak in front of one another if and when the time comes, only to reply on the other person to help you get backup and not take advantage of your low.

[ey****]

I think one thing in general is not everyone is compatible with everyone else - even when it's folk you may have good rapport or "connection" with it doesn't mean it's right for a relationship 

whether this is someone wanting Mono vs someone non-mono

someone who is only/mostly looking for stuff which is short term, casual, pick-up, hook up etc versus someone who is wanting someone who would likely be long term 

to what they're generally looking for in relationship/dynamic

a kinda issue people sometimes make is "compromising" a little too much into something that isn't want they want, in the hope they can be satisfied (they won't) or that the other person will change (possible. but high risk)

The kinda reality is accepting that some folk aren't right for you and not trying to convince yourself otherwise or worry about "missing out"

god, I feel I've overused quote marks here - but hey ho