Not all kinks are valid

[Jo****]

“Dont kink shame” doesn’t always apply.
Some “kinks” are inherently harmful as they are based in bigotry. We call this bull out on fetlife, it’s time to call it out here.
-Racial fetishization, for instance, is literally reducing people down to their skin and body parts as well as feeding harmful stereotypes. Basically every race fetish involving Black people is rooted in American slavery. This includes terms like BWC. “Queen of Spades” is all kinds of racist, its literally white women calling themselves Queens of Black men, and using the slur “spade,” i shouldn’t have to explain the inherent white supremacy there.
-Sissification is inherently misogynistic. Its literally using femininity in a man as something to be ashamed of and degraded for. And for some reason, there is a MAJOR issue with racism via race fetishization across the “CD Sissy” community.
-something not necessarily a kink, but all too common on this app that bothers me as a nonbinary person, “nonbinary CD.” If you’re nonbinary, you cant crossdress; not as a rule, like, “you’re not allowed.” No, LOGICALLY, its an impossibility, because crossdressing inherently requires being on one side of the binary and CROSSING to the other side with how you dress. And love, you can’t cross a binary you’re not a part of. As NBs we can just dress however because clothing has no gender. A genderfluid person does not “crossdress” they are simply just expressing their fluidity.
-Its really never okay to fetishize body parts (or lack of). When people do so, they focus on the parts instead of the person.

Now before you waste your efforts complaining:
-i dont care, if i offend you with this, you deserve it because everything i said is correct and accepted by the progressive, educated kink community. As they say, “a hit dog hollers”
-a Black person engaging in racial fetishization does not mean it isn’t racist.

[Slats]

If two people share the same kink, It is between them. Not me. Not you. Not anyone else but them. None of us are the appointed arbiters of kink. If their kink offends you, too fucking bad.

[Bl****]

People that push this are racist

[ma****]

What is right or wrong is purely a social construct. It would depend on your own values and that of the society in which you live. Equally, it would be reliant on an individual ethical and or philosophical standing.

[Fi****]

Truth. Like *** for one. That should be shamed.

[ca****]

Kys dude

[Ar****]

Yeah... I have to agree... Who appointed you to be the fetish police
Its stupid useless virtue signaling to show everyone how you are such a good person for attempting to call anyone out that doesnt agree with your point of view

[Ma****]

You say BWC is race fetish but BBC isn’t? lol wut That’s not really fetishizing unless there is other context. It literally could just be a descriptive term. It all comes down to context.

[pa****]

I love how shaming for some is ok. Show me where you formulated your position, rooted in actual truth. Just because you say it’s true doesn’t make it so. I love how you say you don’t care if you offend…has it really improved your life or are expressing your depressed egomania?

[fa****]

Bro hahaha .. wth. Shaming a kink is a super weird thing to do.
All kinks are a thing, if you think it's a bad or good kink doesn't matter at all when there are people enjoying it consensualy!

Get lost with your moral superiority