Female pleasure dom

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How do you become a female dom never did any kinks before but a friend telling me a bout a Male plesure dom how does a women become one

[Deleted Member]

Very Very easy. There is a huge demand for Femdom.

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Is that what it called

 

[ge****]

Same advice as I'd give to *anyone*, male or female, dominant or submissive, firstly you need to understand for yourself what a given role means to you, and why you think you fit that role? What about it appeals to you, what type of dominant or submissive you think you'd be, and what type of dominant or submissive you think you'd be looking for etc.
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You can do that by learning as much as you can about the lifestyle from sites like this, blogs, books, getting along to kink events etc.
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You should know what your limits and boundaries are, and be prepared to accept those of others.
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Ultimately if you can't understand for yourself, how can you expect to explain your desires to a prospective partner?
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Only once you have a clear idea for yourself should you seek to take steps to make it happen, and even then I would suggest very slow steps are taken as you continue to expand your knowledge and self-awareness.
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Yes, as a female dominant you'll be in demand, and you'll have guys willing to throw themselves at you - but without that level of knowledge, understanding and awareness, along with a healthy dose of trust, respect and consideration, a female dominant canne just as dangerous as their male counterparts who similarly lack knowledge and understanding.
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So tread carefully.

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12 hours ago, gemini_man said:

Same advice as I'd give to *anyone*, male or female, dominant or submissive, firstly you need to understand for yourself what a given role means to you, and why you think you fit that role? What about it appeals to you, what type of dominant or submissive you think you'd be, and what type of dominant or submissive you think you'd be looking for etc.
.
You can do that by learning as much as you can about the lifestyle from sites like this, blogs, books, getting along to kink events etc.
.
You should know what your limits and boundaries are, and be prepared to accept those of others.
.
Ultimately if you can't understand for yourself, how can you expect to explain your desires to a prospective partner?
.
Only once you have a clear idea for yourself should you seek to take steps to make it happen, and even then I would suggest very slow steps are taken as you continue to expand your knowledge and self-awareness.
.
Yes, as a female dominant you'll be in demand, and you'll have guys willing to throw themselves at you - but without that level of knowledge, understanding and awareness, along with a healthy dose of trust, respect and consideration, a female dominant canne just as dangerous as their male counterparts who similarly lack knowledge and understanding.
.
So tread carefully.

I understand what your saying have no attention rushing anything I have been reading on here books and things like that I am trying to learn what I can from them and vidoes things like that. 

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Just now, Margaret1984 said:

I understand what your saying have no attention rushing anything I have been reading on here books and things like that I am trying to learn what I can from them and vidoes things like that. 

Thank you for advice 

 

Just now, Margaret1984 said:

I understand what your saying have no attention rushing anything I have been reading on here books and things like that I am trying to learn what I can from them and vidoes things like that. 

 

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12 hours ago, gemini_man said:

Same advice as I'd give to *anyone*, male or female, dominant or submissive, firstly you need to understand for yourself what a given role means to you, and why you think you fit that role? What about it appeals to you, what type of dominant or submissive you think you'd be, and what type of dominant or submissive you think you'd be looking for etc.
.
You can do that by learning as much as you can about the lifestyle from sites like this, blogs, books, getting along to kink events etc.
.
You should know what your limits and boundaries are, and be prepared to accept those of others.
.
Ultimately if you can't understand for yourself, how can you expect to explain your desires to a prospective partner?
.
Only once you have a clear idea for yourself should you seek to take steps to make it happen, and even then I would suggest very slow steps are taken as you continue to expand your knowledge and self-awareness.
.
Yes, as a female dominant you'll be in demand, and you'll have guys willing to throw themselves at you - but without that level of knowledge, understanding and awareness, along with a healthy dose of trust, respect and consideration, a female dominant canne just as dangerous as their male counterparts who similarly lack knowledge and understanding.
.
So tread carefully.

Thank you for the advice 

[Ky****]

best advice I can think of is to make contact with other Dommes esp at kink events, a good friend as a mentor works absolute wonders maam

[ge****]

45 minutes ago, Margaret1984 said:

I understand what your saying have no attention rushing anything I have been reading on here books and things like that I am trying to learn what I can from them and vidoes things like that. 

Sounds like you're going the right way about it then - only thing I would say is if by "videos" you mean BDSM porn, then I'd take those very lightly indeed as often they don't reflect reality.

[MisstressStorm]

If you want to Buddy Up - Margret we can share experiences

just had my first rope play session and it was great - suprised at how long it took… making a safe and comfortable space for the rope bottom and actually doing the ties. 
 

I even got in a little spanking/flogging practice - The Mr  - who was a rope virgin was going to travel the road again 👍😎😇

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7 hours ago, gemini_man said:

Sounds like you're going the right way about it then - only thing I would say is if by "videos" you mean BDSM porn, then I'd take those very lightly indeed as often they don't reflect reality.

I have because they dont look real is there events where they allow you to go and watch I want to take this seriously I'm more observe watch I learn quicker 

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7 hours ago, TheEEpet said:

If you want to Buddy Up - Margret we can share experiences

just had my first rope play session and it was great - suprised at how long it took… making a safe and comfortable space for the rope bottom and actually doing the ties. 
 

I even got in a little spanking/flogging practice - The Mr  - who was a rope virgin was going to travel the road again 👍😎😇

I have none but I want to learn this going to sound daft want to be a plesure dom where I dont have to belittle or degrade someone  I experienced that with a Male dom I enjoyed it so be nice to someone get plesure by me see how they like it if you want to teach me please do 

[MisstressStorm]

I hear you..

women experience *** in their lives so I have little interest in exposing my subs to the same ( although I understand they want to experience what women go through )

I want my subs not to *** retribution but *** of withdrawal of rewards …. A longing and need for Mistresses attention…

I am never a teacher , always a pupil 

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34 minutes ago, TheEEpet said:

I hear you..

women experience *** in their lives so I have little interest in exposing my subs to the same ( although I understand they want to experience what women go through )

I want my subs not to *** retribution but *** of withdrawal of rewards …. A longing and need for Mistresses attention…

I am never a teacher , always a pupil 

 

34 minutes ago, TheEEpet said:

I hear you..

women experience *** in their lives so I have little interest in exposing my subs to the same ( although I understand they want to experience what women go through )

I want my subs not to *** retribution but *** of withdrawal of rewards …. A longing and need for Mistresses attention…

I am never a teacher , always a pupil 

Can you teach me 

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Just now, Margaret1984 said:

 

Can you teach me 

As give me advice I ment 

[MisstressStorm]

*** - shared experience is the best. 
my teacher is a Dom ….

[ge****]

1 hour ago, Margaret1984 said:

I have because they dont look real is there events where they allow you to go and watch I want to take this seriously I'm more observe watch I learn quicker 

There are certainly kink events at clubs and the like where you could observe, likewise getting along to local munches (socials for kinksters) would give you the opportunity to meet others etc - as TheEEpet says learning from others and shared experiences are a great way to find your feet.

[MisstressStorm]

If it encourages you Mistress M , the satisfaction of an intervention (  in my case, rope ) - the hunger in your subs eyes for your pleasure is intoxicating……

[Deleted Member]

Thank you for unforgettable and help deffently look into them

 

[MisstressStorm]

Look forward to your playtimes Mistress M !

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44 minutes ago, TheEEpet said:

*** - shared experience is the best. 
my teacher is a Dom ….

Ok so need to go out do it 

[ey****]

Some comments here I think are a little wide of the mark.

But...

If you want to be any form of Dominant you need to learn about the things you want to do.  This is not quick, this is not easy.

It can be helpful if you have someone to learn with - perhaps a partner who has experience or wishes to learn with you : there is a slight weakness here that this will still be you shaping to what they want to do - but that's not necessarily a terrible thing if that is your interest.

I say that; there will be some activities you really don't enjoy so that is important to learn about also.

Watching others play at events can be fun - but - a bit like porn it doesn't tell the full story : have these people just met, or have they being playing together for 20 years? How experienced are they? What is their dynamic like at home? Do they just play in clubs?  I guess an advantage that you can, literally, ask them.

Remember also this is going to be expensive.  Wearing things and buying toys for someone else's enjoyment tots up - so if you do find someone to learn or grow with, they are going to have to put their hands in their pockets a little.

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6 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

Some comments here I think are a little wide of the mark.

But...

If you want to be any form of Dominant you need to learn about the things you want to do.  This is not quick, this is not easy.

It can be helpful if you have someone to learn with - perhaps a partner who has experience or wishes to learn with you : there is a slight weakness here that this will still be you shaping to what they want to do - but that's not necessarily a terrible thing if that is your interest.

I say that; there will be some activities you really don't enjoy so that is important to learn about also.

Watching others play at events can be fun - but - a bit like porn it doesn't tell the full story : have these people just met, or have they being playing together for 20 years? How experienced are they? What is their dynamic like at home? Do they just play in clubs?  I guess an advantage that you can, literally, ask them.

Remember also this is going to be expensive.  Wearing things and buying toys for someone else's enjoyment tots up - so if you do find someone to learn or grow with, they are going to have to put their hands in their pockets a little.

Ok thank you

[MisstressStorm]

Unsure of with  comments are…unworthy.

but.

im guessing you aren’t looking for a partner.

on a personal level … don’t give a fuck of their  demands needs . 

These people don’t give a shit about you’re personal development- just too cheap.

just because someone wants to incentive your time, doesn’t mean they are valid 

[ey****]

I guess another question is what do you mean by "Pleasure Dom(me)" because a pleasure Dom basically would have a submissive who orgasms through being Dominated and the aim is to achieve the best possible orgasms.  That it is about the subs pleasure.

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So kinda figuring out here what exactly you want to do - and - with who?