... forever and a day

[Sire_Osiris]

Relationships can be difficult while rewarding yet they host a very wide range of emotions to be experienced
A BDSM dynamic is no exception to that rule. More important than finding a play partner, you should do soul searching within yourself so you can answer for yourself, how long do you intend to incorporate Those elements into your relationship?
Discovering for yourself if BDSM is 24/7 or just in the bedroom will go a long way as you learn to play with others.
Tell me what you think.
Do you know if you want kink and fetishes for life? Do you want a partner who is 24/7? Do you even know what your limits are.
I encourage you to find out.

[ey****]

One of the problems sometimes is that - while there are people in long term 24/7 relationships they are rare and even rarer are those where that was the initial aim.  The majority of those progressed naturally rather than ***d.

An often failure is that people will START by looking for 24/7 and while it's good to know what they (think they) want it can cause relationships to burn out quickly.

The whole "just in the bedroom" concept is often seen as lesser, when it's not really - and - there's a lot of relationships that work on a more hybrid dynamic.  

This doesn't mean someone should compromise out what they want - but possibly addressing how realistic what they want is, particularly from a starting point.

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@eyemblacksheep "possibly addressing how REALISTIC what they want is, particularly from a Starting Point".... 🔥👍🔥

[Sire_Osiris]

In my particular case, effectively communicating my intention is not difficult. The women I engage with know what I am about from the beginning.
I've been fortunate to find women who also want a 24/7 dynamic.

[ey****]

8 hours ago, kiseu said:

@eyemblacksheep "possibly addressing how REALISTIC what they want is, particularly from a Starting Point".... 🔥👍🔥

yep - this is just it.

I wouldn't say 24/7 doesn't work because I know people who do it.  Mind. What they project how their lives are like versus what they are like there is sometimes mismatch.   

Male subs who want 24/7 usually have ideas which push a lot of responsibility onto someone else.  But also something which is often from a fantasy view point - perhaps the idea that they can either stay at home and not worry about work and housekeep and just wait for their Mistress to get back to give her a foot rub after a hard day at work while waiting for her to punish him for the bit of housework he deliberately didn't do.   Or the idea perhaps that he will go to work and come home and drop to his knees each night in front of a Mistress clad in latex, leather, whatever - and a lot is not realistic. 

Male Dominants who want 24/7 - again it's a question of how what they project is compared to the reality.  There are M/f couples I know who make things work with a lot of structure and protocol but it was things they worked towards over time - and also something they know the other *wants* not just *says they want*

Because of course then the reality is that you're suddenly faced with a lot and other aspects of life and it can leave a lot feeling burnt out.

There was someone who claimed to have had something like 10 24/7 subs in an 8 year period, never more than one at a time - but this means the average relationship length was merely months, likely that the subs were very quickly burnt out.