Switching

[ge****]

18 hours ago, weaslekit said:

I think the point that @gemini_man made very eloquently is that if this is the pattern you are experiencing perhaps there are measures that you could take to alter that. Clearly not all submissive men are experiencing this, it is possible to create a profile that attract genuinely dominant women

Thank you - too kind 😊
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I think it's a common trait on "sex sites" like this for *some* men to have the misconception that all they have to do is sign up to have their wildest fantasies come true, and then when they find those perceptions to be an errrr fantasy rather than figuring out where they could perhaps do things differently they look for anyone to blame but themselves.
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Here we have a thread where both you and kaycie have stated quite clearly you'd be open to contact of the right type from male submissives and even provided hints as to what that contact might look like, and yet I'll wager neither of you have had any/little decent contact from those that have spent the thread bemoaning their "luck" at not finding a genuine Domme - you really couldn't make it up 😀

[Mi****]

10 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

when my wife started doing online sex work they were literally doing private message exchanges.   People were paying at a cost-per-minute for text-based-chat and getting off on the chat and discussion.

When you understand this, that this is something some men are happy to pay for - you can then understand the demand/appeal to men who want to try to get it for free.

Definitely!! Cheeky buggers!!!😂😂

[Mi****]

5 hours ago, spuirt4u said:

As a female looking for conversation and Someone to possibly click with and see where it goes in real life I've come across all sorts. Subs offering themselves to me. Doms wanting to play with me. Very little meaningful conversation comes from these interactions. It's either meet up and let's play or the conversation ends. On other sites and apps I find men are looking for someone to exchange Pictures with occasionally for the purpose of scam fodder but more often than not they are real people looking for wank material. In my opinion and experience there are very few real genuine people looking for honest safe and respectful interactions online or in real life. I really feel for you and your frustrations but keep trying. Don't give up. One day you will find that Mr right who's genuine x x x and hopefully the submissive of your dreams

Ahhh that’s so sweet!! Thanks hun xx

[No****]

2 hours ago, gemini_man said:

Thank you - too kind 😊
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I think it's a common trait on "sex sites" like this for *some* men to have the misconception that all they have to do is sign up to have their wildest fantasies come true, and then when they find those perceptions to be an errrr fantasy rather than figuring out where they could perhaps do things differently they look for anyone to blame but themselves.
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Here we have a thread where both you and kaycie have stated quite clearly you'd be open to contact of the right type from male submissives and even provided hints as to what that contact might look like, and yet I'll wager neither of you have had any/little decent contact from those that have spent the thread bemoaning their "luck" at not finding a genuine Domme - you really couldn't make it up 😀

Grateful to be learning a lot from these conversations.

[Deleted Member]

Unfortunately I've noticed a lot of people do see the lifestyle as a fantasy rather than what they want in life😕 they probably see it on pornhub or something and back out when they have a chance which is annoying because people like them make things a little harder for male subs actually looking for a relationship and it's hard enough to find a Domme as it is 😔

[ey****]

16 minutes ago, Fallen_Angel_94 said:

Unfortunately I've noticed a lot of people do see the lifestyle as a fantasy rather than what they want in life😕 they probably see it on pornhub or something and back out when they have a chance which is annoying because people like them make things a little harder for male subs actually looking for a relationship and it's hard enough to find a Domme as it is 😔

when I was younger; I felt that being associated-by-design with a lot of the negative behaviours made things harder for me

now I'm older - I can understand ways this is easier.

So - I mean sure, if there's someone I like but I don't know what to say - I know I can't small talk things into conversation which makes things hard, but just by understanding what a lot of people have to deal with you can then put the effort in to step above it.
What this can also mean is that if you do get rejected - while it can still be frustrating especially if you don't get a reason - you can kinda look to continually improve yourself and just accept someone's disinterest and pick yourself up from it.

 

[ge****]

36 minutes ago, Fallen_Angel_94 said:

Unfortunately I've noticed a lot of people do see the lifestyle as a fantasy rather than what they want in life😕 they probably see it on pornhub or something and back out when they have a chance which is annoying because people like them make things a little harder for male subs actually looking for a relationship and it's hard enough to find a Domme as it is 😔

Do they make it harder though? If you're a decent person, who gets how sites like this work and makes the effort to stand out from the crowd, arguably that kind of behaviour from others would make it easier to not get tarred with the same brush as them, and be seen as someone worth getting to know.

[Deleted Member]

I have seen a lot of scammers on this site pretending to be a female Domme, so there could be some element of truth to that. But I do think a lot of guys just like the idea of it and never intend to go the distance so to speak.

[Dy****]

As a male dom, this is the same experience. I can't keep track of how many female "subs" I've been contacted by that ultimately just want to talk online and never advance.

Too many people are trying to figure out what they want, and they don't have appropriate outlets to do so without annoying others.

[Deleted Member]

Show them a photo of your strap and tell them you’ve talked long enough and it’s time to ride on it...

[ca****]

Maybe them but not me I've no *** or false excuses not to serve but a definite desire to do so now mistress

[Mi****]

6 hours ago, Qou said:

Show them a photo of your strap and tell them you’ve talked long enough and it’s time to ride on it...

Hahaha!!! Definitely!!! 👌🏻👌🏻😂

[lesdevon]

2 hours ago, kaycie said:

Hahaha!!! Definitely!!! 👌🏻👌🏻😂

Straps  dont  scare me  bring it in

[PeggableFucker]

The only thing keeping me from making your strapon's acquaintance, ladies, is the Channel. I sometimes wish I never left London.

[ca****]

I.tresting kaycie and at the same time as u make a very true point I have found to many wannabe doms playing at the *** game ie send e *** in advance and I will see what .I can do
Surely that's not a real .Dominatrix attitude and puts subs on their guard
With respect .sub

[NV****]

And I'm switching the direction?

[cd****]

To be fair there are genuine subs out there in cyber workd and are so genuine and respectful as I.e me.. i do switch but my track kink is being dominated by a women who takes control.. you have to siff through the fake people and accounts.. in time you will spot them a mile away . When you've found someone to meet just make sure you tell a friend where you are going and get the sub to give his phone number to one of your friends.. as long as you feel safe iys all good.. hope to speak to you about this if you want to.. x