NewDaddyDom Posted November 17, 2018 Posted November 17, 2018 I'm looking for somebody who can help me. My new girlfeiend is into BDSM and she is a submissive. She has several years of experience of being in service. I have years of bad infrequent vanilla sex under my belt and want to try something new. My problem is I'm unsure of my role. I'm often accused of being too nice and not overly assertive. I can be when I want to be, but my general nature is laid back. I had one BDSM experience that I participated in, but it did not go well because it was being done for the wrong reasons. Lastly because of the bad experiences I don't know what my needs or wants are other than wanting to give my girlfriend what she needs. We have to text a lot because we are currently long distance. I feel I'm already having difficulties because she pushes boundaries that I can't reign in on. I want to be a good dom, but I am starting from 1 bad expwriwnce almost a year ago. Please help.