What we need to know

[DaddyHayes]

Any man can grab a woman by her hair, throw her on the bed, and rip her clothes off. Sure he can tie her up, call her a '' or a '', and have rough with her. But that is not dominance ... that's rough, maybe even violent. If she's into it, it can even be fun but that's still not true dominance. True dominance is the ability to whisper in her ear and then observe as she obediently removes her clothing. Methodically ... one piece at a time. Watching as she kneels before you offering her entire self to you. Willingly, without hesitation or reservation. She will show you her most vulnerable self without embarrassment or shame. You will know that nothing makes her happier than making you delighted

[ma****]

For that to happen, it takes time for the trust to be built and lots of effort. Unfortunately, many wannabe doms (I use the lowercase on purpose here) have no clue of putting effort. They don't communicate, they don't create a safe space for the other person to communicate, they ignore,...and, yet, they expect someone to submit to them. They think that if they call themselves "Doms", they should only take and put no effort.

[DeviantInside]

The way I always put it is Dominance isn’t making someone submit, it’s making someone WANT to submit to you. By being the person they would want to submit to, by earning that trust, by what you do and say, by paying attention, with care and after care, with safety in mind (physical and mental), as well as being inventive/creative, having rapport, understanding their wants and needs etc, and so much more.

[Do****]

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