Smiling Doms 😀😁😈

[bb****]

Can a Dom be dominant and intimidating and flustering, but also smile?

Particularity across the subcategories of Doms and the level of lifestyle involvement, the profile pictures would seem to indicate that there is an unwritten rule that Doms shouldn't smile.....

Personally, a dominant smile can send intimidation chills down my spine.
* If you're a Dom who smiles, could we see your smile, please Sir ?
* If you're a sub, what does it do to you to see your Dom smile ?

[Deleted Member]

You can definitely smile and be a dom. Being a dom doesn’t need to mean cold, intimidating, soulless.

[en****]

Oh of course I smile. It’s not a lifestyle being dominant. It’s my nature. That’s what makes it authentic.
My sub loves to be bratty and if she oversteps I always smile without doing it on purpose. She certainly know then what’s going to come next. And then again, there are lots different smiles and quirks.

[Ed****]

Yes

[wi****]

I believe that the best dominant are those that make you feel handled but safe and one great way to make people feel safe is to show how happy you are around them so yes, Dom can and should smile

[Ki****]

I love to smile, think it conveys my enjoyment and even sadistic love of the ***/pleasure I’m causing (a good chuckle always helps too)

[Deleted Member]

being in charge doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy it ;)

[mo****]

Of course we can

[wa****]

I am a Dom who smiles mainly using a smirk as intimidation and confusion

[Ba****]

It would normally make me smile, too. Unless it's an "evil" smile (you know the type I mean. Not that the Dom is evil. Just the thoughts. Lol) then I'm getting flustered and trying to not dig myself a hole as a brat. I normally do though. Lol

[Deleted Member]

Hi bbw,
My last dom would smile. I can't say it sent chills down my spine but it did make me feel like he was enjoying our interactions. Made him real, honest.

[Tearmybuttocks]

Yes they r called narcissists b careful

[ph****]

Lifestyle Dom here with 20ish years experience, and certified goofball with 43yrs experience. My sub loves My smirk (which is usually pulled in scenes when I get rather devious ideas), and W/we smile all the time. What's the point of any of this if W/we're not having fun doing it? I, personally, don't think Doms need to be serious/stern/intimidating to get attention/interest from a sub (again, My opinion, but that says to Me that they're playing the character, not necessarily being a Dom)

[Ba****]

When playing I'm constantly grinning.... Makes the anticipation worse for my toys...

[Deleted Member]

I feel if my Dom smiles she is happy with my performance. Its kind of like a atta boy.

[Deleted Member]

I dont like my smile, I think I look dorky so don't really smile when having photos took, doesn't mean I don't smile & to connect doms as not smilining at all because they haven't smiled in a photo, is quite the leap of imagination

[Deleted Member]

21 minutes ago, Tearmybuttocks said:

Yes they r called narcissists b careful

please tell me you don’t think someone smiling indicates they are narcissists. someone DOESN’T smile is a bigger red flag than someone that does.

[Deleted Member]

31 minutes ago, Tearmybuttocks said:

Yes they r called narcissists b careful

I'd love to hear your definition how a dom smiling or not smiling makes them a narcissist

[Gi****]

I love a smiling Domme. Personally when I’m domming I’ll smile or laugh if I’m enjoying indulging someone in *** play or if they’re doing a great job for me.

[pa****]

I’m a dom but I’m still a goofy guy and love to joke and play around always. Def smile on the bedroom when my sub either does something to please me, or the reverse when she’s being bratty. The second one, because I know it’s her way of working me up and I find it to be cute. A dom doesn’t have to be this uptight d**k persona all the time

[Deleted Member]

Yes, we can. At least that's what I've been told, lol. When that primal hunger hits, or we get that sadist vibe going..😈

[Bi****]

I definitely smile outside of scenes and play, hence my profile pic. I tend to be strictly business when it's time to play though...

[Deleted Member]

The always hard never smiling persona is a quick red flag. Dominance is about trust not ***. You’ll spot fakes quickly as you get more experienced. Hope that helps.

[Va****]

Damn straight… I have smiles you’ll learn to love, and others not so much.

My smiles are on my profile, and since protocol was followed (a well placed Sir), go help yourself… and bring friend.

I come at this from a saphiosexual standpoint and if I can’t use my smile, and my eyes, to climb around in your psyche, that leaves only a low, sensual growl to play with.

It has been my experience that if I can get your mind going, your body always follows.

This is head games for me - the good kind.

[Th****]

OP I realize that you most likely wrote your post from your own pov, however Dom(mes) and subs can be any gender. 

My personal feelings are similar to those of @photogdom4subs and that there are likely a fair number of people who are putting on a character vs being their authentic selves. It seems there's a certain level of stereotyped expectation of "serious and intimidating" often brought on by what is seen in media which is often an inaccurate or poor representation, And that's why we tend to see so many of the type of photos you're referring to.