Importance of foreplay

[Deleted Member]

I'm sure most of us know how important foreplay is in both parties in the bedroom, however….

I was talking with someone (they were a man), and they were talking to me about sex and how they were asked to do foreplay but didn’t know what it was like. OMG, how? Lmao.

If you don’t know what foreplay is, please look it up. Don’t be a selfish love 😤

[br****]

Some of them are.. exhausting ☠️😂

[da****]

😬 I love foreplay. Men ☕️

[Largos]

Oh I love foreplay and sometimes even more than the actual act.

[Mi****]

Where’s the fun if you don’t spend some time getting eachother in the mood? These dam kids today…. *gesticulates in ‘old man’*

[ja****]

Foreplay is different for everyone but it is a must in any play situation. A professional athlete warms up before a game so it's like that a warm up before the big inning.

[Deleted Member]

Hmmm I agree but I'd be less inclined to take the blame if woman initiated sex more. It's a massive turn on for a woman to start this

[Deleted Member]

I find this to be common among men who strictly use women for masturbation purposes, strictly for instant gratification. There are so many like that online/apps and IRL. Fellas, don't waste our time, emotions, and oxytocin. Get a pocket pussy instead.

[yo****]

Exactly!

[ju****]

Men are not used to women communicating with them in my experiences and discussions, they also don’t know how to listen to their partners communicating with them physically. There’s also men who only think of getting themselves off, they think sex is only putting their dick in and that’s “sex.” Porn has taught men that sex is only a few positions, an orgasm, then they close the tabs. 😂

But yes. Foreplay is a requisite for me. It’s more satisfying than just putting it in and getting off.

[Deleted Member]

Foreplay is very important; sets the tone and gets you ready. Kind of like a warmup.

[Ki****]

Its important and fun

[ap****]

Foreplay is the most fun

[na****]

4play is super important, necessary and fun to me.

[Vi****]

HOW!?! I’m flabbergasted

[Deleted Member]

Well, usually in the talking stage a woman should be so into you she gets wet just by interacting with you and on that note she should jump you. Women that hookup and don't to get at this stage fail to open up emotionally to the guy and probably should not hook up with said guy. Now peting and licking for an hour will get Any One, male or female wet. Long story short the enuendo is usually enough as the guy should create enough space for her to fall in love with him. Now moving on to male issues, most women don't know how to foreplay with a guy and think sticking it in their mouth is enough. The sad reality is that quality sex is based on a connection and vulnerability and in essence ideally, the guy pulls back and the woman really really wants it. Now on the flip side you have the reverse, 30 horny guys, catcalling a woman, and one of them gets to do said foreplay. Issue with this situation is the guy is desperate and the woman is closed. This is made worse by denail, where the guy pushes and the woman refuses, conditioning him for access. I can tell you this situations never lead to love or a quality experience. Now if you're not a "f**k yes" fir the woman you should probably go somewhere else. Following this it's options and lack there of. So in short playing and foreplay need to happen naturally and your issue is that you are cerebraly enforcing on a guy conditions not related to your needs. And the guy definetly knows what foreplay is and is telling you he will not be your toy. So pick someone who picks you, dating is the worst way to establish a connection with any human being. So you frustrate the guy by asking him to slave around for sex and he frustrates you in turn by acting dumb, pretending not to know what you mean in order to get you to drop artificial requirements. To clariffy, you are asking him For effort and he is playing stupid and asking you for the same effort you require of him. So what happens when a guy gives in to demands? He becomes the oral guy and gets replaced a month later by a guy that doesen't do foreplay. Hope i cleared things up 🤗

[Deleted Member]

8 hours ago, cereal said:

Well, usually in the talking stage a woman should be so into you she gets wet just by interacting with you and on that note she should jump you. Women that hookup and don't to get at this stage fail to open up emotionally to the guy and probably should not hook up with said guy. Now peting and licking for an hour will get Any One, male or female wet. Long story short the enuendo is usually enough as the guy should create enough space for her to fall in love with him. Now moving on to male issues, most women don't know how to foreplay with a guy and think sticking it in their mouth is enough. The sad reality is that quality sex is based on a connection and vulnerability and in essence ideally, the guy pulls back and the woman really really wants it. Now on the flip side you have the reverse, 30 horny guys, catcalling a woman, and one of them gets to do said foreplay. Issue with this situation is the guy is desperate and the woman is closed. This is made worse by denail, where the guy pushes and the woman refuses, conditioning him for access. I can tell you this situations never lead to love or a quality experience. Now if you're not a "fuck yes" fir the woman you should probably go somewhere else. Following this it's options and lack there of. So in short playing and foreplay need to happen naturally and your issue is that you are cerebraly enforcing on a guy conditions not related to your needs. And the guy definetly knows what foreplay is and is telling you he will not be your toy. So pick someone who picks you, dating is the worst way to establish a connection with any human being. So you frustrate the guy by asking him to slave around for sex and he frustrates you in turn by acting dumb, pretending not to know what you mean in order to get you to drop artificial requirements. To clariffy, you are asking him For effort and he is playing stupid and asking you for the same effort you require of him. So what happens when a guy gives in to demands? He becomes the oral guy and gets replaced a month later by a guy that doesen't do foreplay. Hope i cleared things up 🤗

I think I get your point but there’s a couple issues with it. One none of my best partners has ever made me wet during talking cause frankly it’s not that simple and that’s almost the same as insisting that women don’t need foreplay at all. Second if you are not doing things that person likes « petting and licking for an hour» isn’t going to do anything at all (personally I don’t like head and giving it for anymore than a few minutes I will get bored and annoyed even with the best combos) time is not all that’s required to get someone off. Three ideally if either party pulls back the interaction pauses or stops to reassess consent immediately. Hope that’s clear.

[Deleted Member]

Yesterday at 01:40 AM, cereal said:

Well, usually in the talking stage a woman should be so into you she gets wet just by interacting with you and on that note she should jump you. Women that hookup and don't to get at this stage fail to open up emotionally to the guy and probably should not hook up with said guy. Now peting and licking for an hour will get Any One, male or female wet. Long story short the enuendo is usually enough as the guy should create enough space for her to fall in love with him. Now moving on to male issues, most women don't know how to foreplay with a guy and think sticking it in their mouth is enough. The sad reality is that quality sex is based on a connection and vulnerability and in essence ideally, the guy pulls back and the woman really really wants it. Now on the flip side you have the reverse, 30 horny guys, catcalling a woman, and one of them gets to do said foreplay. Issue with this situation is the guy is desperate and the woman is closed. This is made worse by denail, where the guy pushes and the woman refuses, conditioning him for access. I can tell you this situations never lead to love or a quality experience. Now if you're not a "fuck yes" fir the woman you should probably go somewhere else. Following this it's options and lack there of. So in short playing and foreplay need to happen naturally and your issue is that you are cerebraly enforcing on a guy conditions not related to your needs. And the guy definetly knows what foreplay is and is telling you he will not be your toy. So pick someone who picks you, dating is the worst way to establish a connection with any human being. So you frustrate the guy by asking him to slave around for sex and he frustrates you in turn by acting dumb, pretending not to know what you mean in order to get you to drop artificial requirements. To clariffy, you are asking him For effort and he is playing stupid and asking you for the same effort you require of him. So what happens when a guy gives in to demands? He becomes the oral guy and gets replaced a month later by a guy that doesen't do foreplay. Hope i cleared things up 🤗

Bro what are you babbling about? like did you even read my post? You’ve made a lot of inappropriate assumptions here lmao. Lowkey embarrassed for you. you should probably go educate yourself bud

[4R****]

51 minutes ago, Elijah108 said:

Bro what are you babbling about? like did you even read my post? You’ve made a lot of inappropriate assumptions here lmao. Lowkey embarrassed for you. you should probably go educate yourself bud

I'm not sure that response was really warranted. Everyone is entitled to respond to your post (of only 4 sentences) without being shamed or insulted for their opinion. 

[4R****]

On 7/31/2023 at 2:40 AM, cereal said:

most women don't know how to foreplay with a guy and think sticking it in their mouth is enough.

I wouldn't say "most" but certainly some do. That said, the opposite is also true. Sweeping generalisations will always incite debate. 

[Mi****]

Yesterday at 01:40 AM, cereal said:

Well, usually in the talking stage a woman should be so into you she gets wet just by interacting with you and on that note she should jump you. Women that hookup and don't to get at this stage fail to open up emotionally to the guy and probably should not hook up with said guy. Now peting and licking for an hour will get Any One, male or female wet. Long story short the enuendo is usually enough as the guy should create enough space for her to fall in love with him. Now moving on to male issues, most women don't know how to foreplay with a guy and think sticking it in their mouth is enough. The sad reality is that quality sex is based on a connection and vulnerability and in essence ideally, the guy pulls back and the woman really really wants it. Now on the flip side you have the reverse, 30 horny guys, catcalling a woman, and one of them gets to do said foreplay. Issue with this situation is the guy is desperate and the woman is closed. This is made worse by denail, where the guy pushes and the woman refuses, conditioning him for access. I can tell you this situations never lead to love or a quality experience. Now if you're not a "f**k yes" fir the woman you should probably go somewhere else. Following this it's options and lack there of. So in short playing and foreplay need to happen naturally and your issue is that you are cerebraly enforcing on a guy conditions not related to your needs. And the guy definetly knows what foreplay is and is telling you he will not be your toy. So pick someone who picks you, dating is the worst way to establish a connection with any human being. So you frustrate the guy by asking him to slave around for sex and he frustrates you in turn by acting dumb, pretending not to know what you mean in order to get you to drop artificial requirements. To clariffy, you are asking him For effort and he is playing stupid and asking you for the same effort you require of him. So what happens when a guy gives in to demands? He becomes the oral guy and gets replaced a month later by a guy that doesen't do foreplay. Hope i cleared things up 🤗

I understand what your are *trying* to say… but you buried your point under a mountain of disingenuous assumptions and false equivalencies. Any relationship should be based in respect and mutual understanding. Both parties should understand what the other wants, expects, and requires physically and emotionally. No power is lost or gained by either party engaging in any act if there is respect and understanding beforehand.

Thant being said, there are generalized societal norms that show double standards for both genders, and a negative stigma that often follows those advocating for men in the instances where they are being treated unfairly.

Women suffer unfair treatment.
Men suffer unfair treatment.
Two things can be true.

What you said, in my opinion, was basically trauma dumping your frustration about what you see as unfair expectations on men. I understand why you may think that, but you are being counterproductive in how your are voicing your feelings. If you want to have a productive conversation about any of this hit me up.

[Deleted Member]

19 minutes ago, 4RCH said:

I'm not sure that response was really warranted. Everyone is entitled to respond to your post (of only 4 sentences) without being shamed or insulted for their opinion. 

I didn’t ask for his opinion bud lmao 😂

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, Elijah108 said:

Bro what are you babbling about? like did you even read my post? You’ve made a lot of inappropriate assumptions here lmao. Lowkey embarrassed for you. you should probably go educate yourself bud

And who's making inapropriate assumptions now 🙃 on top of strawmen and ad hominem fallacies? Yesss i think that's why you missed what the guy was saying. He was saying equal effort, quid pro quo, but in a playing dumb manner. I guess i understand why, my appolagies princess, i taught you wanted an adult discussion, you were just looking for validation, forgive me

[FETMOD-BD]

1 hour ago, Elijah108 said:

I didn’t ask for his opinion bud lmao 😂

You posted in a public forum, in doing so you are inviting others to comment and give opinions - whether you "ask" for it or not is irrelevant.

[Deleted Member]

I adore giving foreplay. It us the foundation of great play, it can be kinky, sensual, sensory. Do not be shy discuss it with your partner, explore. The rewards are endless