Robbiesub Posted May 14 Speaking as an older submissive. I find virtually impossible to find a Mistress of any kind
MistressWhipplash Posted May 14 2 hours ago, Robbiesub said: Speaking as an older submissive. I find virtually impossible to find a Mistress of any kind It depends what you are seeking her for. Most guys who only want a kink service should seek a pay-to-play ProDomme.
MistressWhipplash Posted May 14 11 minutes ago, Robbiesub said: Not my thing. I like to have some kind of attachment. Other than cash Go along and socialise where kinksters are. Dominant Women rarely hang on these sites they go to drinks at a pub or a meal at a munch, an alternative markets or fetish club. Make an effort and get offline is my advice.
Robbiesub Posted May 14 Been to several of the local munches. Plenty of Dommes there all of witch bring there subs with them. Have spoken with a lot of them. Very few are looking for submissives of my age. Thank you for taking the time to advise of my options. You are very kind ❤.
ey**** Posted May 14 6 hours ago, Robbiesub said: Been to several of the local munches. Plenty of Dommes there all of witch bring there subs with them. Have spoken with a lot of them. Very few are looking for submissives of my age. Thank you for taking the time to advise of my options. You are very kind ❤. Couple of bits. Some of this is stuff I'm not saying is the case - but... an issue I see a lot of guys in general fall into is they start going to munches and events expecting a relationship/play/etc and then get disappointed when it doesn't happen - it is a slow burn but partaking is a good first step an issue I've often seen older guys run into is they particularly, for one reason or another, start chasing younger women. the reasons aren't necessarily nofarious. But age gap relationships can be difficult and can have somewhat power imbalances and, ultimately the Domme still has to see how having you as a sub would, overall, benefit her life. A sad story from a few years ago is there was a guy quite active locally, and getting a lot of play without necessarily relationships - and he DID meet someone around his own age. I think he was mid/late 60s at the time and she was 50s so not a huge age gap. But it fell apart a little cos he used as somewhat of a stopgap while still chasing younger women. So showing longetivity and long term commitment is very valuable. But also takes a lot of time to show.
ge**** Posted May 15 13 hours ago, Robbiesub said: Been to several of the local munches. Plenty of Dommes there all of witch bring there subs with them. Have spoken with a lot of them. Very few are looking for submissives of my age. Thank you for taking the time to advise of my options. You are very kind ❤. But you see that's where you've gone wrong - you've gone along in the hope of meeting a play partner rather than to network - the Dommes that attend may well have their own subs with them, but they may know of others, or might invite you along to events/parties if you take the time to get to know them, not as a potential submissive to them but as a friend. . You have to become a regular at Munches and take time to get to know people as people not targets and that then leads to more. . It did for me, and I'm not far off your age.
Robbiesub Posted May 15 Thank you all for your input. Mostly from other submissives and one Domme. I would like to have had the opinions of Dommes.
ge**** Posted May 15 1 hour ago, Robbiesub said: Thank you all for your input. Mostly from other submissives and one Domme. I would like to have had the opinions of Dommes. Surely the advice of other submissives is just as valuable though? We after all are the ones who've approached the problem from the same perspective as you.
MistressWhipplash Posted May 15 6 hours ago, Robbiesub said: Thank you all for your input. Mostly from other submissives and one Domme. I would like to have had the opinions of Dommes. Most Dominant Women don't respond here as guys take that as an opportunity to message which isn't cool.
ge**** Posted May 15 3 hours ago, Robbiesub said: Wasn't knocking submissive input. You weren't no, not directly - but the last line suggesting you'd have liked to have had the opinions of Dommes suggests either you don't value the input of fellow subs as much, or that actually you're fishing for Dommes as @MistressWhiplash indicated some do
MistressWhipplash Posted May 19 Saturday at 01:36 AM, SerbianSubBi said: Ive only been to 2 munches in my life... where are Sarnia ones? I can't even advise you where to look, as this web site Mods don't allow the mention of other sites.
Se**** Posted May 20 Well Mistress ... we can outsmart the A. I. Factor I. E. I love value village , Lun-don , great spot for cheap clothing 😃 😊
Salacious67 Posted June 20 Dating is hard these days and seems even more difficult with a kink environment. I think generally regardless of whether kink or not, especially on dating site everything is so saturated and sometimes we can’t see the wood from the trees as expectations as so high, modelled by media these day. Yes, having a some desire of what you wish to find in a person is good and yes safety is importance, of if the visible doesn’t feel right then you should always go with your instinct, however I do so think we are quick to dismiss genuinely nice potential partners because of the quick hit dopamine world we live in rather than just talking time to get to know people as humans. On a positive note, I did meet one partner on here a few years back, we where both switch at the time, however this lead to me realising my sub side was stronger and came more naturally to me… I still live in hope of finding that connection again.
Su**** Posted June 21 Being submissive and a man really sucks because I have looked and looked for my dom and I just cant find her. Im strictly straight so that removes any groupies unless its ffm. However that doesnt seem to matter because I mostly get guys hitting on me and if a woman does hit on me its usually a bot or someone who's 1785386 miles away. It is very frustrating, especially when you do get ghosted or in my case made fun of then ghosted/blocked. Im also 30 years old with a mommy dommy kink and the older I get the harder its going to be to fit into that dynamic is what im finding out 😭
Kr**** Posted June 21 (edited) @SubmissiveGingerGuy I don't want to be rude, but I'd recommend to seriously work on your profile. Put on a shirt (most women are not like "oh, a hot piece of meat. Want that!" and if you are looking for a Mommy-Dom, which means as far as I understand a close emotional connection not pure sex dates, this further reduces the likelyhood that a matching woman would find that type of picture appealing) and get a picture showing you doing something fun (not staged. Something you really enjoy and do) made by someone else. Never ever use selfies as a profile picture. Write for example about what games you like and why you like them. If you are into the interactive story aspect, enjoy certain themes or the shared cooperative experience building something creative with buddies that tells something about you that resonates even with women that don't know nothing about gaming. If you just write that you like gaming and weed the stereotypical picture of an irresponsible stoned loser screaming all day insults at little kids in Call of duty comes to mind... which I by no means want to say you are. But you draw this picture in the mind of a lot of potential partners with this profile. Good luck, man Edited June 21 by Krateros
ge**** Posted June 21 3 hours ago, Krateros said: @SubmissiveGingerGuy I don't want to be rude, but I'd recommend to seriously work on your profile. Put on a shirt (most women are not like "oh, a hot piece of meat. Want that!" and if you are looking for a Mommy-Dom, which means as far as I understand a close emotional connection not pure sex dates, this further reduces the likelyhood that a matching woman would find that type of picture appealing) and get a picture showing you doing something fun (not staged. Something you really enjoy and do) made by someone else. Never ever use selfies as a profile picture. Write for example about what games you like and why you like them. If you are into the interactive story aspect, enjoy certain themes or the shared cooperative experience building something creative with buddies that tells something about you that resonates even with women that don't know nothing about gaming. If you just write that you like gaming and weed the stereotypical picture of an irresponsible stoned loser screaming all day insults at little kids in Call of duty comes to mind... which I by no means want to say you are. But you draw this picture in the mind of a lot of potential partners with this profile. Good luck, man I'd agree with all of this and add there's absolutely nothing in your profile text about what you're looking for, or more importantly think you can offer, level of experience, whether you attend munches or events etc etc. . Honestly I'm not a bit surprised your experience doesn't live up to your desires @SubmissiveGingerGuy - and the reason for that stares back at you in the mirror every time you look at one
YegBiBtm721 Posted June 29 On 6/21/2026 at 7:48 AM, SubmissiveGingerGuy said: Being submissive and a man really sucks because I have looked and looked for my dom and I just cant find her. Im strictly straight so that removes any groupies unless its ffm. However that doesnt seem to matter because I mostly get guys hitting on me and if a woman does hit on me its usually a bot or someone who's 1785386 miles away. It is very frustrating, especially when you do get ghosted or in my case made fun of then ghosted/blocked. Im also 30 years old with a mommy dommy kink and the older I get the harder its going to be to fit into that dynamic is what im finding out 😭 Definitely understand, find tons of sub men on sites but not so many Dominant or leaning towards being dominant. And yes, a number of woman contact me but they are far away, whihc does me no good or wanting to be a fin domme. Frustrating it is and when you do think you found a match, you get ghosted. As to why is it so hard, ideas and thoughts but I guess for some reason, the other person does not feel the same way, which is fine. I think at tiems, everyone is hoping to find their prince, king, queen or princess and sometimes the loyal subject might be the perfect catch.
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