TheZenCommander Posted April 5 38 minutes ago, Boobookityfux said: Been looking for Year nothing Maybe you're not looking in the right places. We do exist.
Bo**** Posted April 5 That's make me feel little better and maybe I haven't. I'm trying diffrent placs and just got on here hoping it will help
ey**** Posted April 5 47 minutes ago, Boobookityfux said: Been looking for Year nothing where? how? cos most people say they've been looking but all they've done is send out a few messages and have a profile.
Bo**** Posted April 5 So reaching out to people and sending messages don't count. I don't know where and how to ask really. When I finally feel comfortable I try
ey**** Posted April 5 So just kinda hanging around online isn't really looking. I mean, it is an angle. But too many guys it's all they do and when they get no response they make up reasons like there's "no dominant women" or bullshit about ratios. Seek out local community, get involved and make friends - there's no garauntee anyone will want a relationship with you, but it'll quickly dispel that there aren't none. A conversation over a coffee or beer can be a good way to bounce things which could improve chances in future also. That a lot of stuff is a slow burn.
Bo**** Posted April 5 Sounds like You're just assuming that i'm claiming there's actually no one out there. Or that I have not been looking anywhere or trying.
ey**** Posted April 6 4 hours ago, Alex456 said: Where can I find dominant girls in SoCal? you don't want girls. you want women. I guess there's 11 pages on here which should give some idea.
MasterDwight Posted April 9 We all have a little bit of submission in our side. I know for me some of the things that I do. I like being done to me. But I am still in control. I can not see me fully allowing myself to go through what these women would allow you to do
Kinkyboy1980 Posted April 9 Hi, I also feel the same, I can't find anyone on here, if I do they are miles away.
Bo**** Posted April 9 Sunday at 10:13 AM, eyemblacksheep said: again, where? how? Again, multiple ways, online communities, forums, in person. I'm my town city and state. Through methods online and offline. I don't know how much more you'd want to know, but you don't seem to have anything positive help to give. You could always help not try to hurt. Assuming or criticism isn't helpful nor is arguing or attacking. J reached out because I clearly would like to find or learn how. I guess this is not a place to ask or be I formed. This type of interaction definitely makes me think twice about ever asking or speaking out again. Call me a liar, tell me it's easy, or I don't put effort in . . .etc. Thanks for scaring me away. Something I'm already uneasy and nervous 😓 about anyway doesn't have to make it worse.
ey**** Posted April 10 7 hours ago, Boobookityfux said: I don't know how much more you'd want to know, but you don't seem to have anything positive help to give. You could always help not try to hurt. Assuming or criticism isn't helpful nor is arguing or attacking. I think something Firstly - when anyone is "I've looked and there aren't any Dominant Women" it does always set up so many red flags of - like, how?! Especially if it's someone who has been around a bit. I guess it's hugely difference of course if there is an acknowledgement of Dominant women - but an individual has been unable to find what they crave (be it a relationship, play, whatever) - and there's a lot of threads like this and other which do have plenty of advice. I took a look at your profile and without wanting to seem negative - in big letters at the top a simple "Peg me" - this kinda screams that your main interest is the act of the fetish rather than finding a Dominant partner, especially coupled with a basic profile. Profile writing is difficult, for sure, but especially if you've been about a bit there's little excuse to not take some time to work on things a little especially if you're not getting the results you crave. Now, it's not easy to find a partner - of course - but it is a case of often looking at what is working or not. you know what I've found works - consistency. Turning up to kink spaces with a view to make friends, treat people as friends first. If something doesn't happen, well you have friends. Equally using online spaces as an extension of real life and using it as more than trying to meet people. Patience is one of your greatest tools here - but that isn't sitting around and hoping for the best - but accepting things will take time and work. If something isn't working, then looking at where you may need to tweak or change direction.
sl**** Posted April 12 Yes its not easy finding a dominant woman and yes patience is the key I met 3 mistresses none of which worked out.id even been scammed but eventually I met a Miatress and things clicked so far Mistress and I are almost a matched set everything's going smoothly the dynamics are working and I ts a new Game now
Kinkyboy1980 Posted April 13 (edited) There is hope for us searching for one. I'm demoralised by it all tbh. Edited April 13 by Kinkyboy1980
bo**** Posted April 15 Is it really that difficult to find a woman that enjoys making a man look, act, and pleasure horny men like a real woman?
Kinkyboy1980 Posted April 15 Yes it is. I just messaged someone who I thought was a match and they declined me. No explanation whatsoever. Have I got 2 heads? It's so demoralising.
MistressWhipplash Posted Thursday at 01:43 AM (edited) I decline a guy if all he seeks is a free kink service. Book and pay a ProDomme. Be clean and polite when you book her services. Getting random play varies from country to country, most won't be sexual so no anal or touching your pink bits. Women aren't here for you. A Dominant Woman is the boss of her own time and decides if, where and when a first date, relationship then play starts. If you solely want play seek a play partner at Club Pedestal in London. Plenty of Sadism and masochism there, where she does impact on your skin IF she chooses to. Buy her a drink and be nice. Be declined and remain polite. If a guy shows his bare lower boy parts, or solely seeks in the bedroom I block as I don't seek that surface level sex only waste of my time. I call them fuckboys and don't bother. Pointless chatting to a guy who isn't compatible. Guys read a profile BEFORE you message a random stranger. Edited Thursday at 01:49 AM by MistressWhipplash
Kinkyboy1980 Posted Thursday at 07:39 AM Mistress Whipplash, I seek a relationship, I don't just want a one off encounter. I've been on other sites and ended up getting scammed by imposters. I understand that most men are arrogant and have no respect for dommes or women in general. That's not me, I love all women and what they do and go through. I can't even have a conversation on here with woman. Only last night I was blocked by someone I started chatting with because I removed a photo of myself she liked. I've been on this site now 3 weeks and I find it demoralising. I may aswell be invisible.
ge**** Posted Thursday at 07:49 AM 10 minutes ago, Kinkyboy1980 said: Mistress Whipplash, I seek a relationship, I don't just want a one off encounter. I've been on other sites and ended up getting scammed by imposters. I understand that most men are arrogant and have no respect for dommes or women in general. That's not me, I love all women and what they do and go through. I can't even have a conversation on here with woman. Only last night I was blocked by someone I started chatting with because I removed a photo of myself she liked. I've been on this site now 3 weeks and I find it demoralising. I may aswell be invisible. A few thoughts for you - firstly trying to find a partner through sites like this is probably the hardest way to do so, especially in this swipe right/swipe left generation. . So your profile takes on importance to attract people - having looked at yours there's nothing wrong with it per se, but it does come across slightly as being about what you want, rather than what you can offer - it's also very much about what your kinks are, rather than including a little about yourself and your character - so maybe make some adjustments there. . Coming back to my original point though, I've spent many years on sites like this with varying degrees of "success" but without ever finding what I am looking for really - until that is I stepped away from the keyboard and started attending Munches and kink events - since I did my circle of kink friends and contacts has expanded hugely and I've had a lot more interaction with people. . Located where you are you have various options for both events and Munches - I'd seriously recommend getting along to some not with a view to meeting "the one" but to expand your network and who knows what it might lead to.
Ph**** Posted Thursday at 08:08 AM Submissive cd wanting to be feminized and kept by mistress or cupple would be loyal obedient and above all submissive and graceful to whom ever takes me away
MistressWhipplash Posted Thursday at 08:51 AM 1 hour ago, Kinkyboy1980 said: Mistress Whipplash, I seek a relationship, I don't just want a one off encounter. I've been on other sites and ended up getting scammed by imposters. I understand that most men are arrogant and have no respect for dommes or women in general. That's not me, I love all women and what they do and go through. I can't even have a conversation on here with woman. Only last night I was blocked by someone I started chatting with because I removed a photo of myself she liked. I've been on this site now 3 weeks and I find it demoralising. I may aswell be invisible. Nothing in your profile shows what you offer as a person in a Woman focused relationship. Unfortunately your profile is solely about what you want online. Online for a Dominant Woman is boring. Boring attracts scammers for you to pay for your kink service. On fetlife, there are social events near you. I recommend you attend a munch and eventually a play party as a bottom for a while to get your kink jollies. Don't seek a relationship when your profile is geared to solely playtime. Be honest and go play. It is quite common for newbies to initially be play bottoms at fetish clubs, then eventually make a decision later about where they are in the kink arena. Be honest and go to munches etc. The BBB is in Birmingham is popular, offer to setup and take down playkit and get known as helpful and friendly, without pushing what you want. Overtime you'll click with someone if you're not a fuckboy.
MistressWhipplash Posted Thursday at 08:57 AM 48 minutes ago, Phoenixsubsissy said: Submissive cd wanting to be feminized and kept by mistress or cupple would be loyal obedient and above all submissive and graceful to whom ever takes me away Often, but not always, those who crave to be dressed - it's all about them and their dressing service they want. Frankly it's a turn off. Join TvChix and dress with other folk who like to share that fun. There are also professional dressing service providers who include a photoshoot at the end. I recommend you join that excellent site. They also have groups for emotional support too and dating sections too.
MistressWhipplash Posted Thursday at 09:01 AM 1 hour ago, Kinkyboy1980 said: Mistress Whipplash, I seek a relationship, I don't just want a one off encounter. I've been on other sites and ended up getting scammed by imposters. I understand that most men are arrogant and have no respect for dommes or women in general. That's not me, I love all women and what they do and go through. I can't even have a conversation on here with woman. Only last night I was blocked by someone I started chatting with because I removed a photo of myself she liked. I've been on this site now 3 weeks and I find it demoralising. I may aswell be invisible. 3 weeks isn't long to be honest. Go socialise offline and go to a few munches and alternative markets to chat to other kinksters. Many lifestyle Dominant Woman avoid online and instead go to kink events listed on Fetlife. Sure you can stay online, but you'll join the huge band of online kinksters who ask, "Where da Mistresses at?" Answer: At munches and events laughing.
MistressWhipplash Posted Thursday at 09:11 AM Before seeking anyone think about your intent and make that super clear. For example, a guy seeks fetish play only then he goes to a fetish clubs for non-sexual fetish play. If he seeks a pegging service he either buys anal kit and self-satisfies or politely hires a ProDomme and pays for that service, remembering that pegging is anal sex. So many guys thinks, "Mistress" means kink service provider for him. Nope. He behaves with manners his mother gave him and treats her with manners and respect. Talking non-kink as at least the first four topics. Don't want to do that? Then it's your loss, you'll get blocked as she will look at your do-me profile and block you.
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