You're not doing anything wrong. It's a common frustration for Dommes. Men think eating 😺 is submissive. They think asking for their needs to be met is submissive. But really, they're just uneducated in the lifestyle. They're looking for kinky encounters and instead of offering submission they Read more… are topping from the bottom.

:1778253856,6491237, There must be consent by both parties w a very detailed conversation about the situation and circumstances to a great detail and mutual agreement between both parties must be there and clearly communicated. Without having that it could be misinterpreted or Read more… misunderstood by either of you and may be *** in its truest form. Which is why as a Dom male I find it very interesting so many wanna have these discussions online and be treated like a slut without having those discussions about the details and circumstances at hand. I understand it’s all in fun but you’re allowing people to do things to you online that you’d never allow in real life then you’re kidding yourself because you’re telling men it’s okay. When they meet someone in real life they do what they’ve learned here then they find themselves in trouble so I’d say treat them equally and hold them to the same standards on both counts. Just my 2 cents

I think you severely underestimate the amount of men on here that pretend to be women.

But also, there is NOTHING A WOMAN CAN SAY OR DO OR WEAR THAT JUSTIFIES ASS4ULT! Period.

If you believe that being vocally sexual in what they think is a safe place is a reason for vi0lence, then you too are part of the problem.

Let me say something that might help.....

People should report, AND reporting is not effective enough to be the whole solution to the problem. Both are true.

You're failing to hear or acknowledge the experience of people who have lived it.

:1778015704,5019263, “I feel like” blah blah - my friend was ***ed by her partner last weekend, so thats why i was talking to men

It seems youre more interested in perpetuating r@pe culture…but, weak men bow in submission to violent ignorant men…but we see your virtue Read more… signaling to males.

Sending so much love and healing to you. What a terrible tragedy. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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I didn't say anything to her because she is a woman struggling with her own trauma in her own way. I have a lot of empathy for that struggle. Many of us know it well. But you, you have shown your teeth. We know Read more… what kind of guy you are. You're not an ally, you're not a nice guy, and you're not safe. You're the wolf in sheep's clothing that we all know so well already. But you don't want to look at that so you lash out at me for telling you systems are flawed, not enough. You twist my words to fit your narrative. What will you do, how will you act when this kind of tragedy falls on your doorstep? You'll tell your daughter, ***, cousin to go report and when they come back still feeling unsafe, you'll talk to them like this? What would it take for you to stop and listen to women?

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Neither @TheZenCommander nor I suggested to anyone that they do not make use of Clares law nor did we make a blanket statement that it doesn't work. What we said was, it has its faults, shouldnt be relied upon and quite frankly it Read more… shouldn't be required in the first place. Men should be able to act like decent people.

Out of interest, how many women have you worked with/supported that have experienced male v1olence be that DA or SA. What's your experience of such incidents that gives you so much insight into VAWG to feel so confident in shouting people with that experience down?

The reason VAWG is so prevalent is that women and g1rls are not listened to, not believed and the voice of the male is still louder than ours as evidenced within this thread where you have a man clearly displaying misogynistic/violent behaviour towards others and no apparent comeuppance evident.

👏👏👏 100%

:1777950402,7022728, The zen commander not near hot enough to matter lol, I do care, I never would hurt a woman and I teach my boys to always respect women, My daughter knows If anyone hurts her I will take care of it, my point is, This post is allllll about the author showing Read more… 'what a swell guy he is". Zen commander you are obviously full of man hate, keep it to yourself "Zen commander " lol what a joke, real men will defend and honor real women and teach our kids as well, I love that Zen commander checked me out them blocked me, I'm not awful, U just see through BS post, sorry I'm smarter than you oh fem gawd

One must go to someone's profile to block them. I didn't check you out. you exposed yourself, so I simply made sure you can never appear in my DMs. But please, keep exposing what a nice guy you are here. 🤣 I'm sure the other ladies reading this are swarming to your inbox with excitement.

:1777914480,7022728, I feel like the author is virtue signalling, "hey I'm a good guy, I'm concerned about these darn men!". News flash, don't do it and teach your kids not to do it. My ex got arrested for hitting my whole I was holding our child so stop making it a toxic male Read more… thing, grow up, this post is nothing about awareness and more about "awwww he cares!"

But you took the opportunity to show us that you don't care. "Grow up" he says. Which is what? The opposite of virtue signaling? Showing us how awful you are? Thanks. Now we know to avoid you too.

:1777711514,4630267, I dunno, fellas. I get that a man can be ***d by a man, but you guys are talking about being ***d by a woman, right? I have questions… but I’m going to let it go and assume you just handled the trauma well enough to get a chubby and do the deed.

As a man, Read more… I am never concerned about meeting a woman I met online. If I am worried about anything, it’s some kind of setup involving a man she is in cahoots with. I am also curious about all this female on male DV.. I think we can all agree that men are generally larger and stronger. If I am being wrongfully attacked by a woman she is going to be pacified with *** if that is the only way, and then I’m calling the police myself to haul her off.

Which brings me to my next point… people need to start trusting the police and calling on them at the first sign of trouble. They’re ordinary people doing an important and hard and dangerous and unappreciated job. If everyone called the police and pressed charges like they know they should, we probably wouldn’t be having this discussion. Because all the DV folks would be behind bars and when they got out, they’d know they’re going back the first time they hit a woman.. that is, in a world where everyone calls the police and presses charges. Not the world we live in, unfortunately.

That is not to say I am without sympathy for the victims. Some men out there have been practicing the art of manipulation since puberty, and they’ve gotten pretty good at it. I’ve known sociopaths like this, and I’ve known the women they victimized, and the women cannot be held at fault in any way shape or form. Yes, teach your daughters what to look out for, but it only goes so far. There is no way to detect these wolves in sheep’s clothing. They are good at concealing their intentions and have had a long time to hone their craft. And I’m sure they are skilled at getting their female counterparts to drop charges as well. That is one way to combat this tho.. call the police, and press charges. Every time. Don’t take matters into your own hands. Don’t attempt to dispense vigilante justice, and do not commit the sin of silence. Pick up the phone dial 911 and resolve yourself to pressing charges. Get these people locked up and in the criminal justice system. Don’t let yourself carry the guilt of hearing about how they victimized another person after you because you didn’t press charges when you could have.

Reporting seems like such a viable option in theory, but in reality it doesn't work like that. And yes, men can be r@ped. The body responds to stimuli, even against our will. So let's not use this to victim blame in any direction.

But the point of the conversation isn't what should women do to seek justice. The op asked what are men doing to help mitigate the issue amongst themselves. And leaving it to us to seek justice isn't answering that question or the desparate societal need for men to hold each other accountable.

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Wild. How about those of us who aren’t doing those terrible things?? Aren’t we mitigating it just by being who we are? Disappointing really when you all have had fathers/brothers/uncles/nephews/sons who haven’t done it and are still Read more… lumped into the same crowds who are terrible people. But I digress, what do I know? Lol

But look how terrible you are with even your words. Even your words express *** and disdain for women. Dismissive and misogynistic. No empathy or desire to understand or mitigate the issue. Clearly we see you're not aligned with us. you just want to exert your *** and h@te in a space that is asking for solutions. Poisonous.