Rules for your subs

June 5, 2024

23 minutes ago, doubletrouble129 said:

😂 I can always count on one of you 3 ladies to say something educational or hilarious 👍🏿😆

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We have to keep ourselves entertained somehow 😉 💁🏻‍♀️

June 5, 2024

40 minutes ago, doubletrouble129 said:

😂 I can always count on one of you 3 ladies to say something educational or hilarious 👍🏿😆

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Or both! Sometimes both!

June 6, 2024

12 hours ago, QXX666 said:

First of all, manners are important!! We all are happy to answer as much as we can but adding a please and thank you would show some respect.
Secondly, rules are différents, depending what kind of Ds relationship you are into, and also personal. Work that out with your dom…
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At what point where you invited to en*** rules?
You seem to have forgotten the OP is not your sub. How you apply your rules to your own submissive is yours to dictate - however this space isn’t that.
So, you are correct - manners are important… so, please, perhaps you could remember to use them in this open, public space where you are an equal, not a Dominant.
Thank you

June 6, 2024

I don’t have “rules” we are a married couple and he does ask for respect as he does for me!

June 6, 2024

Personally, I wouldn’t like my sub presenting rule ideas to me 😂

June 6, 2024

23 minutes ago, PervyPenelope said:

Personally, I wouldn’t like my sub presenting rule ideas to me 😂

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Right?

Only if I specifically asked them to.

Edited June 6, 2024 by ThaliaV

June 6, 2024

Not sure if it’s helpful, but if I could have rules in a D/s relationship, these are the ones I would want:

- Light / safe sleeping bondage requirements nightly

- Politely ask permission to do essentially anything

- Daily required hypnosis sessions for brainwashing

- Regular body inspections

- Chores with a catch (sweep with ankles shackled together, dishes with a ball gag, etc.)

June 6, 2024

18 hours ago, QXX666 said:

First of all, manners are important!! We all are happy to answer as much as we can but adding a please and thank you would show some respect.
Secondly, rules are différents, depending what kind of Ds relationship you are into, and also personal. Work that out with your dom…
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You firstly said you were happy to answer as much as you can, but then you go on to say you won’t answer and OP should go back to their Dom with this question. 🤷🏻‍♀️

June 6, 2024

2 minutes ago, adrenalina75 said:

You firstly said you were happy to answer as much as you can, but then you go on to say you won’t answer and OP should go back to their Dom with this question. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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No, Oxxys requirement is manners and respectfulness before they will answer the OPs question 😉

June 6, 2024

5 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

No, Oxxys requirement is manners and respectfulness before they will answer the OPs question 😉

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That’s not what his reply says. It says please and thank you would show respect. Not that please and thank you are required before answering the question. ☺️

June 6, 2024

8 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

No, Oxxys requirement is manners and respectfulness before they will answer the OPs question 😉

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Sorry. Did I miss sarcasm here?

June 6, 2024

27 minutes ago, adrenalina75 said:

Sorry. Did I miss sarcasm here?

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Yeah 😁

June 6, 2024

9 hours ago, PervyPenelope said:

Personally, I wouldn’t like my sub presenting rule ideas to me 😂
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Well when I’m asked to inquire some input or feedback for inspiration by my dom I’m going to 😇

June 6, 2024

18 minutes ago, subbaby1117 said:

Well when I’m asked to inquire some input or feedback for inspiration by my dom I’m going to 😇

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Seems to me your dom wants you to do all the work. To be honest the more your dom cares the more they will wanna be involved. Having you practically make your own rules is ridiculous! As a dom my rules are for particular reasons and geared specifically tword my subs life, goals, and aspirations. They are to help her become the best version of herself…
And let’s be honest if she could do that on her own she wouldn’t need my help.
So IMO your dom is either new to the lifestyle, lazy, or doesn’t care much for you…
Which would have me questioning why would I submit to someone that’s going to half ass their part and expect me to give my all! Sorry to put it so bluntly but it’s just the truth. You may be a submissive but to earn true submission takes care and effort…
It’s still a relationship of reciprocity especially with all the trust that comes with owning someone.
I’d find someone who deems your submission worthy of earning it and putting in the effort to show u matter, outside the bedroom

June 6, 2024

17 minutes ago, subbaby1117 said:

Well when I’m asked to inquire some input or feedback for inspiration by my dom I’m going to 😇

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That's good but there's no indication in your OP of that being the case.

June 6, 2024

5 minutes ago, DaddysHere2please said:

Seems to me your dom wants you to do all the work. To be honest the more your dom cares the more they will wanna be involved. Having you practically make your own rules is ridiculous! As a dom my rules are for particular reasons and geared specifically tword my subs life, goals, and aspirations. They are to help her become the best version of herself…
And let’s be honest if she could do that on her own she wouldn’t need my help.
So IMO your dom is either new to the lifestyle, lazy, or doesn’t care much for you…
Which would have me questioning why would I submit to someone that’s going to half ass their part and expect me to give my all! Sorry to put it so bluntly but it’s just the truth. You may be a submissive but to earn true submission takes care and effort…
It’s still a relationship of reciprocity especially with all the trust that comes with owning someone.
I’d find someone who deems your submission worthy of earning it and putting in the effort to show u matter, outside the bedroom

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It may be your truth. Some people prefer to make decisions jointly, and if that's the case, it makes neither a lesser individual in whatever role they take on for themselves.

June 6, 2024

10 hours ago, ThaliaV said:

Right?

Only if I specifically asked them to.

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Yes, absolutely!!

June 6, 2024

1 hour ago, subbaby1117 said:

Well when I’m asked to inquire some input or feedback for inspiration by my dom I’m going to 😇

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If you’re asked to, then sure, why not!!

June 6, 2024

18 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

Oh Oxxy, I've missed you!!

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Thanks CK, me too that’s why I came back. But looks like same old….

June 6, 2024

21 hours ago, adrenalina75 said:

She is not your sub.

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Who said so??

June 6, 2024

20 hours ago, ThaliaV said:

Ew... no. They aren't *your* submissive and this is a public forum, not a protocol space or event so vanilla rules apply for social interactions. The OP was not in any way disrespectful in their post.

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In what way I said she was my sub?? Yes it’s a public forum and as such manners should prevail.
her post was rude in the way she ask to dish out solutions for her…

if you like people talk to you in this manner it’s up to you but not everyone…

June 6, 2024

Give you “task” for the day. Small to big and give a “time to complete” for a little razzle dazzle

June 6, 2024

3 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

It may be your truth. Some people prefer to make decisions jointly, and if that's the case, it makes neither a lesser individual in whatever role they take on for themselves.

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Where is this being made jointly, he’s telling her to find her own rules. Any submissive I’ve had we go over than and are in agreement with everything BEFORE they are put into place. We are BOTH included; but this sounds like she’s being made to do most of the work, and you’re sticking up for that? Not once did I say that I don’t include my sub, but putting the time in to do my part is the effort that shows her I care!

June 6, 2024

8 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

Yeah 😁

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Duh! Oops 😆

June 6, 2024

45 minutes ago, DaddysHere2please said:

Where is this being made jointly, he’s telling her to find her own rules. Any submissive I’ve had we go over than and are in agreement with everything BEFORE they are put into place. We are BOTH included; but this sounds like she’s being made to do most of the work, and you’re sticking up for that? Not once did I say that I don’t include my sub, but putting the time in to do my part is the effort that shows her I care!

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Hello kettle, I'm pot.
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Where does it say that this isn't a 'task' hrs given her?
Where does it say that they won't discuss them after she has the ideas?
Where does it say that she'll cherrypick only the ones she likes and disregard those she doesn't?
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I'm sticking up for people who choose to live their own relationship as opposed to those that follow something set in stone or the same old ashit everyone else does 👍