Are you a strong, mature, and masculine men who dreams of submitting to the power of a confident woman?

I’m a mature, self-aware Dominant woman who values depth, presence, honesty, emotional intelligence. I seek a deep emotional, intellectual, and physical connection with my man. Not interested in surface-level play or fantasy-only dynamics.
For me, D/s is an emotional practice: clarity, honesty, and willingness to grow. My style is calm, grounded dominance, not theatrics. I'm very warm and loving, but strict.
You'll feel my control in your body, in your mind, in the way you start structuring your day around pleasing me. That's not discipline, that's devotion.

I'm not looking for a boy to play with — I'm looking for a man who knows the joy of serving a woman, not because he is weak, but because he is strong and aware. The best suitable men's age for me is 35-45.
I love order, attention to detail, a taste for rituals, and the ability to anticipate without words.
If the word “service” sounds like art to you, maybe we should talk.

I'm a Counsellor. I understand power dynamics deeply, both professionally and personally. In my private life, I'm looking for a man for a long-term D/s relationship. I lead a healthy lifestyle, like art, theatre, and live music.

If this resonates, write to me. I'd like to know:
– Who are you?
– What do you do?
– Where you live and what your life looks like
– What pulls you toward submission
– What you're looking for in a D/s relationship
– How you imagine serving, and what you hope to receive in return

If you're that man, don't wait. Thoughtful answers matter more than fast ones.
I choose carefully, but when I choose, I invest deeply.

BDSM Play Partner31 to 47 years ● 50km around UK London
BDSM/Fetish Family5km around UK London

(I am new here, Idk wtf I am doing, please 🐻 with me)
(No Men, honestly not interested) 🥱



Hey! 😀 🏳️‍🌈
Thank you for clicking on my post, please read through the whole thing if you are contacting me... I would really appreciate that :) Here's a potato for you 🥔

Looking for AFAB, i really have no preference for gender identity and I have nothing against trans folks... I just have weird brain cells that I myself don't understand, it's a weird life. I am sorry if its yucky but I don't know how to explain it. Don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I am sorry if I am. I have no preference for body size/shape etc. No preference for Masc/Fem :) Just be a honest person. 🥰

This is for IRL (In Real Life) relationship... If you are in Chicago! Amazing! If you are nearby and willing to meet, amazing! I am not really looking for "online only relationship". 🥰


🍄 # Who the heck is this person? 🍄

So, ummmm... Hi... I am Alex. 32 F.

  • Sapiosexual (Brains and Intellectual connection is important to me) 🧠
  • Demisexusl (Emotional connection is also extremely important to me, I am extremely empathic) 💙
  • Nerdy! I guess that's self explanatory :) 🤓
  • Ambivert? But more of an Introvert. I am shy and quiet untill I get comfortable with you and then you will have to order me to stop talking lol 😆
  • I can spend everyday with you if you are one of my friend / loved ones... But strangers / casual friends... Meeting them drains me out and my social battery depletes really quickly. 😭
  • Love Computers. Honestly, don't wanna brag but I am kinda good at them and everything computers just come to me easily. 🖥️
  • Read a book, have a lazy weekend, spend cozy time, explore the city and earth over parties anyday! (I enjoy spending quality time, making memories, doing meaningful stuff over parties n clubbing... Crowds drain me) 📚
  • Extremely brutally honest, honestly can't lie to save my life. 🤔


    🍄 # Day to day life 🍄

    Masc presenting, cis Female :) (Golden Retriever Masc according to Tiktok lol)

  • Have my head in one or another project all the time.
  • Programming, Art, Science, Maths 😭, Animation, Development...
  • Games, Sports (Wanna join the Boxing club), Music (can't live without it), SPACE, History, Food, Mythology, Chess, Board Games, Books, DIY, Crafts etc.
  • Sleeping 😴


    🍄 # The Kink side of life 🍄

  • Sub :) Identifies as Natural Sub, don't do it for the heck of it and kicks or what not. Need BDSM in my life to be content.
  • Been into it since I was a *** (stumbled on wrong websites lol) actively practicing it since 2017.
  • Into Lifestyle BDSM. It's not a game for me. I love the lifestyle. I take it seriously.
  • Masochist.
  • I have too many kinks and kinks change as per person... Will not write them here as a shopping list. Can be discussed in private.
  • I am willing to try everything once or thrice just to be sure if its for me or not unless it's an absolute hard limit.
  • Limits are extremely important to be respected at all times and must not be broken. Unless discussed otherwise.
  • Safe words and Aftercare is extremely important to me.
  • SSC and everything sane that comes under the umbrella.


    🍄 # What I am looking for :) 🍄

    A Domme / A Mistress (or whichever salutations you prefer :))

  • Honest ❤️
  • Trustworthy ❤️
  • Strict ❤️
  • Soft ❤️
  • Caring ❤️
  • Can be a Friend 😄
  • Open to Dating ❤️
  • An eventual partner ❤️
  • Donut Bonus if there's Attraction 🧲
  • Basically someone who is also looking to be a friend, domme and be a partner ❤️
  • Someone who is NOT an Asshole and resort to ghosting, manipulation, , mind fuck, drama, non-sense dom bullshit etc. (been through that, just leave me alone.) 🤷

    I don't want to be a mindless robot sub/slave/pet/toy/girl etc. The one that you come to when you are bored, have nothing better to do and ignore otherwise. I have been with awful doms and dommes, Sadly, I now know exactly what I have to avoid... Even the ones who look like angels are just spineless demons in disguise. I hate that people take so much advantage on name of submission... Honestly, please spare me if you are gonna do that... Target someone else please. 🤷

    I am an intellectual :) I am an empath... When i give myself to someone, I give myself completely... I don't know how to do things the half way... Its all or nothing. I devote so much of myself to my doms that honestly for the right person it can be amazing. Lemme care for you and make your life easier and make you happy :) Tell you all about space and science and computers and whatever the heck is topic of the day...
    I can make you any art or videos you want :) My phone is full of memes and thoughtful videos... Let's be friends and explore this life together! ❤️

    Be someone who can care for me be my friend but at same time won't hesitate to put me in my place if I am out of line. ❤️

    Let's go on dates :) Lemme cherish you and treat you like royalty :) You know you deserve it ❤️

    Honestly, if we click... It can be amazing ❤️

    Let's take this slow and see if we click and if we like the idea of each other... Who knows... Maybe this can be start of something beautiful ❤️

    NOT looking for poly. Done with that bullshit. Got only
    d in that scenario multiple times. 🤷

    NOT looking for short term. 🤷


    🍄 # Read all that? 🍄

    Well! We are almost done :)
    Somethings to keep in mind...

  • Tired of multiple platforms so, I will ask you to move to Dscrd once I feel comfortable.
  • I will ask you to verify by my personal method (after a while)... All sfw. If you are not okay with verifying... Please don't reach out. Idk about you but I don't wanna be catfished. It's good for both of us to get this out of the way.
  • I will reply to messages as I see them. I might not be able to reply instantly, please be patient.
  • Don't expect me to sub for you in first 11 minutes. Or a week. I am gonna take this slow. If you can't take this slow. Don't bother contacting me.
  • I am not a newbie. Just because you ars a dom doesn't mean you are automatically correct. Just makes you an asshole. If you have "I am a dom only I know better" ideology, please with all due respect fck off.
  • My bullshit radar is actually pretty good. So, honestly don't bother.
  • I was in an awful d/s relationship few months ago... My friends made me realise (after it ended) that it was actually hella bad one... So, I am healing and I might not be at my 100% right now. But I plan to give my all to you as much as I can.


    🍄 # How to reach out :)🍄

    Send a chat request with these things included... So that I know you can give me courtesy of at least agreeing to my tiny request of being Dmed in a certain way... Which just adds to the fact that if you can do this I can also take in account that you might also follow my request to respect my limits...

  • Your favorite planet/celestial body. Why did you choose that planet/celestial body?
  • Your Age, Sex, Location.
  • Why have you decided to message me?
  • A little info about you :) You just read a whole essay about me, I want to know a bit of you too :)

    🍄🍄

    That's all :) Only looking for IRL, or hybrid... As long as you are willing to meet a lot in real life. A LOT.
    Not just online.

    Please be around my age or age can be just a number.

    Have an amazing week!

    p.s. please only contact me if you are serious. 🍄

Kinky Date18 to 80 years ● 500km around USA Chicago
NSA18 to 80 years ● 145km around USA Keller

I am a confident, experienced Domme who thrives on control, structure, and intensity. Power exchange for me is not a game—it’s an art, a connection built on trust, devotion, and discipline. I command respect, and I give clarity, direction, and care in return.

I am seeking a genuine submissive—someone who finds fulfillment in surrender, obedience, and devotion. Loyalty is non‑negotiable; if you are not ready to give yourself fully, do not waste my time. What I offer in return is a clear structure, my guidance, and the stability of a relationship where roles are truly respected.
What I Value in a Submissive

Complete honesty and loyalty

Willingness to learn, grow, and accept discipline

Politeness, attentiveness, and eagerness to serve

Emotional openness and the ability to build lasting trust

About You

You crave structure and feel centered when boundaries and rules guide you. You understand that service is an honor, not a burden. Whether through obedience, personal tasks, discipline, or deeper forms of surrender, your pleasure comes from pleasing me.
What I Offer

A strict but caring hand to guide and mold you

Genuine power exchange rooted in trust, not games

A mix of discipline, training, and rewards for earned devotion

Space for emotional, mental, and physical growth under my direction

If you are truly ready to surrender, step forward with respect and authenticity. In return, you’ll discover the satisfaction of serving a strong, commanding woman who knows exactly what she wants.

Pro-Dom/me Session33 to 75 years ● 150km around USA Nashville

I am a confident, experienced Dominant who thrives on control, structure, and the art of power exchange. In and out of the scene, I value intelligence, respect, and loyalty—and I expect the same devotion from those who wish to serve me. My style is assertive yet intentional: I command with both authority and care, knowing that true submission flourishes under trust and clarity.

I enjoy exploring a wide range of kinks—from ritualistic discipline and protocol training to *** play and psychological dominance. I believe in balance: I take pleasure in pushing limits, but never at the expense of safety or trust.

What I’m Looking For
I seek a genuine, loyal submissive who understands that service is not just an act, but a mindset. I want someone willing to dedicate time and attention to becoming the best version of themselves under my guidance. Obedience, consistency, and communication are non‑negotiable.

Qualities I value in a sub:

A natural desire to please and surrender control

Reliability and honesty

Readiness to learn and grow under training

Emotional maturity and patience

Dynamics I Enjoy
Protocols & rituals (daily check‑ins, tasks, structured rules)

Tease and denial, edging, psychological control

Discipline (spanking, impact play, corrective measures)

Service-oriented submission (domestic service, personal tasks)

Worship (body, feet, clothing, or symbolic objects)

Hard limits: Non-consensual harm, unsafe practices, dishonesty, disobedience.

What You Can Expect From Me
You will receive guidance, structure, and the satisfaction of knowing you belong to someone who values your devotion. In return, you’ll find discipline, challenge, and pleasure in service. I reward obedience and dedication with my attention and care, while failure or disrespect has consequences.

Looking for a loyal sub

BDSM Play Partner25km around USA Rockwall

If your goal is quick hookups, casual meetups, or free-flowing erotic content—I am not your playground. I will not be sending photos or videos for your entertainment. If that’s all you’re after… scroll on. [addition: this is a hard limit for me, anyone requesting photos will be blocked. I will choose when and at what stage i am happy to progress to sharing my irl life with an online dynamic, if this is not acceptable, then do not engage]

For those still reading: I am happy to engage in remote toy play, though I am not seeking in-person meetings in the near future. If the dynamic, relationship, or interactions ever reached a point where meeting in person or sharing media became relevant, that could be discussed—but only if I feel a genuine connection worth sharing.

I am a fully submissive woman with strong masochistic tendencies, craving the nuanced interplay of intellectual and physical dominance from a partner who may be a sadist, a Daddy, or a Sir/Master. I thrive in dynamic, mentally stimulating interactions where words, gestures, and intent carry weight, where obedience is never hollow, and commands are meaningful because they are earned and understood.

I am flirtatious, bright, and capable of filthy indulgence when the moment calls for it, yet I also carry a quiet need for care. I crave a Daddy who can guide, nurture, and attend to the subtler layers of a submissive’s mind and heart, helping me find comfort even in moments I struggle to reach it myself.

My submission is genuine—I to it. I carry a spark of oppositional defiance, but that fire exists to be challenged, directed, and ultimately consumed by a Sir or Master who truly understands the art of dominance beyond s***w orders. I also recognize that obedience cannot be inspired through ego alone, but through mastery, presence, and the ability to balance intellect and control.

If you can navigate that delicate interplay—acknowledging each person’s unique moods and needs as much as I do—then perhaps you are the one, or the ones, I am searching for. I am open to these roles being fulfilled by different individuals if no single person embodies them all, as long as each connection is respectful, attentive, and thoughtfully dominant.

BDSM Play Partner30 to 60 years ● 500km around UK Exeter

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A pet is a submissive who enjoys taking on aspects of a domesticated animal. Pets enjoy the freedom of being animal-like. They leave all adult responsibility behind to play like their chosen pet. There are many different levels of pet play. Some pets enjoy dressing up with masks and gloves so that the pet can’t speak or use their hands as humans would. Other’s just like to act like pets without any particular specialist gear. There can be a sexual element to pet play but quite often it is just simply about play and the power dynamic between the Owner and their dearly beloved pet.
A brat is a submissive who tries very hard to be good but their mischievous nature means they often don’t quite hit the mark. Brats are often naughty but in a playful way. They’re not trying to rebel, they just enjoy encouraging their Dom to take them in hand. Brats like having rules but mostly so they can be broken. They don’t seek out serious and strict Doms because in their heart of hearts they know they’ll never be totally tamed. They’re cheeky and mischievous and love to wind up their top. They are submissive with a fiery core. They try really hard to be good but sometimes being naughty is its own reward. Being naughty gives the brat meaning, it is very much the heart of their dynamic. They will take every opportunity to play up, giving their Dom a challenge and providing extra excitement for themselves. They never know how a top will react to their acts of brattishness, also known as bratting, so they’re kept on their toes. Brats are joyful in all they do, loving their Doms and showing respect but always with the odd moment of naughtiness because that’s what they enjoy the most.
An all-rounder enjoys a little bit of everything. They don’t have a preference to being dominant or submissive and are happy to switch between them both. They are happy to try everything once! All-rounders are similar to experimentalists but they don’t have the same drive to keep trying new things. They’re happy to try new things or stick to whatever their partners like. They are very laid back with no real, deep desires of their own for any one kink or fetish. As they enjoy variety, all-rounders are good for all kinds of scene. They will be eager to try new things and will also be good at suggesting new things to try or add in to a scene to give it a different twist. All-rounders enjoy making other people happy so they’re fantastic partners for anyone because of their enthusiasm. All-rounders might not have the same passion that some people with specific fetishes and kinks do but they are more flexible. Happy to try out new things, they’re not set in their ways or reluctant to do something different. An all-rounder is the kind of person who will happily be the exhibitionist one day and a voyeur the next. They’ll be your slave for a while then will be your dominant. Variety is the key to a happy all-rounder.