So… I am writing this because a lot of people seem to be confused with…let’s call it “The inner workings” of
B.D.S.M. ( not here of course, just in general)...
Bdsm and M/s are separate things, M/s may or may not contain elements of bdsm.
The bdsm community outnumber the True M/s people by a huge amount.
True M/s couples (or groups) are not that common.
They appear common because bdsm people mostly believe that M/s is a part of bdsm.
And bdsm people often, in fact usually blur the distinction between M/s and Dom/sub.
They throw around terms such as slave and Master like candy but those words are like the word love to me and should never just be thrown around.
Mostly, they do not understand (or accept) slave, as property.
In the bdsm world most activities revolve around “scenes”
This is where the term slave gets *d, people always used to use the term submissive which is the correct term, but the word slave seems to be in fashion. Something that people don’t understand the totality of the word slave.
Now in True M/s lives, the slave gives permission and consent to her/his Master when the slave is collared.
Therefor the Master never needs consent again.
However, many in the bdsm world won’t understand or appreciate this.
They also mostly won’t appreciate that the slave is Master’s property and He can do anything He so wishes, so **
and **** are largely mute points.
Because for it to be real, there cannot be any limits.
Sex, massage, dancing, seduction etc.
She always looks and smells divine.
A true slave weaves the essence of love, honor, high ideals, and strong desire to grow spiritually in these areas…as well as all aspects in life. It is well to see how the Master describes this subject. To Honor…To Love…High Ideals…And a strong Desire to grow Spiritually…Are not only how the Master describes this subject…But is the reason why Master…is…Master…
But everyone must take responsibility for their own reality. It is an art, and as such requires not only study and practice but also the inspiration and the love-hate relationship all artists have with their craft.
Through experience of Master’s…They can tell you what the two trademarks are of all True women are:

• The ability to laugh, even at the worst horrors…And…

• The ability to throw jargon out the door and discern the heart of every matter while never taking any matter too seriously.
The simple reason for these abilities is that by actually doing Your own reality and actually experiencing the magickal universe instead of merely reading about it, these abilities are automatically developed.
T/they should be overjoyed with T/their common connection…W/we all recognize the potential that results in the formation of this union…it is merely the beginning of something new…
T/they should be empowered by T/their sexual Magick…and though it transforming into the beginning of who T/they should be…The Beauty of the connection that is so Strong…no Limits…total Trust…above all Loyalty… Did You all read that?? Above All Loyalty… If Master and slave can not be loyal then it is Not a true M/s relationship, it is Dom/sub relationship. A M/s relationship is stronger than Any Marriage anywhere on Earth and should be treated as such! It is a lifetime commitment! That is why there are only a handful of “True” M\s relationships in the world!
Everything in balance.
A True slave should trust in her intuition and nurture her environment of deep devotion, patience, and intense passion…sometimes in silence…
Master and slave together set the standards for which direction they want their life to go.
The slaves’ opinion is always listened to by Master; but in the end the slave knows that His decision is Final.
Every Master strives for “the slave that comes willingly on bended knee” that His slave learns to just pick up on these things over time and doesn’t have to be told or punished anymore.
Its understanding more than just sex, its learning about each other

BDSM/Fetish Family5km around USA Seattle

Hi, I am seeking something real and realistic. A relationship, preferably LTR, with a dominant woman where we can share all kink and vanilla interests. In person, face to face. Old school. I am a bit old fashioned, very monogamous, still believe in chivalry.
I am notlookingforsomeonetodospecificthingsto me. I am looking for someone who shares similar interests. I am not interested in changing myself
or who I am, and I am not interested in someone changing who they are, or compromising, for me. I am, however, open minded and am open to exploring and growing. But I won't compromise my hard limits and boundaries, just as I would never expect or ask you to compromise yours. if I haven't mentioned a specific interest of yours, feel free to ask. I am open and honest, feel free to ask me anything.
I am a sub. Not a slave. I am very comfortable with who I am. While I am happy to learn, adapt, and grow. I will not change who I am or what I am looking for.
As already mentioned, I am seeking realistic. I have interests outside of kink. I have dogs. I have a serious soft spot for rescues. If you share this interest, that would be fantastic. Living as a gimp in a cage until needed, is entirely unrealistic.
I am not desperate. I will not chase you if you are not interested, or we are not compatible. I'm looking for a mutually beneficial relationship where we both want the same things, reasonably. I will not try to something that was never going to work.
I am more than happy to answer questions, clarify, or even just exchange ideas. Feel free to contact me, and if it wasn't meant to be, then it wasn't meant to be. But at least we'll know.

I am a masculine and muscular sub male with a special interest in chastity. I don't have any interest in feminization or being a sissy. Not judging others, just being honest. If that is what you seek, I wouldn't be a good match for you. I seek someone who enjoys the control chastity gives as them much as I enjoy being controlled.
I am emotionally and physically strong. I am not submissive because I am weak, I choose submission because I have been drawn to dominant women since as long as I can remember. I am not a beta anything. I am not a sub because I am weak. I choose submission. I do not choose the submissive role with just anyone. I choose submission when I am with a dominant woman who inspires my submission. One who I am comfortable enough with to offer my submission to. Those who know me, but not this side of me would be shocked that I am submissive. So that leads to the next submissive cliche. I am not worthless, useless or have a weak character. Why anyone would want someone who is worthless is beyond me. I'm not a worthless sub, I seek to be a valued sub. My words may say this, but my actions will prove it.
I pursue a healthy lifestyle, am active, am at the gym at least 3 days a week. No
, no smoke at all, rarely drink. I make an effort to keep healthy, but am not fanatical at all.
I am intelligent, creative, witty, and have a great sense of humor.
I am very functional and very sexual, my interest in chastity is control. I do not use chastity to mask any physical issues. I enjoy pleasing my partner and I enjoy long term arousal. And a woman who truly enjoys that control is incredibly exciting.
And being someone who believes in actions over words, chastity is proof that I am 9nly interested in one woman when you have been given my keys. I always hated the infidelity questions if I worked late, of was at the gym longer that normal. Steel chastity, pa piercing, says devoted to one as strongly and confidently as possible.
I am experienced in short term denial as well as long term denial and am ready for whatever you decide or desire. I do really enjoy a sexually selfish dominant woman. The control is very addictive, especially if she enjoys it as much as I do. I feed off of the energy of the one I'm with. If you feel guilty, I feel guilty. If you are excited, I am excited. I want you to be comfortable with your control and enjoy it. So that you find as much fulfillment as I do.

I have several stainless steel devices and am secured with a pa piercing. You hold complete control when you hold the key. And as this is completely consensual, you are free to enjoy and explore your control. And enjoy it. My pleasure is derived from your pleasure. The more you enjoy things, the more I do.
I am a moderate masochist. I have many years of experience in bdsm, and I love bondage and (moderate, but eager to explore) ***. Again, it's the control. But chastity a way to feel bondage and control day and night. Without being a burden on you. Everyday, all day control. It is fun when I forget about it, but am reminded by the unforgiving steel. All day long, at different times, I am reminded of my keyholder. I love that snap back to reality that the control is very real.
With masochism, like chastity, I feed off the energy of the one I'm with. The more you enjoy it, the more I do, and the more my tolerance goes up.
I want to be well rounded. If you feel light and sensual, if you feel hard and heavy, light tease, intense tease, or are not in the mood. My wish is to be available for whatever you need. I seek to improve your life, not complicate it.

I am in Southern California, I have houses in Palm Springs and Big Bear Lake. I can escape the heat and the cold as needed. While I love splitting my time between the desert and the mountains, and would love even more to find someone to share all this with. I would be open to relocation to the right location. Hit me up if you want to know more.

BDSM Play Partner30 to 55 years ● 500km around USA Palm Springs

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