BDSM/Fetish Family18 to 80 years ● 25km around USA Sturgis

Hey I'm newish here, but finally worked up some confidence to make a post.
I'm newly single, dating and I'm wondering about how to incorporate more fetish with my partners.
A little about me.
My sex life with my ex went dry over time, and I tried all sorts of things to spice things up in the bedroom, bought all sorts of begginer toys and bondage tools, which kind of worked for a bit and then things went stale again. I learned more about my submissive side during this time which was the bonus. I'm not very much into the aggression that seems to be associated with being a dom myself, I can dominate, but style is slow and sensual, lots of edging, no *** unless asked for. Also I haven't had sex with anyone since the breakup 4 months ago, but I have had a couple of dates and online exchanges since.
So now that you know a little about me, I have some questions. I know everyone is different and some will be more open to others about trying.

  1. How do I naturally bring up kink and fetishs with new partners, with out making them uncomfortable?
  2. How do I get a partner that isn't naturally dominant to explore a mor dominant role in the bedroom?
  3. How do I become more comfortable with causing *** to partners who ask for it?
  4. How do I learn to have a more dominant presence that is mor of a turn on to others?
    I understand that most things take good communication and time to learn, I'm guessing that others have felt this way, or still do, so any advice to help me grow so that me and partners can safely enjoy more kink in general.
    Thank you beautiful kinky souls of the world.
BDSM/Fetish Family18 to 80 years ● 500km around UK Lewes

PI am Isabella Renee, 55yo Locked Michigan Girl
I’m 55 years old, 6'1", a little chubby, and I’ve known for years that I was never truly a man. The moment I discovered sissy porn, something deep inside me broke open, and I finally understood my real purpose: to be on my knees, mouth open, existing only to worship and please a strong Daddy’s cock.
Every day I keep myself smooth from the waist down — shaved fresh at least once a week. My chest and back are still hairy, but my pits are shaved too, because a good girl should be soft where it matters most. Under my regular clothes, I’m always in panties (no more boxers, ever) and a fitted bralette that hugs my super-sensitive nipples. Those nipples… God, they’re my weakness. I use suction toys constantly — my favorite are the passive squeeze-on kind I can wear all day and night. They’ve swollen my nipples huge, puffy, and so tender that with a big plug stretching my ass I can twist them and leak puddles into my panties without even touching my locked clitty.
Speaking of locked — I keep myself caged most of the time in either my tiny pink Holy Trainer nub or one of my metal cages. My longest stretch was 10 continuous days, keys hidden where I couldn’t reach them. I’m working my way back up to permanent lock-up, because deep down I know my clitty is useless for anything except dripping and straining while I serve.
My ass is trained and hungry. I have a whole collection: small glass plugs for all-day wear, medium rimming ones, and massive black monsters — one is nearly 2.5" wide at the widest point (yes, I measured it next to a Dr Pepper can). It takes lube, patience, and 15 minutes of work to get it in, and it wants to pop out when I move… but the fullness is addictive. I’ve leaked puddles from anal play alone, but I’m still chasing my first full sissygasm.
I own a full collection of bondage gear — leather wrist and ankle cuffs, multiple collars, arm binders, spreader bar, and more — all waiting for the right Daddy to use them on me properly. I’m deeply into bondage and spanking: I love tying myself up (or dreaming of being tied properly) and spanking my own ass until it stings and glows. But I’ve never had someone else take full control of the rhythm, the strength, the number of strikes… I crave a Daddy who will restrain me securely, decide when I’ve had enough (or not nearly enough), and leave my cheeks burning while I thank him for every one. The thought of being ***, plugged, caged, and spanked until I’m a shaking, whimpering mess makes me leak instantly.
Real cock? Only twice in my mouth so far — and both times I swallowed greedily and loved every second. The men who couldn’t perform or got mad about my cage didn’t deserve me anyway. I know what I need: a firm, caring Daddy who will take my keys permanently, hold me accountable, supervise my shavings and cleanings, and train my throat and hole to take him whenever he wants.
I live alone in southwest Michigan (Sturgis area), I have a car, and I’m willing to travel to Kalamazoo or Grand Rapids for the right Dom. I’m safe, sane, discrete… and finally ready to stop hiding.
This is my confession.
This is who I really am.
Please, Daddy… come claim your devoted, locked, plugged, cock-addicted, bondage-loving sissy.
~ Isabella Renee 💕

BDSM Play Partner18 to 80 years ● 25km around USA Sturgis

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