Greetings,
I appreciate those patient enough to read my ad fully, as I write this completely sincerely.

I sit here in my room, post Christmas celebration with friends and chosen family. I'm sober, not horny, and have a sense of clarity after a deep conversation with a dear friend.

I'm 5 years into my transition, 5 years of wild experiences and learning to love every aspect of myself, even the hard to love parts. I'm sick of mulling over and debating the ramifications vs rewards of what I truly want, I have a near-complete understanding of who I am and what I want, and I feel good about taking the next steps into what I want and who I want to be.

I crave submission in the aspect of being able to follow someone's instructions and requests to a T.

I was recently told, in a completely vanilla snd non-sexual context, to find something nice to wear and show up at an address. It felt natural to follow orders without thinking about it. Partially because I trust the person completely, partially because I find great purpose in serving.

So let me serve you.

I can cook, clean, create, and run errands. I will learn to please you in all the ways you enjoy, and take notes of what makes you especially happy, whether it be the way you like your coffee or a particular way you like being touched.

I'm searching for a Dominant person (or persons if the vibe is right) with a genuine desire for a long-term, subservient submissive.
I'm asking that you treat me well, are firm, kind, creative, and stable, and enjoy kink as much as I do. A mentor or guardian role is welcome, but not necessary. I'm not looking for equality here.

Kink is something that's becoming more important to me as I consider what I want out of a relationship.
I crave the general D/s vibes, but have specifics that I would like to have be aspects of our relationship. These include:

Bondage (from tied wrists to full binding suits)
Chastity (it simultaneously makes me calmer and hornier)
A ruleset and reward//punishment system
Clear communication
Aftercare for all parties
Free Use (within the agreements of the relationship)
Uniforms or other clothes/gear marking me in a role
Mutual fantasy fulfillment
In 2026, I have goals of self-care, self-love, and modifying my body, wardrobe, and lifestyle to match who I am. Help and cheerleading will be more than welcome in my goals, and I hope to give the same to you!

If you've gotten this far and are interested, feel free to shoot me a message request. :) Please be open, write with intent, and be clear and sure about what you want and who you are.
Thank you for your consideration. 🩷

BDSM Play Partner29 to 54 years ● 95km around USA Santa Rosa

For starters, I'm a 19 year old from Twin Falls, and I'm very new to the kink community and am not super experienced with sexual stuff. I'm generally a super open book on trying things, and I want to try just about everything I possibly can. I'm looking for someone (Ideally a woman, but I'm open to couples as well), who would want to talk and maybe get together to see if we click, and if we do then we could explore things together. I'd prefer someone who I could consistently get together with, and I am willing to travel, as I'm unable to host, but it would have to somewhere within an hour or so of twin if it's going to be happening often. I don't really have any preferences on looks, really all that I want is someone who is interested in me and open to exploring things with me. Some of the big things I'm currently looking to explore is D/S Play (both sides of it as I'm a switch who leans a bit more to the dominant side), Brat Play, Bondage, and possibly freeuse or CNC on the more extreme side of things. I'm someone who generally prefers to focus on their partners pleasure over their own, and I'm someone who loves giving oral a lot. As for me as a person, I'm a fairly laid back and easy going guy once I warm up to people. I'm generally a very introverted person so it can take me a second to warm up to you, and I'll definitely be nervous upon first meeting you. I eventually will warm up to you, and I'm generally super open and honest with things upon getting comfortable with somebody. I love watching movies, going on walks, and playing video games. If you want to see what I look like, I've got some pics and vids on my profile, but if you want to see more message me and I'll gladly send you more. Sorry if this is a bit long winded lol, but anyways I'd love meet some new people, make some new friends, and find someone to explore the kinkier side of life with. Please, if you are interested at all please message me and we can see if we might connect. :)

BDSM Play Partner300km around USA Twin Falls
BDSM Play Partner24 to 80 years ● 500km around USA Seattle

Hi, lovely to meet you.

I always find introductions a bit awkward, but here we go. I’ve been a submissive for nearly six years now—honestly it’s a little terrifying to write that out loud, and I’ll save the existential crisis that comes with it for another time. What it does mean is that I’ve had enough experience to know myself, what I want, and the kind of connection I’m hoping to build with someone.

Ideally, I’m looking for a female-led relationship—something built on trust, communication, and the kind of dynamic where power exchange enriches rather than replaces the relationship. That said, I’m completely open to exploring one-off play sessions if that’s more what you’re looking for going in. At this point, I’ll be honest: I’m a bit tired of the search. Dating in general can feel exhausting, and trying to find something meaningful as a submissive guy adds an extra layer of difficulty that can be pretty discouraging at times.

I won’t go too deep into kinks right here since that’s definitely a conversation better had in DMs, but my top five are bondage, ***d orgasms, face sitting, marking, and nipple play. These are the areas I naturally gravitate toward and where I feel most at home. I’m also curious about exploring more—like eventually losing my anal virginity at some point, though that’s definitely a discussion for later and not something I’m rushing into. I’m also very interested in trying hypnosis as a kink, particularly the kind that blends relaxation, surrender, and trust. At the end of the day, what I really want is the experience of losing control in a way that feels safe and cared for.

As far as preferences go, I don’t have a huge checklist of requirements. The most important things to me are that the person I’m talking to enjoys the kinds of dynamics and kinks I’m into and is roughly around my age. Chemistry is a two-way street, and it’s nice to know if we tick each other’s boxes.

Outside of kink, I’ve been told I have that “hyperactive golden retriever” energy. I’m passionate—sometimes overwhelmingly so—about the things I love. I recently finished my degree in game design, which has been a huge part of my life for the past few years. I play guitar, and I’m currently bartending while looking for a graduate job. I’m always drawn to people who have creative or nerdy interests of their own. In terms of music, I’m pretty flexible—anything from classic rock like The Beatles to heavier bands like Avenged Sevenfold sits firmly in my library.

At the end of the day, I’m looking for someone who cares, someone confident and commanding, someone who’s excited to take the lead. I’ve been in a few relationships where the dynamic expectations didn’t match, often with partners who were also submissive, and it just didn’t work. I’m hoping to finally find something that fits.

I’ve done plenty of online dynamic work, and I’ve had a couple of professional sessions, so if you’re wondering whether I know how to serve—yes, I do.

Thank you for reading. Please feel free to reach out in dms. I'll try to reply asap.
Have a wonderful day.

BDSM Play Partner18 to 80 years ● 165km around UK Harlow

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