This is what My conversation style is like so you can assess our call buddy compatibility.
I do tooons of other styles, and in reality its not usually formal (though I warn you: I am a scientific type of person that approaches social things in a spooky,,, unnatural,,, Organized way! (organized does not mean clinical, marriage, for instance: has a literal contract and vows but it feels quite warm if people write and follow the right vows for them lol) , customizing them to the individual, but this is like a trailer despite the fact that I have not met you at time of writing.
Starting the conversation with a simmer, warming both of us up exchanging life or research highlights and establishing a back and forth rhythm until we're in sync.
Chatting about progress or workshopping each others accountability buddy projects
Clearing the air by shaking out any heavy stuff if necessary. Perhaps starting a small rant or asking for advice and active listening with each other
(Starting off gentle as we get to know each other in order to feel out and not overstep boundaries) this isn't intended to be a mopey time, more of a healing and solution oriented one, so that our brains can think about we want to think about in this valuable shared time instead of being stuck on a problem.
I aim for my history: kvetching with a group of fellow silly jester detectives in such a style and mood, my deepest sorrows can only be accurately be described in stand-up, hearty laughter all round, close hugs, genuine and inventive suggestions approaching life like an experience engineer, because truly, even the most difficult things in this life,,, are not that serious.
Or perhaps inatead exchanging infodumping if I've just created a project or made a research breakthrough where I lead you through the epic candlelit internautical deep link cave spelunking
moving onto some practical planning and relationship housekeeping
Meaning:
checking up on our group projects, working on them on call
Asking about your areas of actualization and hobbies if we haven't already,
Planning hangouts, road trips, parties, scenes, altered state or spiritual endeavors
Asking what we've done well together, what we can do better and how, what we want to introduce to our connection, what we probably don't want to do again.
The mood of this is fun and curious, I only intend on entering connection negotiations with people who makr it fun and filled with structured liberty like myself ![]()
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then when I'm feeling light and airy:
Bantering, flirting (platonically or romantically), riffing and nerding out, laughing our cheeks pink till we fall asleep
I am looking for someone I can meet or call 1+ hour a week
So: if you like this sort of thing or have other conversation styles you'd like to propose in my dms...
(I do lots of other cool diverse tricks like I can do full stand-up as an archetype you enjoy not breaking character for hours, you doing the same, I like to do call being read to or reading you my research project as I break the narration for us to put together the pieces (especially if you take notes!!!)
Inquire in my dms and we can get started! I am being so foreal with you I used to run a daily live streaming group ur bro is c o m m i t e d to chatting and vetting chat partners in a manner before unseen and that feels very easy breezy covergirl.
If you think we're kismet for kinship: You know who you are. I am exactly what I sound like, I've met my buddies a thousand times in a thousand summer camps, by now I know how to see the mark the stars gave you before we were sent falling to different parts of this funky little planet, your boy knows how to establish chemistry
(Don't worry: I've gotten to the point in buddism where you realize personality is an illusion (it has truth to it but it is not the whole truth) and everyone's the same so it doesn't feel fake to act in a way I enjoy, just fun and creative)
