I know that itโ€™s quite the long shot, but hey, you miss 100% of the shots you never take.

Iโ€™m looking for my kinky soulmate. The woman who is my exact kink counterpart; I truly believe that she is out there. I want to find that woman who has me checking my phone every hour with excitement and anticipation to read her reply. The woman who canโ€™t keep her hands off of me or mine off her. Ive been searching for her for years now and I know sheโ€™s there. I would prefer that sheโ€™s close to my location for convenience sake but am open to online to start!

A little bit about me and my kinky self:
I discovered my first kink when I was a 13 year old boy and saw my first bondage porno. It had aroused me in such powerful ways that I didnโ€™t even understand. From then on I spent my age years researching the lifestyle and community, developing new and different kinks the more knowledgeable I became about the lifestyle and community and all the different assortment of kinks and methods of self sexual exploration.
Iโ€™ve been in the community since I was in my first ever BDSM relationship at 19 years old. I had confessed my desires to my girlfriend at the time. At first she was skeptical but after having read the story I wrote about one of my fantasies, her pussy was soaked and she quickly found out that she was born to be a submissive little cumslut who loved following my every demand or instruction to a tee; because she knew what came with that. We spent 4 years together and over the course of that time we experimented with many different D/S role dynamics. We found our two favorite dynamics were DDLG and Master/slave. Unfortunately, we broke up after 4 years together.
We have been broken up for 7 years now and I have been in 3 different BDSM relationships since then. None of them lasted much longer than a year but during the time I spent with them, they went from completely unaware and unknowledgeable of kink & BDSM to fully trained submissives who almost become a different person when they become aroused.

My list of kinks is far too long to list every single one of them but Iโ€™ll list some of my main ones.
-Bondage -praise-
/degredation-cock worship(obviously receiving)- deepthroating (again-obviously receiving)- orgasm play(control, denial, edging, d orgasm/pleasure overload etc.)- rituals(what type varies by submissive archetype) -anal play (both giving and receiving)-training- exhibitionism- squirting-
There are plenty more that Iโ€™m sure Iโ€™m forgetting, but you kind of get the point.
If we are in a romantic relationship outside of our BDSM relationship then please understand that I will love you and treat you like you are the center of my world, and our BDSM/kink lifestyle can most definitely be separated from our โ€œnormalโ€/conventional romantic relationship if thatโ€™s what you would want. I am monogamous, and do not wish to seek out other partners when I am in a committed or romantic relationship. Once exclusivity is declared between us, it will remain that way until we break up and part ways.
I also would like to put out that there that while I heavily lean towards Dom, I do identify as somewhat of a switch as well(in case you are one to occasionally crave the urge to grab me by the groin and tell me whatโ€™s going to happen next.)
I love love love writing you dirty stories about the fantasies in my head, and I promise youโ€™ll love reading them. Once you read one, even if itโ€™s just a long, dirty message; youโ€™ll be able to see it so vividly in your head that youโ€™ll actually feel like youโ€™re there; itโ€™ll make you tingle all over and unable to stop thinking about it until you get to experience it for real. I would share a short snippet from one of my many stories in the ad but itโ€™s already super long to begin with so if you want a lick of that dirty smut/erotica material; just send me a message and Iโ€™ll send it over to ya๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜˜

As far as my non kink parts I am 29 years old, 6 feet tall and 190 lbs. Iโ€™m no runway model but Iโ€™m decently handsome lol and have a fit, muscular build. Iโ€™m not shredded and all veiny or anything but Iโ€™m definitely built as I used to be a college athlete and still actively work out and lift weights.
I absolutely love fishing and being outdoors with my two dogs, watching Sunday football while playing football. I coach kids in the sport I played growing up and playing in college- bonus points to anyone who can guess what sport that is- and no, itโ€™s not football.
I game occasionally (ps5) and sometimes go through spurts where I game quite frequently. I love spending time with the ones I love-especially my girlfriend when I have one.
While I am looking for something real and long term that eventually turns to a real life, in person relationship; I am okay with other arrangements such as an online situation, or strictly NSA situations where outside of kink/bdsm, we have no ties or obligation to one another. If Iโ€™m missing a situation that you would be interested in pursuing donโ€™t hesitate to message me if you like what youโ€™ve read so far and think we might click; Iโ€™m open to consider ALMOST any sort of situation or arrangement.
I am strictly heterosexual, so if you and your hubby want to play, just know I will not have any sort of physical interaction with him(
like to avoid couples for the most part pretty much but willing to consider certain arrangements regarding that). ABSOLUTELY NO MEN, nothing against gay people, just not my thing; so donโ€™t ask!
The most recent results from bdsmtest.com is:
== Results from bdsmtest.==
100% Master/Mistress
100% Rigger
100% Degrader
96% Dominant
96% Voyeur
84% Switch
77% Experimentalist
75% Brat tamer
75% Owner
73% Primal (Hunter)
63% Non-monogamist
58% Exhibitionist
43% Sadist
30% Daddy/Mommy
17% Vanilla
6% Ageplayer

I canโ€™t wait to hear from you!

BDSM Play Partner โ— 18 to 80 years โ— 500km around USA Macomb

Heyo, I'm Chris! I'm new to the community and just starting to dip my toes into being part of it, but I've been wanting to give this stuff a shot for a few years. I'm 24-year-old California guy (Bay Area) with a plethora of odd skills, too many hobbies, a great sense of humor, an absurd range of interests (both kinky and mundane), and really just an all-around alright guy.

I wanna be shown the ropes. Explore things, experiment, have some fun and maybe share a few laughsโ€” really just a chance to indulge in the kinkier side of life without getting degraded or beaten into submission. Being the pet of an owner who wants a pet to play with and give them the company they need after a rough day, having a friend who'd tie me to binge watch shows with them, being the plus one of nerdy guy or gal who wants to dress up in cosplay with someone with at the cost of having me crossdress, serving as the sub to a dominant who's just looking for that'd enjoy the simple feeling of being bound and basking in the company of anotherโ€” it all works! I'm willing to explore it all! We can pursue it as casually or intense as we want. I'm after the connection and fun, not sexual pursuits and chasing after thrills.

If given the chance, you'll have a goofy, sweet sub on your hands who'll try to make your day better however he can, memorize your likes and dislikes, shower you with affection whenever you want or need it, and do his best to make you happy.

Looking for long-term and monogamous. I'd prefer getting to know each other first, preferably as friends or dating instead of get straight into it. Can't host, as I live with my family due to financial issues.

BDSM Play Partner โ— 21 to 45 years โ— 150km around USA Santa Clara

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A degradation receiver (degradee) gets turned on by being humiliated, degraded and/or embarrassed in a sexual or kink context. This is a consensual activity where both parties enjoy this play and have strict rules and boundaries in place. A degradation receiver is more than likely going to be a submissive. Degradation receivers find being treated in such a way, as a personโ€™s property, to be very arousing. They may enjoy being objectified too. Actually used as a piece of furniture for their Dominant to use or just talked about in a way you wouldnโ€™t talk about another human being in everyday conversation. They may enjoy being ignored or ordered around too.
A degrader (degradation giver) uses humiliation and degradation to embarrass their submissive. This is done in a consensual way, knowing that the degradation receiver finds it sexually arousing. It is not something every submissive will enjoy and needs lots of conversations around levels and boundaries. Degradation givers are usually Dominants in a relationship and get a thrill out of the intense submission from the degradation receiver who does anything to make his or her Dominant happy, even (and especially) if they have to humiliate or embarrass themselves in the process.