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Questions for male subs/ dominant women about age preference

liliththedivine posted a topic in FemDom & Male Submission

Male subs, when looking for a domme, do you specifically look for someone who is older than you? And dommes, do you prefer men younger than you? Do you have an age limit? I'm asking because the va ...

October 5, 2025
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First time Dominant long time sub

subcuck1 posted a topic in FemDom & Male Submission

hello, long time sub here. so long that it’s part of my dna. if you are about to serve a Dominant that is new to the lifestyle, how do you go about making suggestions where it doesn’t seem like you ar ...

February 24
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How hard is it REALLY to find a dominant woman for life? (FLR / lifestyle femdom edition)

SissyYani posted a topic in FemDom & Male Submission

1/8 Many submissive men say: “I’ve been searching for years and still no luck finding a true dominant woman for a lifelong relationship.” They’re not exaggerating. It’s legitimately difficult—ofte ...

January 27
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Dominant

Dominants like to be in control. Unlike BDSM tops or sadists, their need is not particularly to inflict pain but to be domineering and have control over another person. Some Doms/Dommes expect to be obeyed immediately and without questions. Others enjoy being tested, and having to show their dominance over the submissive who’s being bratty. There is no one way to be a Dominant. Dom/Dommes can also be sadists, tops, masters or riggers. Dominant is a huge category of BDSM made up of many very different people who all have one thing in common, their need to be in control. The D in the term BDSM stands for Dominance, therefore Dominants are an instrumental part of BDSM. .embed-container { position: relative; padding-bottom: 56.25%; height: 0; overflow: hidden; max-width: 100%; } .embed-container iframe, .embed-container object, .embed-container embed { position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; }

Master/Mistress

A Master/Mistress is a specific kind of Dominant. They are more likely to take on a 24/7 relationship with their submissive/slave and control all aspects of their sub’s life. There may be exceptions, for example when the partners are at work, otherwise a Master/Mistress is in control all of the time. They will train their slaves to serve them in the way they enjoy. This will include domestic chores and service as well as sexual and kink aspects of their lives. Some expect their slaves to ask permission to eat, use the bathroom and other mundane acts, taking control of everything their submissive does. Of course, all this is pre-agreed. It may all be written down in a formal contract or may have been discussed in advance. There will be ways for the slave to express discomfort and to say no when they don’t want to do something. This could be in the forum of a safeword or something else that is pre-agreed. Even though the relationship seems very one-sided, it is consensual. A Master/Mistress has their slave’s well-being at heart and will never make them do anything that is unsafe or they won’t like, that is part of the nature of the trust and control between them.