Here's the situation..

I've been a member for about two years. Yet, in the approximate past two months that I've been back here, I've only met one person that I've had any sort of substantial connection with.

I'm looking mainly for women and possibly couples who are Interested in experimenting in kink & fetish to get to know and hopefully start something monumentally orgasmic with.

I'm highly intelligent, good looking and in good shape for my age. My voice seems to make women squirt like a geyser. I'm quite active in my outreach to others on FET, and I'm very fetish forward.

I have an extremely filthy imagination, and I'm not afraid to use it.

For anyone who's interested.. I also am very into anal and have been told on numerous occasions that I'm quite good at it. I'm also very sensitive and responsive to feedback from my partner and try to make the experience as enjoyable as possible for her.

I feel like I've been approaching this the right way, and yet I have found it to be SO VERY DIFFICULT to connect with women here.

I admit, I'm somewhat older (56). Also, my current relationship situation is somewhat non-standard (see my profile intro). But this is FET. If this isn't a place for fostering non-standard connections, I don't know what is.

Considering that I would be happy to put wheels to the asphalt and drive quite a few miles to meet up with a decent person, this experience so far has been underwhelming to say the least.

If you'd like to connect to get to know one another, or if you simply have advice you'd like to share, please get in touch.

If anyone has any constructive thoughts, I'm more than ready to listen.

Hope to hear from you!

Kinky Date19 to 80 years ● 500km around USA Eastford

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