I'm an educated professional with a fast paced crazy job during the day and a Dungeons and Dragons, Pokemon collecting, video game playing nerd at night!

I'm only looking for friends first. I'm monogamous and don't do casual sex.

What gets my attention is: brains, humor, and heart-those get me every time!

Most common responses to the most common messages:

1) I'm not interested in your genital pics.

2) I'm not looking to come over tonight and have sex with you.

3) I'm doing great thanks!

4) My parents are the ones who did the making me look cute thing.

5) No I don't want to read your weird sex fanfic you randomly sent me a total stranger.

6) I make enough I don't need to be in your camgirl side hustle, paid for sex, feet pics, used underwear and or any other fetish you're trying to pay me for.

7) No I'm not sending you *** either.

8) Great you're a Dom/me that doesn't mean you're mine. Don't act like it or you'll see my final form (insert dragon Ball Z 2 hour montage of getting to level 5000).

Kink wise:
Rough CNC? You got it. A proper bare-bottom spanking followed by rough or sensual sex? I got that covered. Fucking my ass while you're whispering sweet words in my ear? I might have done it once or twice. Spanking my clit, torturing my pussy, flirting ineffectively, or simply watching a good movie together? That's amazing. Making me and you cum multiple times? That's written with bold letters in my resume. Learning your likes and dislikes? Oh yeah!

Totally awesome things I can talk about all day:

Pokemon cards (especially vintage) I'm a total nerd who does have a pretty sweet collection. If you're looking for something for yours hit me up! Maybe I can help. I have extensive cards from base, jungle, fossil, base 2, and team rocket.

Guessing several people screamed and ran but hey if you're still here I'm also into DnD (not the kinky type ... Though hey I do love role-playing) video games ( currently loving Dune: Awakening), horse back riding (hoping to get back into it now that I'm closer to places that have them), and fishing!

I'm stable in my life, own my home, car, good job, mentally not nutters, and know what I want and what I don't.

I get along best with people over 35 normally but sometimes late twenties have the old soul vibe too! Extroverted people who are happy to do most the talking and dominate leaning tendencies to the front please and thank you!

I'm more a quiet reserved introvert who likes to go with the flow. I have to be in charge at work so off the clock I love being around people who naturally enjoy leading so I don't have to.

BDSM Play Partner35 to 65 years ● 150km around USA San Francisco

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