Hello and thank you for taking the time to read this somewhat long post. I am attempting to establish minimum compatibility prior to spending an extensive amount of time chatting. your honesty with yourself, who you are, and what you want is paramount.
My ultimate goal is to find a partner in life with whom I can be Myself without . My descriptions and requirements below are in many cases goals, though they need to be acceptable to you as anything said or written is considered an acknowledgement and soft-commitment; honesty and transparency are important to Me.
Obviously, there will be discussions surrounding basic life goals and desires as well as the items below, so don't get scared away thinking you and your feelings are not being considered. Part of being a Daddy is concern for My girl and her well being.
you will use My use of capitalization in written communications.
The lists below are in no particular order, hence bullets, not numbers, mostly just a stream of consciousness.
I very much look forward to starting a dialogue with you, so reach out soon.
About Me
I am an Owner/Daddy who has had one submissive 30 years ago and the same one again recently for a total of about 2 years. That relationship is completely over now.
The hiatus between was when I pushed the kinkier side of Me down and lived a vanilla life. I am at the point I no longer want to ignore my kinks and fetishes and I would like to have another sub/slave with a cervix to join Me.
• I have a low body count and prefer you to have the same, if possible, though this is not a hard requirement. Corrupting you is one of my fetishes.
• I want to create a relationship of trust and safety where we both can express our desires without judgement.
• Assuming compatibility, marriage is possible/probable though regardless you will be collared.
• I have an extensive list of kinks and fetishes, some of which may be considered extreme.
• I have sadistic tendencies.
• I am well educated.
• I have a felony conviction for negligent homicide as part of a traffic collision. No
or alcohol were involved.
• I am white.
• I have a penis about 80% of average.
• I am currently overweight (200 lb), though I am working to improve Myself. My goal is 150 to 160 lb.
• My known limits are no or play.
About you
• you may have from previous relationship(s).
• you are open to being pregnant (once again) as I would like to have a child. This is not a hard requirement as long as you are accept another carrying the child.
• your commitment to me will be unshakeable regardless of our activities.
• you will put Me before yourself.
• you will never lie or deceive Me in any way as this would erode and/or threaten the safe environment.
• Preferably, you are similar in your experiences and lack thereof, and have my kinks and fetishes you have repressed and want to experience.
• you understand that I will most likely be open to or already have any fetish or kink you desire.
• your kinks/fetishes may concern or scare you because you
the repercussions (not a requirement) as getting you to do those things is part of my desire. The safe environment I am seeking to build should help assuage many of your concerns.
o you will perform My fetishes and kinks even when they are not fully your own.
o you will be having sex with women. Whether you enjoy it to start is not relevant, though you will be expected to obey and participate enthusiastically.
• you will be expected to address Me as Sir at most times. Other pet names are acceptable as long as they are respectful.
• you will be collared once compatibility and long-term commitment has been established.
• you have masochistic tendencies.
• you swallow.
• you may be given an SLRN (this can be discussed).
• you will keep a tidy house and provide healthy meals (similar to TradWife).
• Preferably, you are similar in your experiences and lack thereof, and have many kinks/fetishes you have repressed and want to experience.
• Preferably, you are similar to Me in your experiences and lack thereof, and have many kinks/fetishes you have repressed and want to experience.

BDSM Play Partner25 to 50 years ● 5km around USA Westmont

I know that it’s quite the long shot, but hey, you miss 100% of the shots you never take.

I’m looking for my kinky soulmate. The woman who is my exact kink counterpart; I truly believe that she is out there. I want to find that woman who has me checking my phone every hour with excitement and anticipation to read her reply. The woman who can’t keep her hands off of me or mine off her. Ive been searching for her for years now and I know she’s there. I would prefer that she’s close to my location for convenience sake but am open to online to start!

A little bit about me and my kinky self:
I discovered my first kink when I was a 13 year old boy and saw my first bondage porno. It had aroused me in such powerful ways that I didn’t even understand. From then on I spent my age years researching the lifestyle and community, developing new and different kinks the more knowledgeable I became about the lifestyle and community and all the different assortment of kinks and methods of self sexual exploration.
I’ve been in the community since I was in my first ever BDSM relationship at 19 years old. I had confessed my desires to my girlfriend at the time. At first she was skeptical but after having read the story I wrote about one of my fantasies, her pussy was soaked and she quickly found out that she was born to be a submissive little cumslut who loved following my every demand or instruction to a tee; because she knew what came with that. We spent 4 years together and over the course of that time we experimented with many different D/S role dynamics. We found our two favorite dynamics were DDLG and Master/slave. Unfortunately, we broke up after 4 years together.
We have been broken up for 7 years now and I have been in 3 different BDSM relationships since then. None of them lasted much longer than a year but during the time I spent with them, they went from completely unaware and unknowledgeable of kink & BDSM to fully trained submissives who almost become a different person when they become aroused.

My list of kinks is far too long to list every single one of them but I’ll list some of my main ones.
-Bondage -praise-
/degredation-cock worship(obviously receiving)- deepthroating (again-obviously receiving)- orgasm play(control, denial, edging, ***d orgasm/pleasure overload etc.)- rituals(what type varies by submissive archetype) -anal play (both giving and receiving)-training- exhibitionism- squirting-
There are plenty more that I’m sure I’m forgetting, but you kind of get the point.
If we are in a romantic relationship outside of our BDSM relationship then please understand that I will love you and treat you like you are the center of my world, and our BDSM/kink lifestyle can most definitely be separated from our “normal”/conventional romantic relationship if that’s what you would want. I am monogamous, and do not wish to seek out other partners when I am in a committed or romantic relationship. Once exclusivity is declared between us, it will remain that way until we break up and part ways.
I also would like to put out that there that while I heavily lean towards Dom, I do identify as somewhat of a switch as well(in case you are one to occasionally crave the urge to grab me by the groin and tell me what’s going to happen next.)
I love love love writing you dirty stories about the fantasies in my head, and I promise you’ll love reading them. Once you read one, even if it’s just a long, dirty message; you’ll be able to see it so vividly in your head that you’ll actually feel like you’re there; it’ll make you tingle all over and unable to stop thinking about it until you get to experience it for real. I would share a short snippet from one of my many stories in the ad but it’s already super long to begin with so if you want a lick of that dirty smut/erotica material; just send me a message and I’ll send it over to ya😏😘

As far as my non kink parts I am 29 years old, 6 feet tall and 190 lbs. I’m no runway model but I’m decently handsome lol and have a fit, muscular build. I’m not shredded and all veiny or anything but I’m definitely built as I used to be a college athlete and still actively work out and lift weights.
I absolutely love fishing and being outdoors with my two dogs, watching Sunday football while playing football. I coach kids in the sport I played growing up and playing in college- bonus points to anyone who can guess what sport that is- and no, it’s not football.
I game occasionally (ps5) and sometimes go through spurts where I game quite frequently. I love spending time with the ones I love-especially my girlfriend when I have one.
While I am looking for something real and long term that eventually turns to a real life, in person relationship; I am okay with other arrangements such as an online situation, or strictly NSA situations where outside of kink/bdsm, we have no ties or obligation to one another. If I’m missing a situation that you would be interested in pursuing don’t hesitate to message me if you like what you’ve read so far and think we might click; I’m open to consider ALMOST any sort of situation or arrangement.
I am strictly heterosexual, so if you and your hubby want to play, just know I will not have any sort of physical interaction with him(I’d like to avoid couples for the most part pretty much but willing to consider certain arrangements regarding that). ABSOLUTELY NO MEN, nothing against gay people, just not my thing; so don’t ask!
The most recent results from bdsmtest.com is:
== Results from bdsmtest.==
100% Master/Mistress
100% Rigger
100% Degrader
96% Dominant
96% Voyeur
84% Switch
77% Experimentalist
75% Brat tamer
75% Owner
73% Primal (Hunter)
63% Non-monogamist
58% Exhibitionist
43% Sadist
30% Daddy/Mommy
17% Vanilla
6% Ageplayer

I can’t wait to hear from you!

BDSM Play Partner18 to 80 years ● 500km around USA Macomb

Heyo, I'm Chris! I'm new to the community and just starting to dip my toes into being part of it, but I've been wanting to give this stuff a shot for a few years. I'm 24-year-old California guy (Bay Area) with a plethora of odd skills, too many hobbies, a great sense of humor, an absurd range of interests (both kinky and mundane), and really just an all-around alright guy.

I wanna be shown the ropes. Explore things, experiment, have some fun and maybe share a few laughs really just a chance to indulge in the kinkier side of life without getting degraded or beaten into submission. Being the pet of an owner who wants a pet to play with and give them the company they need after a rough day, having a friend who'd tie me to binge watch shows with them, being the plus one of nerdy guy or gal who wants to dress up in cosplay with someone with at the cost of having me crossdress, serving as the sub to a dominant who's just looking for that'd enjoy the simple feeling of being bound and basking in the company of another— it all works! I'm willing to explore it all! We can pursue it as casually or intense as we want. I'm after the connection and fun, not sexual pursuits and chasing after thrills.

If given the chance, you'll have a goofy, sweet sub on your hands who'll try to make your day better however he can, memorize your likes and dislikes, shower you with affection whenever you want or need it, and do his best to make you happy.

Looking for long-term and monogamous. I'd prefer getting to know each other first, preferably as friends or dating instead of get straight into it. Can't host, as I live with my family due to financial issues.

BDSM Play Partner21 to 45 years ● 150km around USA Santa Clara

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