I would describe myself as around 60% submissive and 40% dominant—a switch with a slight submissive lean.I am mainly interested in tickling fetish. I am also glad to give P A I N but not recevie . I like ropes and restraints. My hard limit is sex.

When I act as a tickler, I feel excited watching my prey tied securely to the bed, unable to escape. When my fingers run across their underarms or soles, seeing them struggle so hard while knowing there's nothing they can do about it gives me a thrill. I enjoy exploring and finding their most ticklish spots, then slowly torturing them until they're laughing uncontrollably, completely exhausted, begging for mercy, or even d to say humiliating things just to make me stop.

In those moments, I enjoy being the one in control. I decide when the
continues and when it ends.

When I act as a ticklee, I actually find it more exciting when I'm tied up. I become someone else's toy, something to be played with. I like fighting back and resisting as much as I can, only to end up restrained and while receiving tickle from the ticklers. It can really turn me on. Afterwards, when the ropes come off, I would love a warm hug and some genuine aftercare.

I'm also comfortable with group tickling and enjoy the energy that multiple people can bring to a scene.

What I'm really hoping to find is another switch and, ideally, a long-term relationship—maybe even a life partner. Someone with whom we can explore BDSM together, fulfil each other's needs, and enjoy things that aren't necessarily sexual but are still deeply fun and meaningful. Someone whose life can gradually intertwine with mine as we build our own dynamic and lifestyle together.

I know it's probably an idealistic hope, and I'm not sure whether I'll find that person on this platform. But I think it's worth trying.

Outside of BDSM, I'm a East-Asian woman living in the UK. I'm fairly introverted, enjoy cafés, travelling, photography, hiking, psychology and quiet one-to-one conversations. I'm looking for someone kind, emotionally mature and able to communicate openly.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to send me a message or leave a comment.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post.

Kinky Date23 to 35 years ● 150km around UK Manchester

About me:
Retired, 65, out of Cookeville. Married 35 years. Still married, but we’re separating with full honesty and no secrets — that’s non-negotiable for me. She knows I’m here and knows why: she doesn’t share my foot kink, and she’s given me permission to explore it as long as there’s full disclosure, no intimacy beyond feet, and no lies. If you need monogamy or secrecy, I’m not your guy. If you value upfront truth, keep reading.

Off Fetlife, I’m a backpacker with 35 years in Big South Fork and the Smokies. I ** trails for fun and draw when I find the time. I can talk USGS topo lines or highly detailed tiger drawing. I'm a sole man — pun intended. Feet are my thing. Always have been.

What I’m looking for:
Women who genuinely enjoy foot worship, massage, pampering, teasing — you know if you do. I’m not here to “convert” anyone. If you love having your feet touched, admired, rubbed, massaged, you’ll be in good hands. 36 years of marriage taught me how to give a slow, sensual massage.

First meet:
Public, always. Coffee or wine + dinner in Cookeville, Sparta, Crossville, Livingston — your call. If we click, a first-rate foot massage is my opening move. Will give a full body massage if you like my touch. No pressure for more. “No intimacy, just foot sex” is the boundary my wife and I agreed on, and I keep my word.

Must know:*

  1. DDF & clean — I am and expect the same. Health first.
  2. Discreet & respectful — Small town. We’re both adults, we handle this like adults.
  3. Prefer younger women. I’m 65, retired, stable, married. You be you.
  4. Not into: Financial stuff, fakes, time wasters, **, anyone who wants me to lie to my wife. That’s the one line I won’t cross.

    Last thing:* I’m a real man with a real life. I hike, I make art, I am married and my wife approves as long as there is no romantic relationship. If that + feet sounds good to you, say hi. Tell me what you like. If it’s not a fit, all good — Thanks for reading!

Kinky Date21 to 45 years ● 100km around USA Cookeville

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