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SoftboyMerlin posted a topic in Gay BDSM & Kink

I heard from multiple women, that they tend to be submissive with men but dominant with women. I used to think that thats just because of internalized patriarchy. Thats until I realized that It’s the ...

October 7, 2025
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Question to submissive folks. What do you think about and how do you feel when...?

Ach1ll3s posted a topic in Gay BDSM & Kink

So, a question to submissive people. I want to know what you think about and feel: a) immediately after you've understood that you will get tortured; b) during the period after you've understood w ...

November 27, 2022
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Difference between a bottom and a submissive

DevotionWhenClaimed posted a topic in FemDom & Male Submission

There is some nuance here. I’m finding it increasingly difficult to successful screen for men who are (or choose) submission versus those who are just bottoms. I don’t know if this is a factor of me ...

June 14
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Submissive

A submissive likes to be controlled, relishing someone else taking responsibility away from them. Some are subservient and submit willingly. Others are brattier and put up a fight. There are also submissives who will fight sometimes and be subservient at others. Submission can be confined to the bedroom or only taken out to BDSM and Fetish clubs and dungeons or it can used in all kinds of day to day situations. Some submissives chose to be subservient in all their roles, others take on submission to escape the responsibilities of work and family life. Submissives let someone else take control. They may have a list of rules to abide by set by their Dom/Domme. If rules are broken then there will be punishments too as well as rewards for good behaviour. Some submissives love to be naughty and punished, others want to be good and strive to do their best and be rewarded. Others will want a mix of the two. It isn’t all about humiliation and degradation for a submissive, unlike other bottoms they are more concerned with being subservient and giving over control to another person. .embed-container { position: relative; padding-bottom: 56.25%; height: 0; overflow: hidden; max-width: 100%; } .embed-container iframe, .embed-container object, .embed-container embed { position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; }

Slave

Slaves are submissives who totally give all control over to their Master/Mistress. The main difference from other submissives is that they hand over control of all their life, 24/7 to their top. There can be pre-agreed exceptions to this rule. For the purposes of work for example but by vast majority a slave hands over all decision making to their Dom. BDSM slaves are happiest when serving a Dominant. They tend to not have limits with their Master/Mistress. This is because their dynamic is very close. The Dominant knows his/her slaves limits and keeps to them. This is a very unique relationship and is one to build up to. Slaves start out as submissives first and after time become a slave. Slaves, even more so than submissives, tend to wear some kind of symbol of their BDSM slave status. This can be a collar or a piece of jewellery that symbolises their belonging to their Dominant. Slaves give complete trust to their Dominant, freeing their minds from worry and responsibility. It is a very unique roll and one that only certain submissives can take on.