Non-Binary

Are you non-binary?

What does non-binary mean?

For a long time, gender has been seen as a binary. Society is very fixed on the idea that there are two sexes, male and female, and nothing else is widely considered. However, this belief is changing as it becomes more and more evident that gender is indeed a spectrum, not just a binary. A growing number of people are identifying as genders that sit between the binary of male and female with a variety of labels available for people to identify with. Non-binary is an umbrella term for these folks. They may also identify as transgender but not necessarily so.

What does it mean to be non-binary?

People who don't identify as either 100% male or 100% female are non-binary. It means that they may not feel like either sex or might change between identifying as male or female. It is a term that covers all gender identities between cisgender (identifying as the same gender assigned at birth) and transgender (identifying as a gender other than the one assigned at birth) hence the term non-binary.

What does enby mean?

Enby is the phonetic spelling of the letters NB and is a shortened term for a non-binary person. It is often used in casual conversation but has the same meaning as non-binary

How do I tell if I'm non-binary?

Gender can be confusing, but if you don't fully identify as the gender you were given at birth or as the opposite sex, you could be non-binary. It's not a simple thing; gender identity is a journey to work out what you are most comfortable with. There are ways to work this out. Questions such as does being gendered by others a certain way make you uncomfortable? Which pronouns make you feel happiest? Do you aspire to androgyny? You could chat to other people in the non-binary community, try out different clothes and find what expression makes you most comfortable and have a look online to research different gender identities to find the one that fits you best.

Are all non-binary people transgender?

No. Some non-binary people identify as trans because they don't identify as the gender they were assigned at birth, but others don't feel that transgender expresses the way they identify.

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