You're here! Are you a Hell YES!?
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I'd like to make a connection with someone local to build an experience with regularly but short term fun is possible too.
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I'm come from a poly background and love to talk and connect with like minded people. Parntered ENM with a woman who isn't into kink but supportive of my kink life outside and play separately.
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Kink experiences we could explore:
I'm vaxxed and boosted and STD free.
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I like to meet first in a non-kink environment to establish a connection before getting kink together. Always Safe, Sane, and Consensual
Outside of kink,
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***, Disrespect of boundaries
He has literally told you, "No." And it does not sound like you have or have every had a negotiated D/s relationship would give you consent to pursue him no matter what mixed signals you may interpret. You just need to STOP!
Ass.... Slapped! 😈
Who writes the clues? Is it a Fet rep or can anyone draft and post a clue?
It sounds like you could have an exclusive relationship with someone and fulfill your exhibitionism but not with this guy. Although, I agree with the comment above that more likely you'll find happiness in an ENM relationship/marriage. If you're "not exclusive yet" then bringing up topics like Read more… this are feelers to guide you in where to become exclusive and expose RED Flags. Looks like you've found one. The sex now might be great, but resentments down the road can be devastating.
I'm coming at this from experience... I have a wonderful partner who is not kinky but does respect that I am and was before we met. So, we have build an ENM relationship that fits our needs.
I understand where you're coming from. I definitely wouldn't call that "fake dom." Real know one should be "dom" to a "sub" until they agree. Being a dom or have someone submissive to you takes respectful communication to negotiate. It can feel awkward in the beginning when flirting turn to D/s and Read more… a potential submissive is itching to submit but haven't yet worked out the parameters out the power exchange.
SSC/RACK should be fundamental to Dominants. I take them seriously and tell the submissive that we will have discussions about desires, limits, and consents before proceeding in earnest to build trust and comfort. This signals to the submissive that you respect their submission and boundaries while signaling your desire to be dominant over them after negotiations.