He has literally told you, "No." And it does not sound like you have or have every had a negotiated D/s relationship would give you consent to pursue him no matter what mixed signals you may interpret. You just need to STOP!
Who writes the clues? Is it a Fet rep or can anyone draft and post a clue?
It sounds like you could have an exclusive relationship with someone and fulfill your exhibitionism but not with this guy. Although, I agree with the comment above that more likely you'll find happiness in an ENM relationship/marriage. If you're "not exclusive yet" then bringing up topics like Read more… this are feelers to guide you in where to become exclusive and expose RED Flags. Looks like you've found one. The sex now might be great, but resentments down the road can be devastating.
I'm coming at this from experience... I have a wonderful partner who is not kinky but does respect that I am and was before we met. So, we have build an ENM relationship that fits our needs.
I understand where you're coming from. I definitely wouldn't call that "fake dom." Real know one should be "dom" to a "sub" until they agree. Being a dom or have someone submissive to you takes respectful communication to negotiate. It can feel awkward in the beginning when flirting turn to D/s and Read more… a potential submissive is itching to submit but haven't yet worked out the parameters out the power exchange.
SSC/RACK should be fundamental to Dominants. I take them seriously and tell the submissive that we will have discussions about desires, limits, and consents before proceeding in earnest to build trust and comfort. This signals to the submissive that you respect their submission and boundaries while signaling your desire to be dominant over them after negotiations.
Some scammer here play a long game to suck you in and then have "financial trouble" and need gas *** to meet you. Never send *** to anyone to meet.
Grid #9 is mine. It isn't where I think it should be.
It is comforting to see other men talking about these shared experiences. Thank you, brothers!
I ask them to send me a photo with today's date on paper. Similar to being verified on here.