How to receive in a dominant way?

[ghoulfriend]

During sex with my girlfriend I am usually dominant, while she is submissive. (For reference, she is a trans woman and I am a cis woman. We don’t engage in PIV.) 

At the beginning of our relationship I was not comfortable receiving at all, but I’ve been warming up to the idea of it. We’ve tried a few times, but we’ve been pushing aside a dom/sub dynamic for vanilla sex with me receiving (head or being fingered). Aside from me sitting on her face, and offering words of praise and otherwise, there’s not much for me to do to receive while also feeling like I am dominating her.

Are there positions or ways for me to feel dominant while she is fingering me or eating me out? 

[Br****]

You could always use leashes although you did just say you're putting aside a dom/sub relationship. You could always pin her by standing on her, but that isn't everyone's cup of tea.

[Du****]

Make her kneel, put one leg over her shoulder while she eats you and have her take some of your body weight. You can grab her hair and guide her movements.

[De****]

A lot of it is just the mentality. She is pleasing you at your command. Tell her what to do or be physical (hair pulling or squeeze her between your thighs).

[Ta****]

I kind of have a similar sort of question. I am not submissive, i try, but i am not good at it. I am pansexual, so every once and a while i like to bottom, but i dont really like the way a lot of guys make me feel when bottoming on my back, so i ride, or i often tell them that they arent allowed to touch themself, only i am. Its interesting forcing a no-recip bottom to recieve.

[Ta****]

All with full consent, of course.

[Mr****]

While she is pleasing you ; you may command her to wear any vibrating toys and you can control them.

You could ask her to wear nipple clips with chains and you can tug them

She can also wear butt plugs.

*all of the above are suggestions and if you two like them, please explore*

[SF****]

There are ways... do what your thinking with the understanding that they will let you know if gone too far. Personally if im that spot i would assert myself. They would no real quick who is in charge. Sounds like you have both hands free. 1 for the hair, the other for a slap or pulling the head deep into your groin. And as far as posistion goes you can have them extend their head over the bed, objectify them.. the possibilities are endless. Just dont worry about it. Do it and discuss it after ( before fucks it all up for me, becomes a script, not sex) perhaps discuss hard limits before. Now im all horny af.. thanks!. Lol good luck!

[pa****]

Try Amazon position. Allows you to receive 100% but keeps you in a completely dominant position physically by being on top but still let's you control the pace and everything else involved

[Co****]

Reverse face sitting also gives you ample room to control the situation in a more dominant way. You can lean over your partner and play or tease them in a multitude of ways inc edging.

You could add the element of bondage by restraining your partners hands. Introducing blind folds as well.

Have your partner always lower than you, when they are kneeling you naturally have an assumed authority.

Combine this with furniture other than a bed. I.e you sitting on a chair for example as a receiver you then command your partner to crawl to you and provide tongue stimulation while kneeling on the floor.
With you sitting upright you are at a good angle to provide control with your voice your eyes your hands... reach down and stroke or pull your partners hair, or if you have a crop provide light spanking to the arse.
Command your partner to work her way up slowly from your legs - her giving you pleasure should be a reward and something she works for.
Your voice and words will be as important in feeling like you are dominating the situation here.
If you’re wearing heels even more play can be had as she does this by gently pressing your heels against her skin while she is giving you oral or pushing her away as a sort of edging game.

Most important is to make sure you and your partner discuss beforehand and figure out each other's comfort levels when foraging into even mild aspects of bdsm.

[Di****]

First point. I love you both and god bless.
Second point you choose not to piv, and you are lady cis and you partner is female at heart and in transition p to v? We are all adults ***, behave!
Third point piv is not the just putting good pussyfoot. Wait this is getting confusing. You two having fun? 🤩

Forth point is empathy. Your girlfriend sounds like they are having the time of their lives and enjoying themselves. Prolonging submissive joy is you main priority as a good person. You’re kicking ass. They might just want you to play on your phone or fall asleep.

Your letting her put her face up in it, I’m sure they have had a long road ahead and behind. Just keep her eating girl, she an eater.

Not everyone cares about orgasms as much as giving and receiving. It’s a lot like making love. You role around and or GGG or lmnop, I like lazy boyfriend a nd lazy girlfriend. Sometimes you just don’t want to leave the pocket of not thinking at all. Go fuck by the ocean girl!!

[TomSwitch]

Tie her up first the use her head and fingers ***fully, forcing that orgasm out asap regardless of the partners face or reactions

[Deleted Member]

I've learned this as a type of 4-square grid:

1. Dominant: who gives the orders
2. Submissive: who takes the orders
3. Top: who does the actions
4. Bottom: who accepts the sensations

One can be a dominant bottom, or a submissive top. Your girlfriend can top you for sex while still being of service to you: service tops happily exist!

If she's not unconsensually bossing you while she services you, then it sounds like you're already fine. 

The leash and hair pulling ideas do seem hot, though, in my opinion.