Gender vs Biology

[LadyV]

Have you considered only dating cis women and leaving nonbinary people alone? 

 

Cause in reducing them to what they do or don't have between their legs, you are effectively saying:

"I will respect that you say you're not a woman, but I really only care if you count as a woman or not in my view."

Making your interest in them contingent of whether you consider them female enough for you or not is factually a transphobic thing to do. 

 

Which is a pretty horrible way to treat another person and I suspect will get you blocked by almost every nonbinary person. So, talking to them won't lead to anything for you in the first place given your approach and view of them. 

 

There's no shortage of cis women in the world. Focus on talking to them and just leave nonbinary people alone, romantically and sexually speaking. You're not presently able to treat them respectfully given how you think it's acceptable to ask people you barely know about their genitals. 

[Lu****]

5 hours ago, babi_bambi said:

, the default for a non-binary profile asks penis measurements

I was not aware since I have never seen this on a profile.  I suppose it can be left unanswered and omitted ? 🤔 

[sn****]

Honestly, if someone prefers dating people with or without certain body parts, that's their choice to make (or not). We shouldn't assume what they think of others just based on that. People can have preferences regarding the body of their partner, right?
Some people apparently aren't comfortable with being asked about their genitals, and that's fine. At your point, I'd encourage you to rethink what kind of people you're looking for. You said you're looking for people with female genitals. Does that mean you'll see them as female regardless of their identity? If so, you should stop, as that's surely not what they want.
I don't mean to reprimand you, but just think about it in depth. Either way, your question is not a simple one and since some people just aren't comfortable with it, you should take your time if you really mean it

[ba****]

5 hours ago, Lsmart938 said:

I was not aware since I have never seen this on a profile.  I suppose it can be left unanswered and omitted ? 🤔 

It can, but it doesn’t ask breast size measurements. It defaults to assigned male at birth features. So, again, unless the person openly puts what their genitals are, there’s no way to be 100% certain.

[mj****]

I guess if you're not sure you probably should just steer clear of these people if you can't comfortably be around them.

[Lu****]

12 hours ago, PistolPhoenix said:

you dont agree w my points and found negativity? what? im giving u honest feedback as someone who is nonbinary. tf? lmfaooooooo i was nice to you even 💀

I’m sorry I think that’s hit more harshly than intended.  We are all entitled to our opinions though I think ours are not entirely aligned - but that’s ok not to agree with everybody all of the time.
 

But I really did appreciate your feedback , and taking time to reply - Thankyou. 
 

It would certainly help my understanding if maybe you could share your journey to recognising yourself as non-binary and what it means to you?  I understand if you don’t want to share - that’s fine too. 
 

Thanks. 
 

[gr****]

I love not knowing and being surprised.

[ba****]

You probably shouldn't assume what's in anyone's pants, you never really know til you see it and there's trans woman like myself that is post operation meaning I have a vagina and I absolutely can't stand it when men especially ask to see my cock!

[Bu****]

I want to start off by saying you are not responsible for other people's feelings. Some people are sensitive, over sensitive, or easily offended. Their feelings are a THEM problem, not a YOU problem. With that being said, just simply explain that part of your sexuality is that gentiles matter to you. Don't fall into the trap on how they're going to call you a bad person or that you're transphobic. Don't defend yourself. Just leave the conversation. You aren't a bad person if you only date females that are feminine presenting.
- nonbinary afab