Local femdom mistress not a catfish

[Deleted Member]

Just out here dipping my toes into different parts of the lifestyle. How do kinksters on here identify between someone who is real local femdom and someone who is a catfish? 

[ey****]

the tell tale signs of a catfish 

- photo is of a Professional Dominant (this obviously has an advantage if you know who the Pro Dommes are) reverse image search can help

- ditto, searching the users profile text, a lot of the catfish use similar text

- ask for *** without a € on their profile

- offer you what you want with seemingly low effort on your part

- try to take you off site particularly to hangouts

- newly created profiles (women in particularly tend to find their feet on a site before messaging)

the catfish tend not to post on the forums or use the chat (or get shut down pretty quickly when they try) 

 

Good luck finding a local femdom for you.

[Brittone2]

I always think their head is slightly out of whack with rest of the body. when it's a catfish not a local femdom. Also trying to drag you onto kik or hangouts straight away..

[Laurah]

Ask them for a picture of a shoe on their head. Old chat roulette/omegal trick.

[ey****]

On 3/27/2020 at 7:29 PM, Laurah said:

Ask them for a picture of a shoe on their head. Old chat roulette/omegal trick.

whilst it is important to be careful of catfish.

a lot of Ladies, rightfully, get a bit annoyed when their authenticity is constantly challenged - "make me a verification video", "take a picture in this circumstance", so on.   With what is in front of you it's really not that difficult to do your own due diligence with someone you have suspicions on - and most catfish usually give the telltale signs really, really quickly that they're not really a local femdom.

Especially, and I guess this is a further check, if they've verified their profile or gone through the fakecheck. 

[Deleted Member]

Easy way to recognize fakes from real local femdoms 

Usually, there's no mention of *** in their profile. And then, after you contact them, they will try to convince you to pay them.

[Deleted Member]

Be very careful!! I almost got stung recently. I thought I was reasonably savvy... She wanted me to pay her £5k in bitcoin & tried to blackmail me if i didn't pay. Good luck in finding your local femdom. 

[Deleted Member]

I had some immediately ask for my home address like as soon as I barely began speaking with them. I want a local femdom but that's just weird. 

[Vandalslut]

On 3/27/2020 at 8:32 PM, OldSpice said:

Be very careful!! I almost got stung recently. I thought I was reasonably savvy... She wanted me to pay her £5k in bitcoin & tried to blackmail me if i didn't pay

And the best answer to that one is, "Go on, knock yourself out, love!"

 

Hard to find a local femdom online.

[Vandalslut]

39 minutes ago, Tiger-5821 said:

I had some immediately ask for my home address like as soon as I barely began speaking with them.

Well done you for spotting them.

[Deleted Member]

Why should *** have something to do with a fake?! When someone wants ***, and delivers whatever you want. Like pictures and so on, then it has nothing to do with A fake! Just because you don't want to spend *** on a girl straight away, doesn't mean that it would be a fake! Also, a non existing € or $ sign in a profile doesn't say that a person that asks for *** would be a professional or a fake. At the moment you most likely find younger girls - and yeah a lot of fakes too - that just want to make fast, easy ***, without doing anything to extrem, that would expose them as a prostitute, call girl, cam girl or something like that.

What do you think is the sugar daddy and findom wave all about at the moment? There are people that try to create profiles with a similar goal, by stealing content of professionals or even verified amateur porn girls and regular women, but a lot of them are actual also real people that could even verify themselves.

 

Ways to identify all of them are very much the same as ever:
- Stay sharp, make a decent, non sexual conversation the first few days/weeks!
(...these people you don't want to get fooled from are in fact bored after just a few mails like that in between the first 12-48 hours!)

- Don't fool yourself and trust someone with a direct contact information in the profile! REPORT IT!!!

NO real local femdom  EVER would do that! (...and with real i mean just that there would be someone behind a profile with the goal to get to know someone to be with in a relationship like arrangement)

- Look at the basics!

If there are in fact every possible "Interested in:" and/or "I'm looking for:" choices made, take a step back and take a closer look! Some real people make these choices, but they most likely have a very alternative way to see the world, are really open and most of the time also very talkative. So if you don't see any text, don't waste your time, because that's not some of those open minded people i'm talking about. You would see a lot of information written down by them, really individual, nice, strange, thoughtful or whatever else. They know their way around words and would describe their way of seeing things!

- Look at the number of mails that this person wrote

In general i would not recommend to write a mail to a new female person here, if you have a desire to get to know someone. Often its a waste of time, since it seems to be a hobby of a lot of people to welcome each and everyone of them on a site like this. Your mail would most likely drown and go under in the first few days. I have talked about this stuff often and most women say that they are most of the time annoyed, if there are so many guys trying to get something out of their pants. The thing is, most of the time they are just disgusting and not even respectful. Think about it, you get 100+ Mails on a day or a 1000+ the first week. From people all over the place/world, mostly hinting that they want in fact just fuck you. And 90% of them are not even your type! What would you think?

If you see at the first day a female profile with 50-200+ Mails returned to those "welcome wagon guys" , than you guess right when you think: "Who would do that?!"

Most likely someone who phishes someone of the side, trys to fool people and has in fact created a fake profile or - that can be - a too polite person, that thanks everyone here and there for their nice words, admitting that she is overwhelmed and cannot talk to everyone. The last thing is something EVERYONE should understand, instead of pushing one star, because this one is "the arrogant bitch", because she did not answer again!

For guys which do that: "Grow yourself some balls man... and stop harassing every vagina that enters the page for the first 48 hours!"

- An empty page says nothing today. Many people don't bother anymore about real profiles. I call it the "appocalypse". Why creating a profile, when there are hundreds of apps on your phone and on every one of them your content for messages is at its limit every day?!

But the more you can read, the better the chances that there is a person that will make at least sense for the attempt to get to know someone or having a real conversation.

- A ton of pictures says also nothing at all, even with a verified hook. There are a lot of people that don't get that it is very unhealthy for the mind to get likes. Likes trigger the "reward center" - i don't know what it's really called in English - in a easy way and that makes people feel good. It can become a drug like addiction. It's one of the most dangerous things the internet brought up! So you would be well advised to now the difference between a person that craves for this sort of attention and a person that just put in some pictures to show you who this person is and what this person looks like. But get in your head that even a person that is in need of this sort of attention is more likely a real person and also NOT a fake!

 

For the mistress part i have to say, there are not many of these real local femdom women out there. So it is highly unlikely that it would be easy to find one. And if you do, i would recommend you to be straight, respectful and kind. I see no other real chance to get to know a women like that, since they most likely search for their prey on their own. Someone that tries to dominate you from the beginning will be most of the time a waste of time. If you read something like: "Call me your goddess, lick my heels..." or something like that, you may have found someone which wants *** or just fools around, because it's sooooo funny and they are soooo bored... you know?!

 

There are a lot of things to consider, before writing a mail in general. But you see at this reply on the topic, it's a lot already!
But one thing i would like to point out too. Just take a step back every now and then, get yourself together, stop the nice, great feeling that a imagination can create and be realistic! You will get a feeling for what is real and what is just a daydream. So you prevent yourself from getting lost in some sort of "non existing world", beyond the reality. In some cases i think it's very much to late, since some people really think they are "the master the world has to kneel in front of".

But i guess that happens if you get lost in your own greedy desire, don't remember your way back into the reality and nobody tells you that you went in fact a little overboard.

Nothing wrong with living your dream with a person, but boy, it's not healthy to live your dream on your own, trying to talk to a person that you don't even know like you already own them.

 

Best of luck finding your local femdom... and don't forget to add some logic to it every now and then...

[ey****]

3 hours ago, handlungsbedarf said:

Why should *** have something to do with a fake?! When someone wants ***, and delivers whatever you want. Like pictures and so on, then it has nothing to do with A fake!

Absolutely. Though, context applies.  

Someone who appears "hey, wanna buy my socks" has a good chance of being a real person.... but... it's against site rules anyway.

Someone who appears offering some form of "training" and wants a £100 Amazon GC... yeah, you're a mark on a quick win.

 

[Deleted Member]

4 hours ago, handlungsbedarf said:

Why should *** have something to do with a fake?! When someone wants ***, and delivers whatever you want. Like pictures and so on, then it has nothing to do with A fake! Just because you don't want to spend *** on a girl straight away, doesn't mean that it would be a fake!

I respect those who are clear about wanting ***. Doesn't need to have the badge behind their name, just a statement in their profile description is enough for me.

But someone who doesn't mention *** in their profile, and not even in the first numerous messages, showers me in ridiculous flattery, and then out of nowhere flashes out the bill, that person is a fake in my eyes.

[Deleted Member]

I agree, that should be or stay "strict forbidden". Even with the sugar baby faction. I mean what do they think nowadays, that because they have a vagina, we would act like it's a piggy bank?! 

And it's really something else for me and i don't ever will get it, because they have already 100+ mails from guys here, an open text in their profile what they want - a suitor, so *** and nothing else - and are 24-48 hours able to act! Sometimes even longer, weeks and even months, because nobody seems to want to report them! 
Even when i report cases, with open contact information in the profile text, what could be EVERY time also a ex boyfriend posting real contact information to the world, trying to get his personal revenge, it takes way to much time till the person has to verify!
The profile should be restricted instantly! At least if the report comes from people that don't *** these features. 
Every guy here should get his hands out of his pants and get their heads straight! Report instead of writing mails with those "persons"!

 

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But someone who doesn't mention *** in their profile, and not even in the first numerous messages, showers me in ridiculous flattery, and then out of nowhere flashes out the bill, that person is a fake in my eyes.

That would be right! Since i don't ever had such situations, i may forgot this possibility. My bad. 

Edited March 28, 2020 by Deleted Member

[Lokisgodhi]

I constantly get messages with phone numbers and them telling me to text them, so we can talk.

I call the numbers with and they're never the local femdom they're claiming. SHOCKER.