I have a weird question?

[ga****]

I have a question about I guess BDSM idk really, but if anyone has insight or can relate, I would love to hear about it. So I consider myself a switch, but I'm more of a submissive person, but lately, I think I figured out something about myself. If my partner is more nervous or embarrassed but mainly flustered about something, I feel weird, like I need to coach them through it or make them feel at eas, and it makes me feel weird like I'm trying to get that flustered reaction out of them and I don't know why exactly but it just feels right I guess if that makes sense and I don't know if there's a term for being more psychological dominant then physical but I'm usually not that person I'm more of the opposite really. If anyone can relate or give some insight on it, I would appreciate it.

[al****]

It's part of being a caregiver. It's natural to nurture. This does however sound like your partner might also be a submissive.

[Shenna]

Basically you are giving Dom/sub aftercare. Which is pretty normal amongst kinksters. Especially after a session. You know what would calm them down when they go into a hormone psychological drop. It's short term as long as you both know how to calm each other down

[Ma****]

Being comfortable is all part of bdsm and kink. Some scenes and scenarios can be alot heavier on the mind and body for submissives. So you doing that, coaching then through it, is not weird, it's not strange. It is a good thing that you do that, it shows you care, and that you are making your submissive comfortable before and after a session so this is all green flag behaviour. The terms genuinely would genuinely be "caregiver and aftercare". These are all massive green flag behaviours okay, most bdsm couples, doms and play partners have their own variations of it, but yeah you're doing great.

[Mmmay]

I’ve a question. Does this happen when your partner is supposed to to be steering the ship?

[ga****]

11 minutes ago, Mmmay said:

I’ve a question. Does this happen when your partner is supposed to to be steering the ship?

Sometimes, but I don't really mind it, it's just wired because it's new to me, I guess it's usually the opposite, but it's like the roles flip

[ga****]

Just wanted to say thank ya'll for helping

[YoursMaybe]

14 hours ago, gasmask_Nike said:

Sometimes, but I don't really mind it, it's just wired because it's new to me, I guess it's usually the opposite, but it's like the roles flip

Do you mind expanding on that?

[ga****]

2 hours ago, YoursMaybe said:

Do you mind expanding on that?

To explain, I guess if my partner is more flustered than, say myself, it's like a switch go's off in my head to take the lead which I'm not really a dominant person but it's almost impulsive and I don't know why it's weird because it starts off as psychological then some times snowballs in to me being the lead person and I have mixed feelings about it.

[YoursMaybe]

2 hours ago, gasmask_Nike said:

To explain, I guess if my partner is more flustered than, say myself, it's like a switch go's off in my head to take the lead which I'm not really a dominant person but it's almost impulsive and I don't know why it's weird because it starts off as psychological then some times snowballs in to me being the lead person and I have mixed feelings about it.

maybe you got some of that caregiver energy in you

[ga****]

1 hour ago, YoursMaybe said:

maybe you got some of that caregiver energy in you

Maby, but idk I don't want to over share, but if I got more of a caregiver side, it would be kind of ironic. I was a caregiver to my mom for 7 years, so idk I was kinda ***d to at the time.