Lo**** Posted May 20 What does a man or woman have to do for you, for you to submit to their every whim? What do they have to do or give you or at what point of your life do you have to be, to fully submit to your partner.
da**** Posted May 20 For me personally it’s about safety, I never experienced safety as a child so now if a man makes me feel safe and I can let my guard down and be *** I would do anything in the world for him, it’s such a release to be able to give up control and submit.
Us**** Posted May 20 I'd have to trust a person enough to let them touch me tbh so i completely agree guess i'm just a little more physical about it hehe
Wi**** Posted May 20 For me, it's about face to face. Communication, Seeing someone's eyes and most of all, it's real ! No matter how exciting online may be, it's still pretending and I don't do pretending. I can't , I simply don't feel the connection that comes with physical. You can pretend that you are having dinner with someone or you can have dinner with them . That applies to everything when you think about it.
da**** Posted May 20 For me, I need safety, leadership, loyalty, and respect. I do anything for a man who can give me those things.
Wi**** Posted May 20 7 minutes ago, danc1nqu33n said: For me, I need safety, leadership, loyalty, and respect. I do anything for a man who can give me those things. Personally, I think that those should be in the basic real life package.
de**** Posted May 20 Strength, leadership, loyalty, principles, respect,, candidness There's many on here that chat the chat and couldn't walk the walk for shit 🤷
Wi**** Posted May 20 There's a ton on here who have never done anything and think BDSM is an RPG, they have no idea what difficulties and pleasures exist in real life.
Li**** Posted May 20 Be the same person. Not as in, they're always wanting to be around you necessarily or do the same thing or have the same energy, but showing the "nice side" and "respectful side" isn't a psychopathic show before the real them comes out. I'm not letting any walls down to be a walking target for absolute maniacs and walking disrespect by saying how much it means to me for someone to just be a decent human being and leader man 😅 💁🏼♀️ Should go without saying, really! But even moreso in these kinds of dynamics/lifestyles/relationships! You can't expect without first giving (no matter which role you are) and this includes just basic things like manners, patience, caring, kindness, honesty and integrity.
Wi**** Posted May 20 2 hours ago, LittleSoulTease said: Be the same person. Not as in, they're always wanting to be around you necessarily or do the same thing or have the same energy, but showing the "nice side" and "respectful side" isn't a psychopathic show before the real them comes out. I'm not letting any walls down to be a walking target for absolute maniacs and walking disrespect by saying how much it means to me for someone to just be a decent human being and leader man 😅 💁🏼♀️ Should go without saying, really! But even moreso in these kinds of dynamics/lifestyles/relationships! You can't expect without first giving (no matter which role you are) and this includes just basic things like manners, patience, caring, kindness, honesty and integrity. I concur. Basic humanity shouldn't be too much to expect from anyone, especially in this lifestyle.
Ha**** Posted May 20 For me, full submission isn’t about being at a certain stage in life—it’s about how safe and seen I feel with someone. I can’t hand over that level of control unless I trust them to hold all the messy, tender parts of me with care, not just the obedient or polished pieces. It takes time. I need to feel emotionally protected, not just physically. I need consistency, not perfection. I need to know they won’t flinch when I’m soft, tired, or afraid. When someone shows up for me like that—when their presence feels like exhale, when their leadership feels like alignment, not domination—then I want to submit. Not because I’m told to, but because my whole body says, “I’m safe here.”
Li**** Posted May 20 28 minutes ago, HappyFatLady said: For me, full submission isn’t about being at a certain stage in life—it’s about how safe and seen I feel with someone. I can’t hand over that level of control unless I trust them to hold all the messy, tender parts of me with care, not just the obedient or polished pieces. It takes time. I need to feel emotionally protected, not just physically. I need consistency, not perfection. I need to know they won’t flinch when I’m soft, tired, or afraid. When someone shows up for me like that—when their presence feels like exhale, when their leadership feels like alignment, not domination—then I want to submit. Not because I’m told to, but because my whole body says, “I’m safe here.” Well said.
oh**** Posted May 29 My submission came from 1. accepting what hasn’t served me well and 2. exploring everything else within Sir’s framework of support and care. Ours is a dynamic that is elastic and stretches with the demands of the real world since we live it 24/7. And “every whim” looks so different day to day as we navigate careers and personal lives. All that to say, submission is easy when you have someone who is compassionate and understanding of the balance.
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