I’ve got a question

[hu****]

I’m a big caregiver but what are some things that a woman likes as far as receiving care?

[fa****]

I’m guessing pistachios

[hu****]

3 minutes ago, farfallafel said:

I’m guessing pistachios

That’s funny af

[hu****]

4 minutes ago, farfallafel said:

I’m guessing pistachios

I wonder if cheese dip works too?

[No****]

Being heard and being seen

[Da****]

My hair played with and lightly running your hand up and down my back to soothe and calm me

[De****]

I recently had a guy who would rub my neck and back and temples as after care are it was absolutely amazing. Make me feel valued.

[Gr****]

I had a meet scheduled with someone (with whom I’d been talking to for few months) for a week before my late sibling’s memorial. All I wanted was to be cuddled as the little spoon. He backed out, and I accepted that I didn’t *need* that kind of care.
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But damn, I wanted it.
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The shallow answer is: be the big spoon.
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The deeper answer is: be dependable.

Edited May 26 by Griot
Because I didn't realize a certain familial word was banned.

[ms****]

Every girl is different. But they all want to feel like they are important and special to you. And they should be.

[On****]

Reading your profile I am guessing you ask about care for pick up play (relationship dynamic is much longer)

What a submissive wants is to trust, trust you have not lied to her, trust you will keep her safe, trust in your dominance and control or her submission, trust when you break them you will be there to build them back up, trust you will read their body language when she needs more or have had enough, trust you will not only hear her limits but will protect them, trust you will not leave immediately after making her the crumpled mess you created, trust in the days that follow she is valued, trust she is seen... She wants trust
(oh, and she still wants the massage, the touches, cuddling and nachos too)

[hu****]

2 hours ago, One4theRoad said:

Reading your profile I am guessing you ask about care for pick up play (relationship dynamic is much longer)

What a submissive wants is to trust, trust you have not lied to her, trust you will keep her safe, trust in your dominance and control or her submission, trust when you break them you will be there to build them back up, trust you will read their body language when she needs more or have had enough, trust you will not only hear her limits but will protect them, trust you will not leave immediately after making her the crumpled mess you created, trust in the days that follow she is valued, trust she is seen... She wants trust
(oh, and she still wants the massage, the touches, cuddling and nachos too)

The question is just a question. Stop reading into it more than it is.

[CopperKnob]

You could start by asking the individual that you're in a relationship with? I'm guessing we all have a preference for different things?

[St****]

7 hours ago, One4theRoad said:

Reading your profile I am guessing you ask about care for pick up play (relationship dynamic is much longer)

What a submissive wants is to trust, trust you have not lied to her, trust you will keep her safe, trust in your dominance and control or her submission, trust when you break them you will be there to build them back up, trust you will read their body language when she needs more or have had enough, trust you will not only hear her limits but will protect them, trust you will not leave immediately after making her the crumpled mess you created, trust in the days that follow she is valued, trust she is seen... She wants trust
(oh, and she still wants the massage, the touches, cuddling and nachos too)

He's not receptive but could I chat with you more I'd like to learn.

[On****]

3 hours ago, StonerGrover said:

He's not receptive but could I chat with you more I'd like to learn.

One of the things I enjoy the most about the kink/bdsm community is the communication

[Ka****]

Being heard. Communication when things are difficult, to feel safe that it won't end just because it might be difficult.

Also, the "little" things. A while back, Master came for a visit. I had just gotten out of the shower, drying myself. Water was dripping down my back from my hair and He came up behind me and dried me off. That meant so much! (I just realized I never told him about that).

[De****]

I like that my Daddy understands me on a deep level. That helps guide him to my needs. Sometimes that reminding me to drink water, sometimes that’s listening when I’m having a tough day, sometimes it’s brushing my hair. It really depends on where I’m at in the moment. The biggest part is knowing you have someone too look out for you and have your best interests at heart.

[Wi****]

One of the things that always made my girl purr, was her curled up in my lap with her head on my shoulder talking. She didn't care what we were talking about ,she just needed the sound of my voice.
It gave her comfort and strength knowing that I was holding her.
That was mighty special to me too.

[ey****]

I think a little bit

what do you feel makes you a caregiver? 

this isn't meant loaded or anything - but something to think about yourself.  Like when you scrolled through different dynamic types and saw it - what made you feel "yes, that is me - that is me!"