Asexual/Demisexuals with a massive libido! What's your coping mechanism?

[th****]

Just wondering how do you manage your feelings and desires?

I think something that is commonly attributed to the asexual community is a repulsion to sex and it can be hard to find solidarity and company.

Anyway, I was just wondering what everyone felt cause I am poly and a huge slut, but at the same time my heart desires to only be with folks I feel a deep and solid connection to.

[Th****]

Dancing. Massage. To some extent shibari . Masturbation. Time with friends. Gym.

[sc****]

I struggle!

[Lu****]

I accept the fact that I rarely have anyone that does want to be intimate with me on a deep level like that. So I just focus on working out, hobbies, walks and finding solidarity on my loneliness. It's hard being neurdivergent and demisexual and trying to connect with people about my sexuality, feeling meaningful connection and needs for intimacy/physical touch. Without other's taking a very reductive interpretation of my needs because I'm a guy and I just want sex. Even though I very much enjoy emotional bonding and mental stimulation much more satisfying with platonic and sexual activities. I'm more or less just trying to bide my time to encounter an individual that understands me, and has mutual interest/needs that make a intimate relationship comfortable. Until then it's mainly just solo stuff.

[Qu****]

This is an interesting topic

[Ha****]

I’ve had a toy and porn collection for as long as I can remember, so I’ve always found ways to meet my physical needs. But being demisexual means I don’t crave sex unless there’s real connection and that’s not easy to find. Most of the time, I’m good. I don’t *** it. I let the urges pass or take care of them when they come.

But when I do connect with someone? It’s like something unlocks. The want, the hunger; it hits all at once. I’ve been called greedy because once I feel safe and open, I want to explore everything. I don’t just want a taste, I want to devour. And I don’t apologize for that.

For someone like me, finding that person is rare. But when it happens, the possibilities aren’t just endless, they’re overwhelming in the best way.

[bh****]

As a demisexual male with a high libido. It has boiled down to lots of porn and masturbation.

[Ja****]

Being a demi-sexual with a high libido without a partner is a real sexy struggle. I manage with lots of solo play and self pleasure.

[do****]

I posted this on another thread but I think it should be here as well:

For me I struggle to find people who want me when my desire to submit is separate from sexual desire. Sometimes it can be smushed together, but before a serious connection it’s just a basic need I have sometimes. To be called a good girl and cared for and be looked upon as purely a submissive being instead of something sexual feels freeing to me.

I’m trying to find someone who will be my Dom and take time with me