🌹 Listen to Yourself

[da****]

Because your submission isn’t silence, it’s a symphony. Learn the sound of your own heartbeat, and choose who gets to dance to it.
What it means:
This isn’t about ego. It’s about intuition. About knowing your limits, your desires, your ***s, your needs, and trusting that they are valid. Listening to yourself means tuning into your body, your emotions, your gut reactions… not silencing them in the name of “pleasing.”
Your submission is sacred, baby. It’s a fucking gift. So before you kneel, before you say “yes, Sir,” before you spread those thighs, check in with the one voice that matters most: yours.
How to practice it:
✨ Take time to reflect before saying yes, pause is power.
✨ Feel for tension. Are you melting into the scene, or clenching behind your smile?
✨ Journal your desires, limits, fantasies. Keep a map of who you are.
✨ Don’t ignore those little red flags or gut twists, they’re your guardians.
✨ If something doesn’t sit right, say so. A true Dom will honor that strength.
This doesn’t make you bratty. Or difficult. Or high-maintenance.
It makes you conscious.
It makes you dangerous in all the right ways.
Example:
You’re mid-scene. Bound. Blindfolded. Everything humming. But then a hand lands a little harder than expected, or maybe he touches something too soon. Your body doesn’t open; it flinches.
So you speak.
“orange.”
One word. Steady.
The room stills.
His voice drops low. “Talk to me.”
And instead of the scene crashing down, it transforms.
Because you listened to yourself, and so did he. That’s not the end of the scene. That’s the start of a deeper level of trust.
Call to discussion for Fet:
> Subs—when did you learn to really listen to yourself? Has your gut ever saved you from the wrong Dom… or deepened your trust with the right one?
Doms—how do you create space for your sub’s inner voice? Share how you tune into their non-verbal cues and keep that trust sacred.

[as****]

Well said. Something I learned over the years of being a dom. she is submitting and caring for her is dom’s responsibility

[On****]

Reading her body language can be the hardest non verbal clues to master. I love bringing on what I call "blowing bubbles" stage, unable to form words or sentences lost in her sub-space. For me learning her body language starts long before any scene or play, various conversations will elicit a laugh, a tear, desire, struggle... I listen, I watch and pay attention not just to her words but the story her eyes tell, her hands clench when tense, the wiggle of excitement, lift of her shoulders when she struggles or closing of her knees when she feels vulner*ble. These all become part of my non verbal vocabulary for her. It might mean continuing or might be ending an impact session not because she said she's had enough but because I felt she has, there are many other things to do.

[Ec****]

This is such a beautiful and empowering perspective on consent and communication 🩷

[Go****]

It has taken me a very long time to begin to be able to listen to my gut feelings. And even longer to have the courage to actually trust it and do something with that feeling. But I’m glad I have. It has saved me more than once.

My partner uses his instincts to read me, check in with me and support me, and I can say it’s a comforting assurance that he is always looking out for me and my best interests, and I feel it has directly contributed to the trust we have in one another.

[Deleted Member]

Love it

[CumWhatMayhem]

Very well written!