Munches & Fetish Events as a Lesbian?

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I’ve had some solid experience as a switchy bratty sub over the past few years, but now that I’m single, I’ve been hesitant to attend local munches or events alone. I’m also having a hard time finding other kinky women or queer folks in the scene 😅

I’d love advice from anyone active in real life for a while. How do you go about meeting and connecting with people, especially when you’re shy and don’t know anyone yet? Are there unspoken rules at munches or is it more casual and social?

If you’ve had good experiences connecting with other WLW or queer folks specifically, I’d love to hear about that too.

Thanks in advance to anyone who shares advice. I appreciate it 🙈

[ro****]

It is hard it feels like only unicorn hunters show up to munches.

[Pr****]

Me not even knowing what munches are😭

[pn****]

im bout to host one in this comment section

[Sh****]

There’s a very lgbt friendly group in st Pete

[MissAngie]

2 hours ago, PrettyPrincessEve21 said:

Me not even knowing what munches are😭

A Munch is a Social gathering over a couple of drinks or whatever to meet like minded people in the Fetish world, there are usually all different genres of kinky people that attend, looking for play, friendship all kinds of reasons, but it is not a Play Event usually.

[Pe****]

The general problem with munches is that they usually take place at restaurants. Tables end up filled by pre-established friend groups with no room for newcomers. Given that those groups tend not to mingle, a newcomer can easily end up sitting by themselves and feeling out of place. A good coordinator will try to move around to meet new people and introduce them to people. In my local community, that has fallen off. The new age seem to only want to talk to you if they have that first glance attraction and want to play.
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As such, when attending, it can be vital to have the confidence to approach others in a friendly manner. You got the advantages of being a woman and queer so as long as you aren't overly aggressive, people should warm to you fairly quickly. Think in terms of sharing your interests more than expressing your desires. Just go with the intent of meeting new friends and making connections. Munches are about community more than looking for dates and play. Become a member of the community before you try to jump into playing, and you can find a lot of respect and friends as well as new potential partners.
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Good luck meeting new folks!