The desire of SUBMISSION

[Ma****]

Just a sexual desire ? Or a real lifestyle desire ?
Is Submitting whiteout having sex still possible?

The BDSM world is a safe place we mainly have Dominants & submissives
I would like to talk to submissive about SUBMISSION
Nowadays I noticed that the BDSM lifestyle is really sexualized which means most of subs submit for a sexual desire not by passion of submission
People are different so certainly has different desires.

How did you discovered your desire of submission ?
Why do you think submitting is good for you ?
Does submitting makes your life better?
Which kind of sub are you ?
Is your submission just a sexual desire ?
Or does it make part of your lifestyle?

[AloneBootymanmaxzx]

I dont see anything as good for me and i feel your way into deep with this

[ja****]

WORSHIPPER
Why does devotion feel like suffering?
I came seeking peace… not this.

GODDESS
You came seeking truth.
And truth cuts deeper than comfort.
Submission isn’t silence. It’s surrender without losing yourself.

WORSHIPPER
Then why does freedom hurt?

GODDESS
Because you’re still clinging to control.
Freedom asks for everything.
Devotion asks that you stay, even when it burns.

WORSHIPPER
So my *** is sacred?

GODDESS
Only if it’s honest.
Even shattered offerings shine when given with a whole heart.

WORSHIPPER (softly)
Then take it.
It’s all I have left.

GODDESS (gently)
And it is enough.
Now go. You are not mine because you knelt,
but because you dared to rise.

(Pause)

GODDESS (smirking)
Also… do you happen to have an Amazon loyalty card?
I hear faith points now come with two-day shipping.

WORSHIPPER (blinking)
Is that… divine sarcasm?

GODDESS (grinning)
I invented irony. Don’t act surprised.

Do you think im playing with fire, you see where i am going with this? Sadly this is BDSM now lifestyle

[ge****]

For me it's an innate thing - I'm naturally a submissive person, that likes to please so when I submit it comes from there - it doesn't mean I'm a pushover though - I'm a strong willed, intelligent man who won't be taken for a fool.
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Yes, for some there's a sexual side to it - personally I can take or leave that, many of my submissive encounters have been totally without sex being involved and have been blissful all the same.
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The key to control for me is through the mind - capture my mind and you capture me.

[sl****]

Submission is the ultimate trust into that Dom being able to meet all your needs. I have a very high sexual need so if its not met then no total submission would not be possible without sex

[ap****]

Submission for me is both sexual and non sexual. I know this is going to sound weird but in my life I am the one in control all the time outside of the bedroom. I make all the decisions in my house and there are times I just don't want to be in control. Even now with my husband I am the one in control in the bedroom because of health reasons. So when I have a friend come over they are the ones in control in my bedroom. I am a brat and will question and tease but I will also take my punishment. I don't care if we have sex or not but that is their call because they are in control. I have been told I am an attention seeking brat and I would have to agree

[ra****]

Submission can occur in a variety of ways, some of which are more subtle than others.

In a power exchange dynamic it’s fairly straightforward, but it wasn’t until I had been divorced for a few years that I realized how many little ways I was showing submission to my ex husband.
Mostly that came in the form of asking for his input on decisions because I trusted he was capable of making in the best interest of our family, but that man always defaulted to me when it came time to make them. It became clearer when I we tried and failed to co-parent because he put our oldest daughter in the same position he put me in.

With him, I think it boiled down to the fact that he doesn’t like to be held accountable for the consequences of his decisions, but ultimately I think that put me in my masculine energy. No wonder I was so uncomfortable all the time 🤷🏻‍♀️

Towards the end, he complained about me needing to control everything and at the end of the day, I kinda feel like most women seek control in areas where they feel like they can’t trust a man to lead.

I never really considered myself to be a submissive woman, but the fact is deep down I think it’s in our nature.

[Pe****]

These days, it seems difficult to even find submission. The people who call themselves submissives tend to be strict, controlling, dominant people who want to experience something being done to them how, when, and where they demand it. If you don't give them what they want when they want it, they don't consider you worth their time. If you want them to do something but they don't feel like it right now, you either do as they say or you're a bad person. Dominant masochism instead of submission. "I like being spanked when I want it" instead of "I like letting them spank me when they want to."

Is it possible to have submission without it being sexual? Definitely. I'm just not sure actual submission exists anymore. It has become exceedingly rare over the last decade or two.

[Ha****]

Submission lives in me. It’s not just sex. It’s not just a game. It’s how I choose to move with someone I trust. I lead everywhere else. I carry everything. I wanted a space where I could put it all down. Where I could soften without the world falling apart.

That’s what submission gives me. Rest. Structure. Care. But I don’t submit to just anyone. Your title doesn’t earn you my trust. You don’t get to lead me just because you say you can. I will push. I will test. I need to know you can handle me. I need to know you see me and you don’t flinch.

There’s a little brat in me. I like to poke. I like to pull. I like to see if you’re paying attention. But the truth is, I want to be caught. I want to be pulled back in. I want you to notice when I’m slipping without me having to say it.

I am a service sub at my core. I love taking care of the people I give myself to. I want to be useful. I want to please. But I also want to be cared for. Submission makes my life better because it lets me stop gripping so tightly. It teaches me to accept help. To rest. To trust.

This isn’t a performance. This isn’t about being small. This is about choosing to give something real to someone who has earned it. My submission lives in my life, not just in the bedroom. It shapes how I love, how I trust, how I connect.

I don’t need to be overpowered. I need to be held.

That’s why I submit.

[Ma****]

11 hours ago, HappyFatLady said:

Submission lives in me. It’s not just sex. It’s not just a game. It’s how I choose to move with someone I trust. I lead everywhere else. I carry everything. I wanted a space where I could put it all down. Where I could soften without the world falling apart.

That’s what submission gives me. Rest. Structure. Care. But I don’t submit to just anyone. Your title doesn’t earn you my trust. You don’t get to lead me just because you say you can. I will push. I will test. I need to know you can handle me. I need to know you see me and you don’t flinch.

There’s a little brat in me. I like to poke. I like to pull. I like to see if you’re paying attention. But the truth is, I want to be caught. I want to be pulled back in. I want you to notice when I’m slipping without me having to say it.

I am a service sub at my core. I love taking care of the people I give myself to. I want to be useful. I want to please. But I also want to be cared for. Submission makes my life better because it lets me stop gripping so tightly. It teaches me to accept help. To rest. To trust.

This isn’t a performance. This isn’t about being small. This is about choosing to give something real to someone who has earned it. My submission lives in my life, not just in the bedroom. It shapes how I love, how I trust, how I connect.

I don’t need to be overpowered. I need to be held.

That’s why I submit.

Very interesting! By reading you I saw a submissive who actually takes pleasure from her submission. No need to be tied or spanked you take pleasure by giving yourself to someone you trust . Pure submission
Now days almost all the sub when they talk about submission they directly see themselves being spanked , fucked … everything is rely to sex
That bratty side is interesting tho
I hope you’re put in your place the way you deserve

[Ma****]

11 hours ago, Pet_Mimic said:

These days, it seems difficult to even find submission. The people who call themselves submissives tend to be strict, controlling, dominant people who want to experience something being done to them how, when, and where they demand it. If you don't give them what they want when they want it, they don't consider you worth their time. If you want them to do something but they don't feel like it right now, you either do as they say or you're a bad person. Dominant masochism instead of submission. "I like being spanked when I want it" instead of "I like letting them spank me when they want to."

Is it possible to have submission without it being sexual? Definitely. I'm just not sure actual submission exists anymore. It has become exceedingly rare over the last decade or two.

There’s no BDSM without consent.
First of all before starting a relationship the Dom is supposed to have a conversation with the sub to know about her and her limits …
So it’s normal for the sub to say no to something she’s not into
You can’t do whatever you want because she’s or he is a sub . We always respect partner’s consent
So it’s not about not being real submissive but I think it’s a lake of communication between the two partners.

[Ma****]

12 hours ago, raleigh953174 said:

Submission can occur in a variety of ways, some of which are more subtle than others.

In a power exchange dynamic it’s fairly straightforward, but it wasn’t until I had been divorced for a few years that I realized how many little ways I was showing submission to my ex husband.
Mostly that came in the form of asking for his input on decisions because I trusted he was capable of making in the best interest of our family, but that man always defaulted to me when it came time to make them. It became clearer when I we tried and failed to co-parent because he put our oldest daughter in the same position he put me in.

With him, I think it boiled down to the fact that he doesn’t like to be held accountable for the consequences of his decisions, but ultimately I think that put me in my masculine energy. No wonder I was so uncomfortable all the time 🤷🏻‍♀️

Towards the end, he complained about me needing to control everything and at the end of the day, I kinda feel like most women seek control in areas where they feel like they can’t trust a man to lead.

I never really considered myself to be a submissive woman, but the fact is deep down I think it’s in our nature.

It’s really unfortunate! Because it’s a family problem. But once again it shows how much it’s important to have someone you can trust when you need guidance
You gave him keys but he wasn’t realizing it until he noticed that you were trying to do his job while he was afraid to face problems for his family.
Does your experience gave you some desire of dominance? Or kept you in your submissive side ?

[Ha****]

Submission has to start somewhere; if for many that means only through physical act, that’s fine. I prefer more and being a demisexual, no connection means no play.

[Ma****]

22 minutes ago, HappyFatLady said:

Submission has to start somewhere; if for many that means only through physical act, that’s fine. I prefer more and being a demisexual, no connection means no play.

It’s especially the view some people have of submission. I’ve been into this for a long moment now and personally I can say that in BDSM nothing is more intense, beautiful and exciting than devotion.
Perfect devotion is the highest level you can reach in your relationship
Because that’s means you’re created such a safe place that your partner can trust you without any doubt and giving herself with all the love and desire

[Pr****]

In life, I find myself being an alpha female. But as a single, working mother, I kind of have no choice due to not having anyone to submit to. For me, I desire to submit in every way. It's far more than sexual. I dream of a total power exchange. That kind of trust takes time to build, but it's my goal! I find submission to be important in every facet of life

[gr****]

What I was married I had the perfect relationship as far being submissive those 100% absolute devotion to the wife dressed and did whatever she told me whenever we were home submitted to every will and command she had out in public or in front of people we were equals but as soon as it was just us back in our home she would be in absolute and definitive control and as far as the sexual situation go I would serve her every whim incomplete and absolute server two to her commands and we both we're very content and happy with our position in our relationship

[Kr****]

I love good leadership. I follow gladly, if someone is more competent than me and wants us both to succeed. The further I proceeded in my career the rarer I had the luxury of having someone I can ask for guidance and advice. Being the most competent guy in a room sucks. Organising a group and kicking lazy peoples butts sucks.

When my GF, who has a huge knowledge about kinky stuff, tells me calmly and in a soft warm voice everything is fine and I'll get used to it, so I should just relax and try to enjoy the stuff we do (and I can trust her to never really damage me and always want me to enjoy it in the long run, too) this gives me a feeling of being looked after I can't remember of when I had it the last time before our relationship...

[Pe****]

Friday at 10:24 AM, MasterDomKZ said:

There’s no BDSM without consent.
First of all before starting a relationship the Dom is supposed to have a conversation with the sub to know about her and her limits …
So it’s normal for the sub to say no to something she’s not into
You can’t do whatever you want because she’s or he is a sub . We always respect partner’s consent
So it’s not about not being real submissive but I think it’s a lake of communication between the two partners.

What you said is true but entirely parallel to my point.
You should always discuss kinks and boundaries beforehand. I'm talking about after that. When they say no to something they are into, that they agreed should happen when they behave poorly, when they are doing something they agreed should be considered bad behavior and needs to be punished, but they don't want it RIGHT NOW. They only want it when they tell you to do it to them and break the previously agreed to terms when they don't want it. Cherry on top being that they get angry at you when you don't want to submit to their whims even though they're the ones who are not being true to their word.

[oa****]

My name mark im trying read these adds because i want get more experince as sub

[Ma****]

Sunday at 03:28 PM, oakland951 said:

My name mark im trying read these adds because i want get more experince as sub

I hope you’ll discover some types and advices to help you about that

[Ma****]

Sunday at 04:37 AM, Pet_Mimic said:

What you said is true but entirely parallel to my point.
You should always discuss kinks and boundaries beforehand. I'm talking about after that. When they say no to something they are into, that they agreed should happen when they behave poorly, when they are doing something they agreed should be considered bad behavior and needs to be punished, but they don't want it RIGHT NOW. They only want it when they tell you to do it to them and break the previously agreed to terms when they don't want it. Cherry on top being that they get angry at you when you don't want to submit to their whims even though they're the ones who are not being true to their word.

I understand better now. Once you’re with a Dom or Master … you can’t decide when or how to play. Your Dom decides about everything by respecting your limits.
But yea I understand what you mean, could be annoying

[Ma****]

Saturday at 08:34 PM, Krateros said:

I love good leadership. I follow gladly, if someone is more competent than me and wants us both to succeed. The further I proceeded in my career the rarer I had the luxury of having someone I can ask for guidance and advice. Being the most competent guy in a room sucks. Organising a group and kicking lazy peoples butts sucks.

When my GF, who has a huge knowledge about kinky stuff, tells me calmly and in a soft warm voice everything is fine and I'll get used to it, so I should just relax and try to enjoy the stuff we do (and I can trust her to never really damage me and always want me to enjoy it in the long run, too) this gives me a feeling of being looked after I can't remember of when I had it the last time before our relationship...

It’s a positive thing being able to let go, to trust without *** and worries
I hope you’re enjoying your moments

[Ma****]

Saturday at 03:34 PM, grand-rapids47240 said:

What I was married I had the perfect relationship as far being submissive those 100% absolute devotion to the wife dressed and did whatever she told me whenever we were home submitted to every will and command she had out in public or in front of people we were equals but as soon as it was just us back in our home she would be in absolute and definitive control and as far as the sexual situation go I would serve her every whim incomplete and absolute server two to her commands and we both we're very content and happy with our position in our relationship

Devotion is the best thing you can give to your Mistress or Master . I can see that you two were really connected
Did you met someone else like her ?

[Ma****]

Friday at 05:51 PM, PrincessMyra said:

In life, I find myself being an alpha female. But as a single, working mother, I kind of have no choice due to not having anyone to submit to. For me, I desire to submit in every way. It's far more than sexual. I dream of a total power exchange. That kind of trust takes time to build, but it's my goal! I find submission to be important in every facet of life

Yea to reach that level it takes time and a lot of patience and efforts. But once it’s done, you can be sure to have something incredibly strong and beautiful.
Do you consider yourself a domestic submissive type ?

[do****]

For me I struggle to find people who want me when my desire to submit is separate from sexual desire. Sometimes it can be smushed together, but before a serious connection it’s just a basic need I have sometimes. To be called a good girl and cared for and be looked upon as purely a submissive being instead of something sexual feels freeing to me.