Does it make me a slut/ whore

[re****]

Whores are paid for sex... so if u aren't taking m*ney then not a whore

[Ga****]

I’ve been called a whore most by guys I’d turned down. Being a whore is not real. And nobody ever has the right of using any word as an insult to your person. You neither. You are not a whore. Or if you choose to embrace the word, then there’s nothing wrong with being a whore.

It’s your body. It was designed for your pleasure. Women have so many erogenous points that lead to orgasm. Society has taught our generation and the ones before ours that women aren’t supposed to like sex; men have a physiological need for sex, while women do it for love, for the emotional connection rather than the physical pleasure. I was raised to believe that. And many of my friends, too.

That has a plethora of negative effects on the psychology of both genders.

We (women) are basically told that the male orgasm is fundamental, because unless we can guarantee it he won’t come back for more. At the same time, ours isn’t- we’re supposed to be there for love, so who cares if we don’t have an orgasm? And if we demand one, well, then we’re whores because we’re having sex for the orgasm instead of the emotional connection. And how dare we? How dare we enjoy our bodies, use them, differently than in service of men?

It also fucks us up (and them) when we approach a new interaction: we were taught to be needy because if sex doesn’t mean love we’re whores, so they expect us to fall for them, and so do we, to some extent. And that’s why they (some of them) lie about what they want; because they’ve been taught that if they dangle love we’ll go to bed with them. So they learn to be dishonest about their feelings to get into our pants.

Additionally, if we dare have had more experiences than the guy… then it’s not a conquest to get us. It lessens their triumph that they were able to convince us to go to bed with them, because we enjoy sex, and they might have some talents, but it was our decision, not their conquest. And how dare we lessen their prowess by not having been devout virgins until they came along?

This is all bullshit. Our bodies were built for the pleasure you (we) crave. The body is yours. Nobody has the right to have a say on how you choose to enjoy it. It is your body. You should enjoy it. Slut shaming belongs to insecure people. Only insecure people slut shame.

And to conclude with a deep literary quote, just to give myself some airs about the big books I read:

Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. (Dr. Seuss)


Have fun 😊 you deserve it for sure 😊

[Be****]

Sometimes you just have to forget the negative labels that were once put on women who choose to be themselves... and celebrate being a proud independent woman. I'm a slut, I am free, I am happy!

[He****]

Whoa whoa, we all need to stop saying slut in a bad way.
Slutty can be good! (Skank is bad)
Don't let others dictate your choices.
Don't let others press up on you their beliefs and practices.
Be your own person, be safe, make informed decisions based on your desires!
Whore and .... the " C "word are insults thrown like weapons by immature tards that just wanna lash out for 1 reason or another.
......sticks and stones......

[Da****]

My view is that the title is less important than your association to it. If you are happy with yourself, if you find pleasure and joy and happiness in pursuing something or someone than why not enjoy it? When someone else insultingly calls you any slur it's them casting their internal judgements on you. They are using what everyone else has told them is right or wrong to judge you. Who cares what they think? If they don't care about you enough to even try to understand your perspective than I would do my best to just put them out of my mind and move forward. Regardless of what titles other people call you, as long as you are proud of yourself than words don't matter.

[Ga****]

13 hours ago, HommeEtranger60 said:

Societal and religious conditioning are so powerful that you’re apprehensive about simply pursuing what feels natural for you because you’re blocked by a single word.

Since you threw it to the community for reassurance, I’ll start there. Of course you’re not a whore for pursuing your joy. And if you’ve been called a whore, it was probably by people who were frightened of the urges they repress, and jealous that you aren’t constrained by the conventional idea of what is / isn’t ok.

I thought the second half of your question was the more important one. How can you get the thought of being a whore out of your mind? That indicates that you’ve accepted the disparaging definition of whore as simply being someone sexually promiscuous.

One idea might be to take away the word’s power.

You aren’t a s3x worker (nothing wrong with that, btw) and you don’t compromise your principles for access to what you seek, so on the two textbook biblical definitions, you’re not a whore. The devil is in the third definition as someone promiscuous. You may not know that definition dates back only to the puritanical era.

Before that, the word promiscuous meant simply a collection of things taken at random. Does that change things?

I’ve read your profile. You’re vetting what you want. You have a specific idea. Doesn’t seem random - or promiscuous - to me.

When we’re asking how to take away a word’s or an idea’s power to make us feel something negative, that requires some internal work. When / why did I start seeing the word whore as negative? Did someone hurt me or make me feel less than by calling me a whore? Maybe if you can unlock those answers inside of you, you can free yourself from the hold of that word.

And since you closed by talking about looking down upon yourself, there’s a whole cross-section of people in this community who can probably help you flip the script and turn the degrading aspects into an erotic thing. But that wasn’t the question, so…

I thought the basic, “you’re not a whore” was too easy a path for a question that’s really about self image. Which led me down the rabbit hole.

So… sorry for the length. Thanks for coming to my TED Talk. 😂

Good luck.

I believe the negative stigma comes not from insults directed to ourselves, but from always having heard the word as an insult. Even when we weren’t part of the conversation, even when the conversation wasn’t even a real conversation but something we saw on tv. We have had television on in the background from when we were in mum’s belly, so we’ve been hearing whore used as an insult before we even knew what it meant, what its connotation was, what an insult was. It’s as well radicated in our minds as the notion that the sky is blue, or flowers are pretty. If asked what color the sky was, wouldn’t anyone instinctively answer blue? We’ve known whore to be an insult so long it’s programmed in our heads as such, with the same strength as is our notion not to touch fire.
It’s finally something we have conversations about and debate, but it only became a conscious thought after having been subconscious knowledge for decades. We’ve known whore to be a bad thing before we were ever capable of questioning it.
This said, I love your comment and whole heartedly agree with all of it.

[Ta****]

3 hours ago, BerryBrighton said:

Sometimes you just have to forget the negative labels that were once put on women who choose to be themselves... and celebrate being a proud independent woman. I'm a slut, I am free, I am happy!

Go on Berry! 😂😈😮‍💨 you absolute beauty xx

[Lord_Talion]

It's a common saying that a slut will have sexwith everyone while a whore will have sex with everyone except for me lol

[Lord_Talion]

If you have a primarynpartner, have them call you their whore or a good slut

[ol****]

Look, not going to sugar coat it, and go anyone that believes what they believe they can, but English language has definitions for a reason, to convey meaning- so by definition, your not a whore (a person that is a prostitute, and your not a postitute unless you accept *** or compensation for sexual services). However, you would be classified as a slut, which is definitely what I would define you as, as you have casual sex with multiple people.

So many will tell you “girls your not a girl, your just embracing female femininity, and empowering yourself” or “your just expressed your repressed self”

These are people who are also likely, not all, but likely to be classified as sluts, saying they are not sluts- see the hypocrisy?

But, being a slut isn’t bad if you like being one, but all things comes with a price - being a jackass, comes with a price, being a “nice guy” comes with a price, heck even being a good guy comes with a price

We will forever be stigmatised by our own actions, but you have to decide whether that’s something you don’t mind, or something you do.

Being with multiple partners might feel thrilling at first, but eventually they just become numbers - they eventually make deeper connections harder, as you’ve witnessed so many experiences, some statistically can’t compare.

If you don’t like society or people calling you a slut, then don’t engage in slutty experiences or actions - same as, if you want to not be a jackass, you learn to control your impulse control and empathy.

You will never not get someone to call you a slut if you act like one - and no offence if you are one, you can’t really get upset- it’s just factually correct.

Same goes for males, if they engage in multiple casual sexual acts, they are a slut- however some may say society created this norm, but it doesn’t, biology does; it’s easily to blame society, but when it happens so often it becomes less of a outcome of society and more of one of pure biology.

Women don’t go with many virgin males, they have a preference for a man with higher numbers, especially with many happy women in bed - a study was conducted on this, and found, those that mentioned successful dates, or sexual encounters experienced more women wanting to get with them

However, males are different- for sexual relationships, they don’t care, if they are desperate or even just like your looks, however they will completely dissociate when it comes to love, and having you as a partner - those that don’t, it’s because either they don’t think they have worth, or they think they are “wonder man” - the man the tame the girl - which in other words, their delusional.

Society doesn’t create these normals, there are more than countless people trying to break down these predispositions - but they won’t. - unless people change, against their nature, which the desire to fuck is very primal in essence - it’s a feeling, a feeling of missing something and wanting the feeling to be satisfied- it’s not one brought by societal expectations or pressures.

People can comment, and suggest this isn’t the case - but it makes sense biologically, remember contraception isn’t a thing in biology, to your body it doesn’t exist. Every time you would have sex in history it would potentially lead to having a child - so you would have to be careful, picking a partner, in the case of women liking experience, if everytime you have sex you have a high likelihood of pregnancy, the times you have sex would be largely spaced - so that experience better be so dam good sex.

For males, many partners would signify less than idea partner - as tests to check paternity wouldn’t also exist.

Sexual preferences have changed due to the added benefit of contraception, it allows to bush against the need - but not entirely

Studs are call studs because many women see a man with experience as enticing, - there is a reason why married men seem to find it easier to find another

Although I’ve gotten off track, the main message is for those who believe these are just societal norms, - when they have been around since centuries; some things of course are influenced by society, but not all.

But I personally believe definitions should apply to all they apply to - if you don’t like the idea of being a slut, don’t be one - we do have something called free will - although it’s very, very, very hard to fight one’s desires- you have to decide whether some prick calling you a slut matters to you, or it doesn’t- but regardless be okay with accepting it, because they aren’t technically wrong.

[Do****]

A woman wrote a blog on here about sexual relations with different partners. I rather enjoyed it, but can't think of the title. But I will look. You will find lots of useful knowledge and opinions. THE ONLY ONE THAT MATTERS IS YOUR OWN. EF WHAT OTHERS THINK!!!!

[le****]

Words are just words. You enjoy what you enjoy. And you can’t please everyone.

[Ho****]

4 hours ago, GabsGabsinG said:

I believe the negative stigma comes not from insults directed to ourselves, but from always having heard the word as an insult. Even when we weren’t part of the conversation, even when the conversation wasn’t even a real conversation but something we saw on tv. We have had television on in the background from when we were in mum’s belly, so we’ve been hearing whore used as an insult before we even knew what it meant, what its connotation was, what an insult was. It’s as well radicated in our minds as the notion that the sky is blue, or flowers are pretty. If asked what color the sky was, wouldn’t anyone instinctively answer blue? We’ve known whore to be an insult so long it’s programmed in our heads as such, with the same strength as is our notion not to touch fire.
It’s finally something we have conversations about and debate, but it only became a conscious thought after having been subconscious knowledge for decades. We’ve known whore to be a bad thing before we were ever capable of questioning it.
This said, I love your comment and whole heartedly agree with all of it.

Tried to send this directly, so as not to muddy the thread, but thanks for the response and the kindness at the end.

[Ga****]

7 hours ago, oliver6996 said:

Look, not going to sugar coat it, and go anyone that believes what they believe they can, but English language has definitions for a reason, to convey meaning- so by definition, your not a whore (a person that is a prostitute, and your not a postitute unless you accept *** or compensation for sexual services). However, you would be classified as a slut, which is definitely what I would define you as, as you have casual sex with multiple people.

So many will tell you “girls your not a girl, your just embracing female femininity, and empowering yourself” or “your just expressed your repressed self”

These are people who are also likely, not all, but likely to be classified as sluts, saying they are not sluts- see the hypocrisy?

But, being a slut isn’t bad if you like being one, but all things comes with a price - being a jackass, comes with a price, being a “nice guy” comes with a price, heck even being a good guy comes with a price

We will forever be stigmatised by our own actions, but you have to decide whether that’s something you don’t mind, or something you do.

Being with multiple partners might feel thrilling at first, but eventually they just become numbers - they eventually make deeper connections harder, as you’ve witnessed so many experiences, some statistically can’t compare.

If you don’t like society or people calling you a slut, then don’t engage in slutty experiences or actions - same as, if you want to not be a jackass, you learn to control your impulse control and empathy.

You will never not get someone to call you a slut if you act like one - and no offence if you are one, you can’t really get upset- it’s just factually correct.

Same goes for males, if they engage in multiple casual sexual acts, they are a slut- however some may say society created this norm, but it doesn’t, biology does; it’s easily to blame society, but when it happens so often it becomes less of a outcome of society and more of one of pure biology.

Women don’t go with many virgin males, they have a preference for a man with higher numbers, especially with many happy women in bed - a study was conducted on this, and found, those that mentioned successful dates, or sexual encounters experienced more women wanting to get with them

However, males are different- for sexual relationships, they don’t care, if they are desperate or even just like your looks, however they will completely dissociate when it comes to love, and having you as a partner - those that don’t, it’s because either they don’t think they have worth, or they think they are “wonder man” - the man the tame the girl - which in other words, their delusional.

Society doesn’t create these normals, there are more than countless people trying to break down these predispositions - but they won’t. - unless people change, against their nature, which the desire to fuck is very primal in essence - it’s a feeling, a feeling of missing something and wanting the feeling to be satisfied- it’s not one brought by societal expectations or pressures.

People can comment, and suggest this isn’t the case - but it makes sense biologically, remember contraception isn’t a thing in biology, to your body it doesn’t exist. Every time you would have sex in history it would potentially lead to having a child - so you would have to be careful, picking a partner, in the case of women liking experience, if everytime you have sex you have a high likelihood of pregnancy, the times you have sex would be largely spaced - so that experience better be so dam good sex.

For males, many partners would signify less than idea partner - as tests to check paternity wouldn’t also exist.

Sexual preferences have changed due to the added benefit of contraception, it allows to bush against the need - but not entirely

Studs are call studs because many women see a man with experience as enticing, - there is a reason why married men seem to find it easier to find another

Although I’ve gotten off track, the main message is for those who believe these are just societal norms, - when they have been around since centuries; some things of course are influenced by society, but not all.

But I personally believe definitions should apply to all they apply to - if you don’t like the idea of being a slut, don’t be one - we do have something called free will - although it’s very, very, very hard to fight one’s desires- you have to decide whether some prick calling you a slut matters to you, or it doesn’t- but regardless be okay with accepting it, because they aren’t technically wrong.

Oliver, the reason why slut exists as a term is that men have always needed to repress women. It’s insecurity and bigotry, not some deep seated biological thing. Anthropologically speaking, we used to live in herds and raise our young ones communally (as still happens in some places where our notion of civilisation still hasn’t hit), hence the “it takes a village”.
And to mention biology again- there’s such a thing as the menstrual cycle, that when studying in middle school you learn makes women fertile. A few days a month. Most of the time, no matter how much you fuck a fertile woman, she won’t get pregnant.
Slut shaming was not invented by biology, but by men and women who *** women who are free. We weren’t allowed to learn to read. We weren’t allowed to work. We weren’t allowed to vote. Today some men and women still try to repress us and make our worlds smaller by trying to convince us that if we step outside of their (your) comfort zone we’re wrong, defective, somehow worth less. This is still just about repressing women and limiting our freedom because you’re afraid it will detract from yours. Men can’t control a woman who is free. And some men are afraid they can’t keep a woman they know is free. A woman they know has had many other experiences, some better, some worse. Some men hate that their sexual skills may be compared with others’, and if they’re worried from the comparison, they’ll look to avoid risks by only looking for shy women who are not liberated, who are not likely to know they can be fucked better, and casing the others sluts or whores. Don’t be afraid of us. We’re the ones who can make your toes curl and your cock (and other bits) sing. Be brave, Oliver. Outgrow the stigma. Appreciate a woman with experience without having to put her down. If she’s not hurting anyone, how deeply seated must a man’s insecurities be for him to be afraid of her freedom?

[Ro****]

I encourage you to read "The Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy. I really like that book and it will help you for sure.

[ey****]

is being a 'slut' or 'whore' necessarily a bad thing?

 

[ol****]

8 hours ago, GabsGabsinG said:

Oliver, the reason why slut exists as a term is that men have always needed to repress women. It’s insecurity and bigotry, not some deep seated biological thing. Anthropologically speaking, we used to live in herds and raise our young ones communally (as still happens in some places where our notion of civilisation still hasn’t hit), hence the “it takes a village”.
And to mention biology again- there’s such a thing as the menstrual cycle, that when studying in middle school you learn makes women fertile. A few days a month. Most of the time, no matter how much you fuck a fertile woman, she won’t get pregnant.
Slut shaming was not invented by biology, but by men and women who *** women who are free. We weren’t allowed to learn to read. We weren’t allowed to work. We weren’t allowed to vote. Today some men and women still try to repress us and make our worlds smaller by trying to convince us that if we step outside of their (your) comfort zone we’re wrong, defective, somehow worth less. This is still just about repressing women and limiting our freedom because you’re afraid it will detract from yours. Men can’t control a woman who is free. And some men are afraid they can’t keep a woman they know is free. A woman they know has had many other experiences, some better, some worse. Some men hate that their sexual skills may be compared with others’, and if they’re worried from the comparison, they’ll look to avoid risks by only looking for shy women who are not liberated, who are not likely to know they can be fucked better, and casing the others sluts or whores. Don’t be afraid of us. We’re the ones who can make your toes curl and your cock (and other bits) sing. Be brave, Oliver. Outgrow the stigma. Appreciate a woman with experience without having to put her down. If she’s not hurting anyone, how deeply seated must a man’s insecurities be for him to be afraid of her freedom?

Fet argument


Being a promiscuous women doesn’t suddenly mean your free, both sexes have been promiscuous - however freedom and repression doesn’t necessarily coincide with this.

In France, there are plenty of cheaters, that have sexual relations with multiple partners; they do this behind close doors and in the secret - but being this way doesn’t mean your free.

Having many partners has no indication of freedom - women have had multiple partners in the past, it’s just not something they omitted to their partners- but now it seems like everyone associates shouting this from the balcony as some sort of freedom.

Sluts, aren’t just this concept brought about by society, sexually promiscuous women have been around for centuries, even when patriarchal norms were installed. So it doesn’t suggest you’re more free, you still will be criticised, not because people are insecure, but because partner history is associated with longevity of a relationship.


Think about it, every time you have sex, each is a new experience, each allows you to decide and evaluate previous experiences- making you as a partner more likely to end things, because they don’t match your needs

Think about it this way, you eat one box of cereal and you really like it, then someone comes along and and make you eat this new kind, and you find it’s the best you ever had - now when choosing to select you cereal you find it quite easy to chose- the better one of course.

However, now add say 10 different cereals, about 3 of them are amazing, so incredible, and the rest are okay -each time you select a cereal, your always comparing them, now add 30 more, and you have one heck of a hard time choosing - you might decide some days you like some other, and others another day, however you’ve got a much harder time sticking to one, because your experienced so many didn’t flavours - you compare them all. In comparison, when you only had two, you were only aware of which one was better between the two, and you were satisfied with its amazing taste always.

That’s the basis, the more number of sexual experiences, means more chances you are to crave different things others can’t bring- you have experienced so many equally good cereals, that times you crave other good ones.

Stewart-Williams et al., 2017 - people found that in partner choices they were more likely to find 1-6 partners more appealing, while 9-11 the appeal drastically dropped.

The idea that sexual promiscuity is directly linked to freedom, and expression, and women power - all that jazz is not correlated in data- you may believe whatever you like, but it doesn’t factually.

You can be oppressed yet have many sexual experiences, this goes with that not having many sexual experiences means your likely oppressed - it doesn’t, it’s a choice, each are valid, but each come with consequences.

Maybe the word slut has definitely been used as a derogatory language and phase, but I basis things in definition, not social context- plenty of people use words without their intended purpose.

But if you don’t like being call these names, simply don’t act like it - but don’t think because you are a slut somehow your free, as everyone is at the mercy of the collective, it’s been the way since the dawn of time

But the idea that our current society determines this ideology isn’t true, - it’s a rhetoric that is postulated by other “sexually expressive” free people to give themselves the feeling their actions are empowering- but when things don’t go your way, and people start to go “yuck, or Urrm I think we’re I compatible” you blame society for your own actions, suggesting that everyone else are bigots and are insecure

That’s not to say society doesn’t influence behaviour, but on the matter of anthropological value, the idea of why reason people have an aversion of give names to sexually promiscuous partners, is rounded in biology’s not society

It’s not that suddenly society has pushed these ideas in our head, it’s biology.

Oh and as you decided to include a little biology lesson, let me tell you, during the menstrual cycle, there is no period where “no matter how much you fuck a fertile women she won’t get pregnant” - also little confused as you said fertile, which kind of contracts your point as when a women is fertile she is more likely to conceive.

There is no point through the cycle, where your statement holds truth, yes, there is a decreased likelihood, but the more you fuck the more you have chances to increase those odds, that’s just basic statistics. So to reiterate, there is no period within the cycle that holds true to your factually incorrect statement, although there is a lower probability compared to fertile window, it’s not as you say it is “fuck as many times”.

Either you weren’t paying attention in class, or your science or sociology teacher was spitting straight biased lies- usually brought about to suggest the rhythm technique is a substitute for contraception - it isn’t.

Also, I’m a little confused why you mentioned what you did about “we use to live in hards and raise our young communally” - like it doesn’t really add to your point you were making as seems misplaced - I don’t know what point you were trying to make, so I’m just confused.

I mean anthropologically speaking we use to also have other species similar to our selfs - see how this is strange to randomly put, or doesn’t add to the argument just confused it, there are plenty things we do now that we don’t before - but just because we don’t do it now, doesn’t mean we don’t do some.

The fact child rearing happened the way it did, is because we were surviving, not living - survival leaves little room for tasks outside fulfilling biological needs- we’re tribal ***s by nature, we build communities for safety- now they are called friend groups.

But actually, I retract my statement about saying your point had no merit, if you were trying to convey that behaviour and practices have changed as society has progressed you would be right, however, remnants still remain - our brains haven’t adapted socially in - overall social development of the brain hasn’t significantly been altered since the emergence of modern human - 300,000 years ago.

The idea that all these beliefs and actions are based solely around society doesn’t hold true- I will agree that certain things have changed, women can now vote, and do any things a man is allowed to do - and what a great turn this was, so many scientific research have been brought about by women, and men alike - I’m glad that scientific minds are free

However don’t suggest that being a slut correlates to freedom - because whether you like it or not, sometimes what people say is true even if it’s hard to hear - society doesn’t have to change, you have the freedom to be whatever you want to be, but people equally have the freedom to disagree - if you want to do what you want and what others to accept that, by using words like insecure, bigotry to make others feel bad for their own feelings, than be my guess, but then your pushing your own values on others, taking their freedom to decide.

You can be whatever you like in this word, but your actions will always be scrutinised by society - I can be a dick if I like, but if I hate being called one, then I have the choice to change or to accept - I don’t go trying to gaslight others into thinking me being a dick is okay.

As for my own personal feelings, they aren’t based on insecurities- if I find someone I really like, then of course I will chose that person, however they have to get the foot in the door first to build that connection.

The point is, be however, and whatever you like, but don’t expect others to agree or reprimand you for your own actions - you can either accept it or reject it, but don’t go thinking others are at fault, it’s hypocritical

In the post you made, you have tried to pitifully belittle me, and degrade my statement, which in my previous comment made no attempt to make it personal. - I was never saying you are a bad person for being a slut, but you can’t deny the definition of the word.

[cu****]

It depends on the context it is being used eyemblacksheep for example if someone tells you to call them shut whore like degrading that isn't bad but if someone randomly walks up to you and starts calling you names then it becomes shaming disrespectful there is a saying and it goes there is a time and place to do or say something

[le****]

First off, its nobody else's business whom, or with how many different people that you sleep with at any given time, besides those people themselves. So anyone passing judgement on your life, especially for something that doesn't effect them one way or another, shouldn't be someone whose opinion matters to you at all in the first place. Second, who ever decided that "whore" was a derogatory term anyway.... And third, at the end of the day if someone isnt feeding you, fucking you, or taking care of you in some way or another, then why care what their opinion of you is? Why put so much stock into what anyone else thinks, as long as you are okay with what you are doing, and can look yourself in the eyes in the mirror at the end if the day, then whi cares what anyone else thinks ? Let the haters hate, thats what they do and the more haters you have, usually the better off you're doing because if they weren't jealous then they wouldnt be bitter enough to let you take up space in their head. Do you, be comfortable in your own skin, and dont feel the need to justify or explain your behavior to anyone.

[be****]

Whore does it for ***, slut does it for her pleasure, bitch does everyone but me. I love a happy slut!! I'm one too!

[Jay_l_n]

Whores get paid

[Tr****]

Does it really matter what other people think? Be you and fulfill your desires and needs

[23xxx23]

Does it make me a whore when someone calls me a whore? No! (by the way, whores get paid for their hard work!)

If I accepted all the things I was called on this site (and offline), I would need many therapy sessions :))))))

Big hug and let those who call you name find their peace, they definitely need it. You are gorgeous, I am sure you know this!

By the way, what do we call a man who enjoys sexual activities?

Kissssss!!!

Edited July 20 by 23xxx23

[Ga****]

So you’re saying that I should not shop around because my standards might become too high? You’re just confirming my previous assertion that men call us sluts or whores when they are insecure and don’t think they can match the quality we’re used to.
And no, we are not fertile every day of every month. Please trust the one who actually gets her period here. Sperm has a longevity, in the vagina, of up to 72 hours. So you add to the woman’s fertile window 72 hours, and that’s the whole fertility window. I’m gonna paste this next bit from the website of the globally renowned Mayo Clinic.

To use the Standard Days method:

Count the days in your menstrual cycle, starting with the first day of your period as day 1. Continue counting each day of your cycle until your next cycle starts.
On days 1-7, you're not considered to be fertile and can have unprotected sex, though you may have menstrual bleeding on those days.
On days 8-19, you're considered to be fertile. Avoid unprotected sex or abstain from sex to avoid pregnancy. Or, if you're trying to get pregnant, these are the days to have unprotected sex.
On day 20 through the end of your cycle, you're no longer fertile and can have unprotected sex.
When you get your next period, start the counting over at day 1.

It is freedom, being able to use your body however you want to. If you call me a slut you’re trying to limit my freedom to use my body by passing judgement on my morality, implying that if I enjoy my body - which was made with so many pleasure points for my enjoyment - I am somehow worth less. And that’s a lie to curtail my freedom to use my body.

Freedom would mean being able to use my body however I wanted, including being naked in the square with a line of dicks waiting, without anyone thinking that that allowed them to pass judgement on me.

The thing about “it takes a village” I said because you had said that biology wants two parents- I don’t remember you’re exact wording, but that was the gist. What I meant was that it’s not true, because we’ve always used more people to raise *** than just the two parents- if I’m remembering wrong forgive me.

And the basis of everything remains that nobody has the right to judge me for how I choose to use my body, and certainly nobody has the right to call me names.

And let’s be clear; both the “you” and the “I” in my comments are meant to be impersonal, not personal aggressions.

Even though I do stand by the notion that it is insecure to recommend not trying out too many flavours of cereal to avoid the risk of not being able to accept lower quality in the future.

This said- if the way I wrote my comment offended you personally, I apologise, it wasn’t my intention- as much as it has been yours to convince me and every woman here that we are not free to use our bodies as we like, and that doing so makes us sluts. You’ve basically called a slut me and every other woman that’s had more sex than you. And you did mean it as an insult, did you not?

[Kl****]

I think it's subjective, but I think if you're clocking like you know 10 guys a month (different ones), might be some people's starting point maybe. I mean that's over 100 guys a year that's pretty unattractive to most guys I think. Other guys don't care. Not sure where that sits generationally either. We should be able to do surveys on here more often... what's you attractive and unattractive to the opposite sex. So we kind of understand or have a point of reference, but nobody does these things.
The other consideration is if it's protected safe and clean sex, then I mean what does it matter ultimately mean right?
If it's a cream pie every time then yeah definitely total turn off for a lot of guys, again there's some who like to go clean that up! To each their own.