What is being a dom?

[ch****]

Is it about power?
About cruelty?
I wouldn't say so,it's about the trust that has to be build so she knows I won't go to far ,to stop any point without question.
It's about not having judgment.
It's about the joy she takes from my pleasure.
It's about me being worthy of her submission

[wr****]

So many Doms do not understand this concept and it’s really sad tbh. Some truly submitting to you is the greatest grift they can give you beside a child. So many Doms don’t understand this and cause lasting trauma or even cause them to hide that part of themselves.

[Oralhog]

Every dynamic is unique. Some people get off on ***, ***, ***, free use etc. A M/s dynamic is much different than a D/s dynamic.

But this gift crap is topping from the bottom if you ask me. Subs need Dons as well. It's the ying and yang. It's a mutually beneficial relationship for both parties involved.

[Mi****]

I’m a service-oriented Dom: your pleasure drives mine. I lead with a slow, sensual hand, building trust until I can keep you hovering on that blissful edge for days—if that’s where you want to stay. And when the waves finally settle, attentive aftercare is non-negotiable; it’s how we seal the experience together. This way we learn trust from each other.

[Da****]

Being a Dom is not about power or cruelty. Being a Dom is a responsibility. Being a Dom is about making sure your submissives safety security and protection are your utmost top priority. Believe it or not we as Doms have rules we need to follow, and we adhere to these rules.(If you are not sure about the rules, Google them). It is also checking in with your submissive throughout the day. The main rule I have for my submissive is this. Family first(always) job second and dynamic last.Anything that desks with family is always top. Non negotiable. The Dom who doesn't think it is a responsibility is only deceiving themselves. We also need to lead by example. A submissive will not submit just to anyone. They yes are submissive but they're not your submissive. Trust is a very big factor in all of this. You have to prove yourself to the submissive.

[Ch****]

Being a Dom is hard work tbh. Everyone you come across you really need to listen to make sure all their wants and needs are met too. It takes time and patience to build trust in order to have someone fully let go. In return you get submission and get your wants/needs met. The ones that get to me are the ones don’t want any affection or aftercare only to be an object and feel ***. There has to be a balance no? They get to me because I feel like I’ve failed not able to only give them that one side they want.

[li****]

Dominance = empathy
Submission = vulnerability