Intimate Doms

[La****]

Any other subs have a hard time finding an intimate Dom? I have plenty of people who considere themselves “Doms” contact me often but there’s a lack of intimacy that immediately turns me off. Like I love the confidence but where’s the genuine love and affection. I think a lot of men confuse “Dom” with “Slave master” cuz there’s a disconnect. Is it just me? 😔
- Signed a sad sub

[Mm****]

It's not just you. It's hard to find a Dom that understands after-care and genuine intimacy.

[Hu****]

I tend to have a similar problem tbh

[so****]

Its hard to hard to find the dom as a dom to hard the right sub, submissive need to tell the dom what she or he needs

[No****]

Sometimes it takes time to built intimacy.

[da****]

This is my experience too, it's heartbreaking sometimes, we are worthy of passion and care ❤️‍🩹

[Ka****]

I’m always making sure that my sub(s) feel loved and appreciated. Sorry that you have had bad experiences. I’m always here.

[ja****]

I'm a pleasure Dom. That's whatcha need

[Deleted Member]

patience you must learn

[PhilippJK]

I feel you. So many people who call themselves "Dom" want you to serve and submit but refuse to give you any emotional support or aftercare. Like saying they are "cold and strict". NO, you are not strict, you're just an asshole. Sadly many people use being a "Dom" as an excuse to *** their partners.

[me****]

Well read it and first a pic would be nice but as I read your privilege it's not all the doms fault it's alksi what you say but yes most 9f theses so called does are fake

[Do****]

It's not just you, it's hard to find anyone that wants to establish intimacy with a personal connection. It's possible, just challenging. Keep going and good luck.

[sN****]

💯 it's disappointing

[Do****]

Well, every Dom does it differently, I guess. I personally prefer having an intimate connection with my subs... imo, a sub should WANT to submit instead of feeling like they HAVE to.

[fc****]

Reading this makes me wonder if I would be a good dom if I set me self to be I’m just getting into the lifestyle so still looking what I’m into but this peaked my interest

[Deleted Member]

I'm finding the same thing. There are SO MANY fakes out there who just want the power to be given to them, and not earned. Or they just like having the upper hand on women.
I do require some kind of intimacy, or I can't and won't submit.

[Ka****]

Wow. I’m seeing a lot of unhappy subs. This hurts my heart.

[Sm****]

What you’re looking for is a pleasure dom

[Ch****]

Sounds like no one appreciates romantic submission and dominance. It is a thing you know. Crow academy online teaches a lot of it

[Lo****]

I prefer to start with a common interest in bdsm and complementary roles, and build an emotional connection based on trust and mutual attraction.

Otherwise eventually it's just an empty, boring activity.

[Lo****]

I have a very hard time finding intimate subs.

[Un****]

Depends on the type of Dom
Soft Dom
Hard Dom
primal Dom etc

For some the intimacy is less necessary
And for others it's a priority

Sadly there are often less softdoms compared to harddoms


Lack of aftercare is a massive red flag to me though tbh, decompression and discussion are a must

[Ad****]

There’s definitely a difference between someone being a dom and someone wanting to be dominant or wanting to dominate. The first is values/principles-driven and is inherent in the dynamic between dom and sub. The other is goal/outcome
-driven BS.

[La****]

Most start off stronger than needed, I have to build up to it. Even if it’s a fling, I want to know the person a bit first. It feels like I’m on tinder sometimes, just the men have a stronger need for control. I’d like them to focus more on me as a person, pampering, word of affection etc before they ask when I’ll “ let them fuck me till I’m shaking” .
I guess some ppl like tht kind of start tho

[Sm****]

Discernment is everything, love. There’s so many people out here that don’t understand this, what it means, how deep this goes, how powerful and healing this can be.

You have people that like the feel of power, control, and think that it’s all about them, because they’re “in control”. When in reality, any Dom worth a fuck understands that submission is a gift, and must be earned. Without the gift of your submission, a Dominant is nothing but another man wanting to mask power and kink as ***. Do your research. Understand, or have an understanding rather, of what you’re looking to get out of this. It will greatly help sift through these people who don’t understand, and just like the taboo nature of it all.

This is about love, respect, trust, communication, and mutual consent. If you don’t have these, it’s set up for a very hard road, which will likely end up resulting in hurt.

Stay safe, and watch out for the snakes