Masochist

[Bu****]

What is something your dom does that helps you with dealing with self-harm urges?

[CJ_SilverQueen]

Leaves nice bruises so I can sit on the floor and rock back and forth or lean into a doorway and press on them when I need to feel some ***. It doesn’t eliminate but it greatly eases. Every time I feel his marks I think of him. It brings me joy and quiets my mind.

[de****]

There’s spots that one can leave marks on the body and still be concealed. Leaving a love mark so she knows I’m with her does help her a lot.

[Deleted Member]

Impact play, restraint and sensation play but most importantly knows what and why it's needed x

[Fi****]

Industrial rubber band around upper thigh is my favorite to use with my partner; she can hide it under clothes and use it throughout the day

[al****]

A bit of His *** given helps when I am feeling the need to hurt myself in someway. It’s like His *** comforts and stops the inside *** that creeps up.

[Al****]

Strong firm grips, pressure play,intence back scratches and choking are my favorite ways he helps x3

[Deleted Member]

I'm a c*tter. Since early childhood. I've never thought of it as nor liked the term "self-harm." Someone in a Dominant role didn't try to eliminate my need or desire to c*t, rather, asked me/showed me that I could look at it differently - instead of doing it out of angst, feeling powerless in some everyday situation and so forth, I could be doing it for pleasure....

They are sadomaso and someone I've respected and revered. It didn't eliminate the desire but transformed it, and was, in its own way, a brilliant coping strategy for both of us... to handle our darker desires, reframe, and also a gift of no longer carrying this deeply private and overwhelming secret [thinking I'm bad, wrong, evil etcetera] rather, the discipline? to then engage when things are well.

I concur with those who mention having a bruise or spot to press again after play seems a necessary component to my own mechanism. I enjoy the tapering off of the effects from a good session, over several days after being with them.

[Bu****]

1 hour ago, NexumSange said:

I'm a c*tter. Since early childhood. I've never thought of it as nor liked the term "self-harm." Someone in a Dominant role didn't try to eliminate my need or desire to c*t, rather, asked me/showed me that I could look at it differently - instead of doing it out of angst, feeling powerless in some everyday situation and so forth, I could be doing it for pleasure....

They are sadomaso and someone I've respected and revered. It didn't eliminate the desire but transformed it, and was, in its own way, a brilliant coping strategy for both of us... to handle our darker desires, reframe, and also a gift of no longer carrying this deeply private and overwhelming secret [thinking I'm bad, wrong, evil etcetera] rather, the discipline? to then engage when things are well.

I concur with those who mention having a bruise or spot to press again after play seems a necessary component to my own mechanism. I enjoy the tapering off of the effects from a good session, over several days after being with them.

It's crazy how this is the exact experience I have.

[Ja****]

My "Dom" told me to Stop it...so i learned to enjoy the urge

[Wi****]

Doing something physical, go to the gym, punching bag, train with someone that can rag doll ya. That gets me humbled, gets me focused and back on track

[Deleted Member]

49 minutes ago, Wildthangs said:

Doing something physical, go to the gym, punching bag, train with someone that can rag doll ya. That gets me humbled, gets me focused and back on track

All of that seems glorious to ME, and yet, it would only be part of what I personally need. Having an excellent 'Handler' is sublime. 🤩😍

[ho****]

Reminding me that I dont own my body that he does

[Bu****]

6 hours ago, hornysnowbunnydp69 said:

Reminding me that I dont own my body that he does

Ooo that's a good one