Why do you submit?

[do****]

For me, it's sometimes hard to switch off, but getting to know what truly makes me stress out - to the stopping point. I like to get to know my Dom, so I know I can trust him. As my trust is harder to give away. But sometimes with the right person, they know what to say to calm and make my submit side come out to play and I give over. In that moment I'm in full bliss.
So trust and getting to know my dom is very important for me.

[Ca****]

6 hours ago, Luna16 said:

I like being able to come back from my stressful job, and be able to turn off my brain and let my dom lead me fully, giving up control can sometimes be freeing

This

[Deleted Member]

I discovered the concept and was sold. Never actually gotten to experience tho

[Bi****]

Cuz I’m too nice to be a dom

[Deleted Member]

Messed up part, I discovered i was a "bratty sub type" when I was 16 years old, when I discovered my kinks, taste for dommes and that I get turned on by getting sexually manhandled by women. Idk, maybe its an Autism thing lol

[ki****]

I'm so fiercely independent and in control of my self, my life, etc that I need to be able to let go, just for a little bit, to know that yes, I'm in a safe place, I'm with a trusted dom/domme, and can give up my independence for them, it's freeing in a way that is hard to explain; it's like the vise around your soul can be released and all the "noise" goes away and it's just you and them and you can finally relax and be free

[Am****]

Like others have already said, when you are living a life full of responsibility that you can't fully relax, it's pleasurable to let someone else take control and free you from the daily constraints of having to be in control. And as a sub who enjoys giving pleasure, I am most happy and turned on seeing my Dom enjoying me in whichever way he chooses.

[Fi****]

We submit but we are still the one in control.

[si****]

I like making others happy and well that enjoyment manifested as arousal. When I’m pleasuring a woman I feel content that I’m helping her and being useful

[yo****]

I like it when I’m being controlled and then it makes me unable to control myself - so a complete loss of control in every sense

[Co****]

It’s absolutely a state of flow for me. I have been in control and armored up most of my life. When I find someone I can drop that with and be soft (though also strong in my desires), it’s such a gift to be in that subby space. I can just be and feel. As a demisexual, it takes time to build it or find that connection, but when I do… mmm… so good.

[Lo****]

Why? It feels much better giving up controls. I’m so much more relaxed. I enjoy sex more

[Ms****]

For me, it feels natural. Knowing that I can trust my Dom entirely to use me as they see fit and knowing they won’t do anything to physically or emotionally damage me is so freeing. It’s been impossible to find that dynamic in any other relationship. I have a servant’s heart and it shows in my eagerness to please the one person who I can truly trust.

[Odd-1086]

Mindfulness!!!
Waking up everyday with one simple thought. How can I please my owner today. How can I make my owner glad that they have me for a slave.
No random people trying to get my attention to do what they think is right. There is only one right, my owners right.

[Deleted Member]

For a me (a submissive), it’s not about a total loss of self, it's the ultimate act of control, trust, and mental freedom. The common misunderstanding is that submission is giving away power, but in a healthy dynamic, the submissive is the one who chooses who gets the power, how much they get, and for how long. This makes the ability to submit a position of immense power and trust. For many, the fulfillment comes from the relief of being able to temporarily turn off the CEO brain, you don't have to worry about the schedule or the decisions, allowing your mind to rest and focus entirely on the present experience. This creates a state of intense mental clarity and which is deeply regenerative and pleasurable. Furthermore, there's a profound satisfaction in feeling safe and contained within the structured boundaries that are designed to protect you, knowing that your vulnerability is in the hands of someone you trust completely. So, for me, giving up control temporarily is pleasurable because it is a purposeful redistribution of energy that leads to trust, safety, and psychological relief.

[Deleted Member]

It feels like freedom, some one else making decisions, I don’t have to think or worry, no stress. No other influences just sir. It makes me feel safe and happy