Dominant men who want to submit

[me****]

Ok to be honest I didn’t think my post was that bad as I was being honest but I will take your feedback on board. I am very direct and say what is to be correct in my mind. I don’t do the whole process of interview and trying to prove myself as a slave to potentially new masters if they don’t like my approach or how I present myself then to be honest that’s there issue not mine . I have no time for people who are precious about how they want there slave to be interviewed

[se****]

4 minutes ago, melbourne87814 said:

Ok to be honest I didn’t think my post was that bad as I was being honest but I will take your feedback on board. I am very direct and say what is to be correct in my mind. I don’t do the whole process of interview and trying to prove myself as a slave to potentially new masters if they don’t like my approach or how I present myself then to be honest that’s there issue not mine . I have no time for people who are precious about how they want there slave to be interviewed

It's not an interview, it's a discussion of boundaries and expectations.

Having no time for their wants and slave are two things I never thought I'd see in the same sentence 😮

[li****]

10 minutes ago, sensins said:

It's not an interview, it's a discussion of boundaries and expectations.

Having no time for their wants and slave are two things I never thought I'd see in the same sentence 😮

I have no idea what interview or feedback he's talking about. I haven't interacted with this person at all 😆
Just ignore him, please. Do not waste your time on him.

[Da****]

I understand that you asked for opinions from female dominants, but I would like to mention this story. If I’m intruding into the conversation, I apologize.

I knew a male dominant who did approach a female dominant to experience submission. He felt that it might give him insight into the submissive mind. Unlike other male doms who had approached this woman, he had no concerns or requests for secrecy. When a male dom tried to question his “dominance” because he submitted to another, he shut it down. He felt he had no need to justify or explain himself. I really respected him for this and other things.

So that’s my take. If you’re seeking to submit to someone, do it and be secure about it.

[li****]

4 minutes ago, DaveQuixote said:

I understand that you asked for opinions from female dominants, but I would like to mention this story. If I’m intruding into the conversation, I apologize.

I knew a male dominant who did approach a female dominant to experience submission. He felt that it might give him insight into the submissive mind. Unlike other male doms who had approached this woman, he had no concerns or requests for secrecy. When a male dom tried to question his “dominance” because he submitted to another, he shut it down. He felt he had no need to justify or explain himself. I really respected him for this and other things.

So that’s my take. If you’re seeking to submit to someone, do it and be secure about it.

He admits to it openly so no issues at all 🙂 thank you for your take🙏

[Do****]

They always ignore our profiles and then act shocked when you dare to call them on it.

They truly believe we are here to service them.

[ps****]

5 hours ago, Bidude_69 said:

I'm curious about submitting though I'm a bit anti-authority in a sense I don't submit easily. Think it more to do when they demand I call them mistress or goddess right off the bat without any communication. I'm dominant with my wife but want to see how it is being a submissive.

of course. anti-authority tends to lean brat more than anything so it’s natural for a brat to want to take control of a situation until they don’t want to anymore. it sounds like the doms you have met are attempting to lifestyle dom you immediately and without consent, it’s ultimately just rude and entitled and ill informed. if you’re curious about sexual submission, seek the areas in your regular life where you are submissive. getting a haircut for example, or a tattoo. something that puts your body in the hands of another with trust. observe your inner world. if you’re critical or anxious, keep practicing the art of trust and letting go. if you feel safe and calm, sexual submission could be the next fun step for you. best wishes x

[ey****]

one thing I've often found a little cringe is when someone has on their profile "I'm a Dominant but would sub for the right person" - now, this asks the question of, ok who is the right person? (answer: it's anyone that asks)

And sometimes this is people who are desperate for any form of attention.   And in other cases it's people who maybe have submissive fantasies or leanings, or interests - but are somewhat afraid these will hurt their shell.  Like it undermines their Dominance. And, well, it doesn't. 

[AquaBear]

Well you can't be a good dom without trying to see how it feels! I like when I play with Domme, I still make them orgasm underwater! Everyone is curios!

[li****]

22 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

one thing I've often found a little cringe is when someone has on their profile "I'm a Dominant but would sub for the right person" - now, this asks the question of, ok who is the right person? (answer: it's anyone that asks)

And sometimes this is people who are desperate for any form of attention.   And in other cases it's people who maybe have submissive fantasies or leanings, or interests - but are somewhat afraid these will hurt their shell.  Like it undermines their Dominance. And, well, it doesn't. 

It never occurred to me that men who put that in their profiles might actually take any dominant woman that volunteers 😆

[ey****]

9 minutes ago, liliththedivine said:

 

It never occurred to me that men who put that in their profiles might actually take any dominant woman that volunteers 😆

It reminds me of a scene in the Simpsons where Marge works as an Estate Agent

Marge: Well, you know what we say: the right house for the right person.
Lionel Hutz: I'm going to let you in on a little secret. The right house is the house that's for sale. And the right person is anyone.

 

[li****]

23 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

It reminds me of a scene in the Simpsons where Marge works as an Estate Agent

Marge: Well, you know what we say: the right house for the right person.
Lionel Hutz: I'm going to let you in on a little secret. The right house is the house that's for sale. And the right person is anyone.

 

At this point I'm starting to wonder if all men on this site are actually submissive.

[ey****]

15 minutes ago, liliththedivine said:

 

At this point I'm starting to wonder if all men on this site are actually submissive.

Mostly the ones who call themselves Pleasure Doms  

[cl****]

If someone can't listen they they are a Sub on their profile but still message me, it's an immediate block

[Vi****]

2 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

Mostly the ones who call themselves Pleasure Doms  

I reject that theory.

[MD****]

4 hours ago, liliththedivine said:

At this point I'm starting to wonder if all men on this site are actually submissive.

Maybe, but that's not my take. I think many of them are starved for engagement. The male side of this is a very different ecosystem. I’ve watched women receive messages, offers, and attention with no photos, no profile, sometimes no stated dynamic at all, while men can spend a long time building presence, clarity, and restraint just to get a single response. When rejection stacks up or emotions run high, I believe some men start questioning or abandoning their own boundaries. Not because they’ve suddenly discovered a new truth about themselves, but because being wanted by anyone starts to feel better than holding out for what they actually want. That doesn’t excuse misrepresentation or ignored consent, it still needs to be called out and filtered, but I think it explains why some approach you in ways that contradict their stated persona. They are not leading from desire, they are reacting from scarcity. And that is the sad part, because collapsing yourself to be accepted rarely leads you to a dynamic that actually fulfills you.

[Bi****]

2 minutes ago, MDQC said:

Maybe, but that's not my take. I think many of them are starved for engagement. The male side of this is a very different ecosystem. I’ve watched women receive messages, offers, and attention with no photos, no profile, sometimes no stated dynamic at all, while men can spend a long time building presence, clarity, and restraint just to get a single response. When rejection stacks up or emotions run high, I believe some men start questioning or abandoning their own boundaries. Not because they’ve suddenly discovered a new truth about themselves, but because being wanted by anyone starts to feel better than holding out for what they actually want. That doesn’t excuse misrepresentation or ignored consent, it still needs to be called out and filtered, but I think it explains why some approach you in ways that contradict their stated persona. They are not leading from desire, they are reacting from scarcity. And that is the sad part, because collapsing yourself to be accepted rarely leads you to a dynamic that actually fulfills you.

Exactly men are already handicapped on dating sites that have us restricted to where women have more access.

[MD****]

28 minutes ago, Bidude_69 said:

Exactly men are already handicapped on dating sites that have us restricted to where women have more access.

I’d like to frame it differently. Both sides have equal challenges. Most men (seeking women) operate in a smaller pool with far fewer signals of interest, which makes each connection more intentional and higher effort. Women, on the other hand, often deal with overwhelming volume, hundreds or thousands of messages, which turns dating into constant triage. This is exhausting in different ways. Burnout is real on both sides. The poster is frustrated with the volume and the insincerity. You are describing scarcity. Both are real sides of this coin.

[ey****]

I guess the thing to remember is being bogged down with messages isn't flattering - especially before even had chance to fill in a profile or upload a photo.  It smells of desperation.  Like... if we as men joined a new site and started to get messages before we'd even filled in our profile we would be right to be suspicious.

 

But, I have seen men who have struggled to get play on one site or another and so then decided all of a sudden it'd be easier if they were sub/Dom (the opposite of whatever they first set up as) but like... let's say someone is like, oh ok I wasn't interested you because you were a Dominant, I'll take you as my sub.   He's not going to be happy.  Like if the motivation is desperation for attention. He's going to end up in a situation he's not happy with which is only going to waste the other persons time and his own.  And like what happens if the opportunity comes along to do what he wanted in the first place? Is he now ditching this person who gave him time for a bite of a "better" apple?

[li****]

57 minutes ago, MDQC said:

I’d like to frame it differently. Both sides have equal challenges. Most men (seeking women) operate in a smaller pool with far fewer signals of interest, which makes each connection more intentional and higher effort. Women, on the other hand, often deal with overwhelming volume, hundreds or thousands of messages, which turns dating into constant triage. This is exhausting in different ways. Burnout is real on both sides. The poster is frustrated with the volume and the insincerity. You are describing scarcity. Both are real sides of this coin.

Only that 99% of those connections are neither intentional nor high effort. They literally take a look at our pictures of boobs, butts and feet and spam us with their demands to be pleased with zero care if they're remotely compatible with us.
Why do you think there's a smaller pool of women to choose from? It's because the men have scared them away. And if it wasn't because of filters, there would be literally no women on this app.
I'll tell you something funny so that you can see how absolutely ridiculous it gets. I have a filter that only allows men very close to me to contact me cause I'm not interested in cyberfun. This is clearly stated on my profile. In spite of that, I still get regular kinky gifts from men begging me to do online play.
That's how DUMB it gets. They would do anything, including wasting their *** on women who already told them they don't want them, as long as they don't have to read a profile.

[Bi****]

2 hours ago, MDQC said:

I’d like to frame it differently. Both sides have equal challenges. Most men (seeking women) operate in a smaller pool with far fewer signals of interest, which makes each connection more intentional and higher effort. Women, on the other hand, often deal with overwhelming volume, hundreds or thousands of messages, which turns dating into constant triage. This is exhausting in different ways. Burnout is real on both sides. The poster is frustrated with the volume and the insincerity. You are describing scarcity. Both are real sides of this coin.

I see it on my wife's profile when she opens it. I would actually love that much attention but it is what it is. Though my biggest complaint is different access they have that is locked out for men, like crush views.

[ey****]

Does your wife love all the attention from randos?  Like, really?

[co****]

15 hours ago, liliththedivine said:

But for people who feel like they want to experiment... don't we have the label experimentalist?

I agree they should. But then there are 2 reasons they might not
1. There is a stigma that men should be dominate and many men are afraid to die the other side of themselves.
2. They have been dominate with everyone else they have been with and are thinking of trying this for the first time so don't think of themselves as experimenting. Like is a trial run.

But I agree, they should be honest and upfront about what they are looking for and stop others from thinking they want something else.

[ey****]

I suspect a real reason is if they're trying to pick up people; they know admission of an experiment is a turn-off.

Because women might be, ok, so I'm going to spend all this time and effort on you, on a relationship, on trying things you might like - only for you to then decide it's not for you and I've wasted my time.   This is honestly when (if you don't actually have any friends on the kink scene) paying a Pro is the best move, cos if it's not for you, you don't see her again and neither of you are unhappy with the arrangement.

But like, if you're active in a kink community discussing there's stuff you want to try with friends, there's often someone who will be "I will try it with you" - I mean, depending on what it is.  It's much easier for a friend to offer up her feet or to give a spanking than anything blatantly intimate.  

I think some men are kinda aware that presenting someone as being an experiment is a huge turn off. And then there's those too stupid to realise.

I guess this *is* something which is different for women cos if a woman said she was up to experiment there's plenty of men who would see it as an opportunity - but this isn't necessarily a good thing.   

[Country-boi]

This is hilarious