Dominant men who want to submit

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3 minutes ago, SapphireNight said:

When they contact me, I read their profile. I ask them why they want to submit, if they are 100 percent Dominant.

And what excuses do they give you to having a dominant-only profile?

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Just this afternoon after reading his profile, he will never switch or be a submissive, he asked me what he could do for me.

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3 minutes ago, SapphireNight said:

Just this afternoon after reading his profile, he will never switch or be a submissive, he asked me what he could do for me.

Ah, so it's one of those who sees dominant women as a challenge 😆 that should be an immediate block

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Oh is that it ??? Is that allowed ???

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1 hour ago, SapphireNight said:

Oh is that it ??? Is that allowed ???

Blocking? Yes, it's allowed and you should definitely do it

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Is it okay that male Dominants are messaging me, wanting to submit ???

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3 minutes ago, SapphireNight said:

Is it okay that male Dominants are messaging me, wanting to submit ???

I guess it depends on the individual. In my case, if they refuse to write on their profile that they're interested in submission, I see it as a form of hypocrisy and block them.

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Interesting. Thank you.

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1 hour ago, SapphireNight said:

Oh is that it ??? Is that allowed ???

You decide if it's allowed, that's the entire point

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LiliththeDivine, did you accept a Dominant ???

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22 hours ago, liliththedivine said:

But for people who feel like they want to experiment... don't we have the label experimentalist?

Once again, I agree with you. They should. I can think of 2 reasons why not...
1. They are stuck on the macho stigma of being a Dom and think if they actually label themselves as anything else they will lose their man card. Which means they don't understand how strong and secure you have to be in order to submit to someone.
2. They have been dominate in the past but have reached a point where they want to try something new but haven't decided if it fits who they are and what they've done thus far. So until they try it, they don't want to confuse people. Which in itself is confusing. Lol.

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I have had MANY such encounters, and bring a student of humanity, I find it a fascinating place to explore. Sometimes they: secretly want to dominate you, think they want it but clearly don’t, are on a journey to explore their own submission which can be rocky, or have been ***d into a dominant role because of their gender/power/size but are secretly sweet little submissives at heart who are looking for someone who can see it. To cut to the chase (I never play with people I don’t know) I speak to them about normal things but as if they’re submissive. Call them boy for example. If they love it or hate it….you’ve pretty much got your answer.

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Can a male Dominant truly let go & let her be in complete control ???

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8 minutes ago, SapphireNight said:

Can a male Dominant truly let go & let her be in complete control ???

I'm sure if they found the right one who can overcome their dominance. Me for example will be braty and fight back until I feel if it's right. I'm still new to this.

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Oh interesting

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14 hours ago, MDQC said:

Maybe, but that's not my take. I think many of them are starved for engagement. The male side of this is a very different ecosystem. I’ve watched women receive messages, offers, and attention with no photos, no profile, sometimes no stated dynamic at all, while men can spend a long time building presence, clarity, and restraint just to get a single response. When rejection stacks up or emotions run high, I believe some men start questioning or abandoning their own boundaries. Not because they’ve suddenly discovered a new truth about themselves, but because being wanted by anyone starts to feel better than holding out for what they actually want. That doesn’t excuse misrepresentation or ignored consent, it still needs to be called out and filtered, but I think it explains why some approach you in ways that contradict their stated persona. They are not leading from desire, they are reacting from scarcity. And that is the sad part, because collapsing yourself to be accepted rarely leads you to a dynamic that actually fulfills you.

understandable, but we aren’t food for their void. they can go to therapy prior to dragging us through their shame and ***. they are starved for engagement because often their messaging style and communication sucks. zero questions of curiosity other than that around my body, usually. also, just quietly, what you are communicating here is basically just an illustration of exactly why @liliththedivine comment actually holds a lot of weight. they are outsourcing their power via their scarcity mindset, *** and lack of self accountability. not sure that screams dominance to me 😉abandoning one’s own boundaries is also not an act of dominant energy. these men don’t need more understanding from any of us. they need to pay a therapist rather than looking for a surface level escape to their *** usually constructed via inflicting it on another ‘consensually’ aka towards a femme sub with all the exact same ***s and anxieties that the dom should be holding informed and with care. which can only be done through their own personal work on themselves. sorry but i can’t jump on board this as a reasonable defence.

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12 hours ago, liliththedivine said:

Only that 99% of those connections are neither intentional nor high effort. They literally take a look at our pictures of boobs, butts and feet and spam us with their demands to be pleased with zero care if they're remotely compatible with us.
Why do you think there's a smaller pool of women to choose from? It's because the men have scared them away. And if it wasn't because of filters, there would be literally no women on this app.
I'll tell you something funny so that you can see how absolutely ridiculous it gets. I have a filter that only allows men very close to me to contact me cause I'm not interested in cyberfun. This is clearly stated on my profile. In spite of that, I still get regular kinky gifts from men begging me to do online play.
That's how DUMB it gets. They would do anything, including wasting their *** on women who already told them they don't want them, as long as they don't have to read a profile.

because the dopamine of conquering a woman’s boundary is just waaaay too yummy to pass up 🤗

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11 hours ago, Bidude_69 said:

I see it on my wife's profile when she opens it. I would actually love that much attention but it is what it is. Though my biggest complaint is different access they have that is locked out for men, like crush views.

for real? you can’t see crushes? i’m not cool with that balance in accessibility 🤨 can anyone elaborate?

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2 hours ago, JDTheGoodSub said:

Who wants to command me right now? I wanna be a slut for somebody. I’ll send videos and pictures or video chat to be commanded in real time. Anything goes with me 😈 no limits. All fetishes and kinks welcomed and wanted. All free. Msg me for the ***am or number

Take a breath and try again please

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5 minutes ago, psybermamii said:

for real? you can’t see crushes? i’m not cool with that balance in accessibility 🤨 can anyone elaborate?

Men can see maybe the most recent one, the rest are blocked on the free access

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10 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

I suspect a real reason is if they're trying to pick up people; they know admission of an experiment is a turn-off.

Because women might be, ok, so I'm going to spend all this time and effort on you, on a relationship, on trying things you might like - only for you to then decide it's not for you and I've wasted my time.   This is honestly when (if you don't actually have any friends on the kink scene) paying a Pro is the best move, cos if it's not for you, you don't see her again and neither of you are unhappy with the arrangement.

But like, if you're active in a kink community discussing there's stuff you want to try with friends, there's often someone who will be "I will try it with you" - I mean, depending on what it is.  It's much easier for a friend to offer up her feet or to give a spanking than anything blatantly intimate.  

I think some men are kinda aware that presenting someone as being an experiment is a huge turn off. And then there's those too stupid to realise.

I guess this *is* something which is different for women cos if a woman said she was up to experiment there's plenty of men who would see it as an opportunity - but this isn't necessarily a good thing.   

100%. i offer a service that protects both my time and their time to help hold the hand of those looking to explore and find a gentle entry point to help learn how to find boundaries and language to communicate them and bravery to speak them. a lot of subs are nervous to waste our time too, and feel shame if they get an inkling that they are. as an ex sub (other than the odd very special occasion) who was dragged through *** after *** due to my lack of support in entering the scene, i feel i have lived experience of how to better support those desiring a more curious and respectful place for themselves. i also offer it as a gift to all dominants in the hope the standard of subs increases. its just difficult at times for these people to truly understand the value of the teachings offered. some get it, some call it g0ld digging. i call it a boundary with a gate.

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8 minutes ago, sensins said:

Men can see maybe the most recent one, the rest are blocked on the free access

i see, i only see about five at a time i think, the others are blurred. i don’t pay pro

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2 hours ago, MistressLeFey said:

I have had MANY such encounters, and bring a student of humanity, I find it a fascinating place to explore. Sometimes they: secretly want to dominate you, think they want it but clearly don’t, are on a journey to explore their own submission which can be rocky, or have been ***d into a dominant role because of their gender/power/size but are secretly sweet little submissives at heart who are looking for someone who can see it. To cut to the chase (I never play with people I don’t know) I speak to them about normal things but as if they’re submissive. Call them boy for example. If they love it or hate it….you’ve pretty much got your answer.

The comment about size is a good one. I've been dominate in most of my relationships, however, I love being submissive. The issue is I'm built rather large and am very strong, so everyone sees me as dominate immediately. But I'm very happy on my knees worshipping a beautiful woman. However, most dominate women think I'll be a challenge and don't want to try. Hence why I've taken the path that I rarely submit or try to anymore, it seems to be a waste of my time and effort.
We need to normalize masculine male submissives. Not all of them are petite or feminine. That stigma is also a reason I'd argue many will only talk about it in private, not openly on their profiles.