How hard is it REALLY to find a dominant woman for life? (FLR / lifestyle femdom edition)

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who educated the dom? weaponized incompetence is not the flex yall think it is , just saying .... imagine going to your boss telling him you can't do the job you applied to do... being a woman in this world sucks no matter how you look at it-
"women, free labor since 1999"

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40 minutes ago, clear_spring said:

 

Those questions are for you to discern. Not anyone else's work.

I have... That's the point.  Munches aren't as available to everyone as you think.  

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41 minutes ago, clear_spring said:

This thread is here for all to read with all inputs and chronology. Which is interesting considering the very limited pool of dominant women, who are more likely than not to be highly educated and lead in other facets of their life

Indeed.  I'm confident anyone objective will see I'm not a misogynist.  In fact, I didn't even know how to spell misogynist until I just read it.  lol   It's insane that me hating women is what you default to.  It says a lot...

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Oh this has been an active thread today.  I'll give some thoughts on some general things flying around.

Munches/Community

I can appreciate the difference between munches/community in genuine small towns versus better connected cities. There are advantages and disadvantages to both.
There was temporarily a munch in the small town I lived, which I didn't go to because well - it was a small town and a lot of people I went to school with drank there and I didn't want to be distracted during a munch.  I am, however, happy to travel a little further - but it is a well connected area.

I know for example - I remember a guy I sat and helped once in the US and his nearest regular munch was 2 hours drive. A "travelling munch" did come to his town every 3 months.  A little harder to get things go with, but I guess if you go and meet people there and you vibe with people who also happen to live in/near your town there's no reason not to keep in touch rather than waiting 3 months.  Or he'd at least know someone if he chose to drive to the next town 2 hours away if these are people who travel round.  2 hours still feels like rookie numbers to me

But yeah. In essence this is people where the only thing you have in common with folk is kink.  Absolutely.  But you won't know that if you don't go.

It's somewhat funny - because the kinda logic of a "I am a good quality sub, but you won't know that unless you reply to me" is far more of a transfer of labour onto that person, than going to talk to a few people in a bar who are up for a chat.

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The Patriarchy

As a man, I can only share my lived experience as a man. There are things I understand, and can try to understand
I once was in a meeting with a team leader at work and he then took an idea I raised and passed it off as his own. In my life this, or similar, has only ever happened to me a handful of times. I can probably recall them all.

Compare this of course to the experiences I know a lot of women have - and I've somewhat seen it at time.

While I sometimes have my own internal struggle of am I sub, am I this, what scenarios, etc - the whole ass ratio goes out the window when you start to removing male subs who aren't aware of patriarchy, and some of the cultural bias' that benefit us.

Because this is important, there is a lot we as men are used to that we need to show we can give up in order to slide into submission
That might not be that a prospective Dominant might want us to give up. She might be happy with us slamming down on the sofa and sticking sport on without asking - or taking prime control of household finances - or whatever.  

But, it's something to often digest on what makes us subs? Outside of play/kink what do we do to elevate our Dominant?  To help subvert the societal power structure?

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Mod Note:

I have removed a lot of replies that ventured off-topic into personal interactions.

Please get back to the OP so we don't have to start giving out penalty points.

Further back and forth about these personal interactions will not be allowed.

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2 hours ago, FETMod-RG said:

Mod Note:

I have removed a lot of replies that ventured off-topic into personal interactions.

Please get back to the OP so we don't have to start giving out penalty points.

Further back and forth about these personal interactions will not be allowed.

why do you feel like those interaction didn't serve the purpose of showing how hard it is to find suitable partners?

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27 minutes ago, Godessy said:

 

why do you feel like those interaction didn't serve the purpose of showing how hard it is to find suitable partners?

Because they were just individual gripes related to personal conversations, not directly related to the OP.

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13 minutes ago, FETMod-RG said:

Because they were just individual gripes related to personal conversations, not directly related to the OP.

I see. My intention was to contextualize the OP through lived experience, not to derail the thread. I didn't know that was unwelcomed. Thank you for the clarification.