Are you a lonely sub?

[mi****]

I can’t even express how much I agree with all of this. It’s tiring, honestly, in every way possible.

[Ph****]

4 minutes ago, FtWorthGal said:

I love it when they ask where I’m from. Haha! Dude, really?! *block

Same or someone that asked me a question of something that is already on my page.And that could answer that question.

If they truly wanted to get into me , they would take the time to read my page.
I believe if the person can read your pay , they actually want to get to know you and understand you

[ChocolateRopeBunny]

1 hour ago, Miiya said:

Did you know the term ‘broad’ is a butchers term meaning merely a piece of meat with a hole in it? I think what is bothersome to me is the expectation that we listen right away. You might be a Dom, but you are not my Dom.

The audacity of some right out the gate is very eye opening, astounding and atrocious. But it has worked for them more often than it hasn't which is why they continue with it.

[Lo****]

I didn't realise thats what that feeling was...

[ChocolateRopeBunny]

34 minutes ago, Phoenix13lilly said:

Same or someone that asked me a question of something that is already on my page.And that could answer that question.

If they truly wanted to get into me , they would take the time to read my page.
I believe if the person can read your pay , they actually want to get to know you and understand you

I usually redirect their question. Like when they ask me to tell them something about me I say "so what do you want to know that's NOT on my profile?"

[Br****]

1 hour ago, Pyke1302 said:

I get the feeling that most guys (yes specifically guys) seem to forget that someone submitting is a process and needs to be earned instead of ***d. I’ve talked to a few people here (a very little circle) and I get the feeling most women (I can only talk about their point of view respectively) get to many messages demanding submission.

The issue at hand is probably that most men think this is the right thing to do, I get every one changing their will to find somebody in exchange for peace and quiet. Which is actually a very sad thing in my opinion, since this Community is there to forge bonds stronger than most.

So for all the fellow good men out there and to all the submissive people out there, I’m awfully sorry for the disgusting behavior some of us make you endure. But I know it’s just a drop on a hot stone (German saying I’m sorry 😅) but show yourself, don’t hide because some people can’t behave. There are still good men out there that know how to treat a women correctly even if she wants to submit body and soul.

Thanks for reading I hope it gave some hope back to the unseen, you are not unseen 🫶🏻

I literally put off really being willing to play, because when I was younger it didn't feel safe to participate in kink to me. I felt like much older men were looking for someone nieve they could manipulate. And that just scared me off for many years.

[Gi****]

Tea

[Lo****]

Yes

[GA****]

1 hour ago, mistress_of_ravens said:

Exactly! It’s amazing to me how many people don’t even truly look at our profiles beyond username and pics before sending a message. I mean if someone can’t even bother with reading what we took the time to write in our bios, why would we think they actually care?

This applies to online dating in general sadly

[mi****]

1 hour ago, Phoenix13lilly said:

Same or someone that asked me a question of something that is already on my page.And that could answer that question.

If they truly wanted to get into me , they would take the time to read my page.
I believe if the person can read your pay , they actually want to get to know you and understand you

And more than that, if they took the time to read my page, they would have a ton of topics at the tip of their fingers to ask about making it even easier to start a good conversation with me.

[sk****]

As a switch i agree with all this

[sk****]

4 minutes ago, GAGirl404 said:

This applies to online dating in general sadly

I stg i make a new writing about this every week calling people out on not reading my profile

[ph****]

I can only speak for myself in saying that I feel like this more often than not. I have people dm me on here at least 3 times a week and most of the time I don’t even respond anymore. It’s been more of the same, and as soon as someone wants to pretend like they want to know more about me than just my submission and my kinks and my fantasies, they just hurt me more than if I hadn’t of spoken to them at all. As soon as I get comfortable with them and they get what they want out of me, as soon as I become comfortable enough to be real with them, they dip out. Most of the time just ghosting me entirely. I’m so over it.

[Ma****]

I do, honestly, as a male sub who isn’t really good at switching I definitely feel it’s hard to make a connection with someone who’s interested in being a long term lifestyle domme

[ChocolateRopeBunny]

5 minutes ago, mistress_of_ravens said:

And more than that, if they took the time to read my page, they would have a ton of topics at the tip of their fingers to ask about making it even easier to start a good conversation with me.

We give them the keys and they still don't know how to open the lock. I figure if they're too lazy or uninterested to read the profile that's how any other interaction will go.

[Py****]

31 minutes ago, BratonmyKnees said:

I literally put off really being willing to play, because when I was younger it didn't feel safe to participate in kink to me. I felt like much older men were looking for someone nieve they could manipulate. And that just scared me off for many years.

I totally get that, it’s sad to see that but I’m happy for you that you found the trust to get back into it

[Lo****]

I am I need a dom top

[wb****]

1 hour ago, mistress_of_ravens said:

Exactly! It’s amazing to me how many people don’t even truly look at our profiles beyond username and pics before sending a message. I mean if someone can’t even bother with reading what we took the time to write in our bios, why would we think they actually care?

I actually put a question my profile. If the guy didn’t have an answers then I know they only saw what they wanted, they didn’t see me.

[mi****]

24 minutes ago, phoenix_8224 said:

I can only speak for myself in saying that I feel like this more often than not. I have people dm me on here at least 3 times a week and most of the time I don’t even respond anymore. It’s been more of the same, and as soon as someone wants to pretend like they want to know more about me than just my submission and my kinks and my fantasies, they just hurt me more than if I hadn’t of spoken to them at all. As soon as I get comfortable with them and they get what they want out of me, as soon as I become comfortable enough to be real with them, they dip out. Most of the time just ghosting me entirely. I’m so over it.

This! Like why take the time and energy to pretend to get to know me and then just disappear? And, to be honest, I’m at the point where I’d rather be ghosted because that would probably hurt less than being told that I’m “too much” or something similar because I’m actually at a point where I’m becoming comfortable with opening up. Which is exactly what I need to be if I’m going to truly submit to someone.

[mi****]

7 minutes ago, wbl51265 said:

I actually put a question my profile. If the guy didn’t have an answers then I know they only saw what they wanted, they didn’t see me.

Ooo, I like that! I don’t have any questions per se but I have some open ended statements that work in a similar way.

[Go****]

47 minutes ago, mistress_of_ravens said:

And more than that, if they took the time to read my page, they would have a ton of topics at the tip of their fingers to ask about making it even easier to start a good conversation with me.

your bio is very thought out, i love itt

[Go****]

it's not even a sub thing really, As a Dom I don't even feel like responding to most of the messages 9/10 are just sensation bottoms with lists wasting your energy, despite having a clar bio responding to all preliminary questions if you read it 5mn

[Su****]

I definitely feel this. Personally, I've been finding it hard to have a decent conversation with people because most are only looking for one thing. That's okay, I'm not going to say they shouldn't, by all means live and let live.
However, I'm looking for a serious, long-term relationship, and unfortunately it's been leading to a lot of backlash when I'm straightforward and honest about it, rather than leading them on and wasting their time.
I will not criticize someone for looking for what they want, but personally, I would at least like to have a decent conversation and get to know someone before jumping into bedroom talk or even submission.
It's turned into a very large number of people messaging, but only having a few words exchanged before they're just taking up room in my inbox.

[FoxnBunny]

We absolutely feel this way. Being a Sub doesn't mean we will submit to just anyone. We have to know that ypu care about our safety, boundaries, pleasure. If you can't have those conversations. Your not a dom, you just enjoy controlling women. And that's NOT what a good Dom does.

[be****]

A huge problem on this app is the lack of basic respect and a simple hello before men rush into listing what they want to do to me. It’s disgusting and when they send nude pictures without asking the feeling of emptiness is even worse. I’m not ashamed to be here, but I literally have to take month long breaks from this space when the harassment becomes too much.