Are you a lonely sub?

[Pu****]

You get inboxes back 🤣

[Li****]

I 100% agree with you ❤️❤️ very well said! Thank you

[Au****]

There is a huge double standard here that in my opinion is worthy to be mentioned.
You may forgive me if I’m changing the narrative by giving you another prospective but I also feel it is necessary and I hope that It’ll be taken as an interesting thing to acknowledge instead of an attempt of deviate your attention and militancy.
Im also a sub, heterosexual, I see myself as an esthetically not so bad guy, I think I have sort of a decent bio, not impeccable for sure, I feel I have decent pictures, improvable also for sure, you may take a look at it.
I’ve never sent dick pics, I’ve never been impolite, pushy, I’ve always read bios and sent my dms according to introducing myself in a nice way.
Despite all I’ve said my inbox is always empty, it is extremely rare that I receive a message: moreover I actively send out messages that are very rarely responded to.
If this isn’t feeling lonely then I don’t know what possibly does.

Don’t get me wrong Im not here for you to pity me, nor to tell you Im a poor victim of the game or the sistem and this sort of things: I’ve a plenty life, a job, I workout, I have hobbies, a beautiful girlfriend and very satisfying sexual life, I m not a redpill, incel etc.
But the situation I’m in here, and so in the bdsm context, is this one that I just said..
The chances in here to really know and meet some kinkster are none or close to zero: I don’t even get to try and shoot my shots.
For heterosexual males only: Im 100% sure that what Im saying it resonate with many of you.
You may step forward 😂
If it , instead, doesn’t resonate let me know how you cracked the code considering all the above 😉.

Un saluto

[Ft****]

Yes, I get lots of people all over on various apps but they don't want to build the trust or be the safe person for you to submit to they just want to feel powerful and have control and rough play without the work. I use to give people the benefit of the doubt but I've only been sexually active since last October and I've already had enough injuries and fake "doms" that I'm just kinda too scared to want to meet anyone anymore. I wanna explore so much and submit and give my all to someone but I don't want to spend every meet feeling alone and unseen when there someone literally in the room with me who sees me more as a toy than a person that's breakable or spend the hours after upset cause of lack of aftercare and unsatisfied to boot.

[ey****]

3 hours ago, Australopiteco said:

Despite all I’ve said my inbox is always empty, it is extremely rare that I receive a message: moreover I actively send out messages that are very rarely responded to.
If this isn’t feeling lonely then I don’t know what possibly does.

I feel this ties in with what I said on a previous page.  Regardless of the individuals role or gender.  If you are lonely, like actually lonely and not just wanting sex, coming onto dating sites or going out to try to find a partner to aid with this loneliness if setting up to make things worse.

The age old, relying on other people for hapiness ends up compounding your own unhappiness when they're not able to fulfill it. (i.e. you don't get responses, or hook up on a night out, etc)

There is also the issue that if you DO get a response or DO meet someone on a night out that you end up putting extra pressure on to make it work. Their silence for a couple of days can feel worse. Thigns not working can make it worse - hell, you can even find yourself being more agreeable to try to make things work and this can end up with a relationship you're not really happy with.

So like, it is harder with the fall of third spaces - but if you're genuinely lonely then find some form of hobby, activity, or group for the social interaction which isn't linked to it ending in sex/kink/play for you 

[Au****]

44 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

I feel this ties in with what I said on a previous page.  Regardless of the individuals role or gender.  If you are lonely, like actually lonely and not just wanting sex, coming onto dating sites or going out to try to find a partner to aid with this loneliness if setting up to make things worse.

The age old, relying on other people for hapiness ends up compounding your own unhappiness when they're not able to fulfill it. (i.e. you don't get responses, or hook up on a night out, etc)

There is also the issue that if you DO get a response or DO meet someone on a night out that you end up putting extra pressure on to make it work. Their silence for a couple of days can feel worse. Thigns not working can make it worse - hell, you can even find yourself being more agreeable to try to make things work and this can end up with a relationship you're not really happy with.

So like, it is harder with the fall of third spaces - but if you're genuinely lonely then find some form of hobby, activity, or group for the social interaction which isn't linked to it ending in sex/kink/play for you 

As I said my life is plenty. I can’t complain about it.. I don’t feel lonely I have a girlfriend, hobbies, sports, friends and all.
If I was to be single and having the same fate of above that could take hard work to be dealt with, to withstand the pressure and frustration but knowing myself I’d find a way as I always did.

Although many other don’t find a way and they probably’d give up on themselves, on finding someone, living in frustration and ***..
I was just reflecting and hoping for others that commented this post, claiming they are or they feel lonely to give another prospective of what loneliness could be cause I think in my opinion they way I reported it is way worse: I can’t see how it couldn’t.

Sometimes we don’t reflect, we don’t realize and we don’t compare our struggle to other people struggles and maybe for those who are empathetic enough this could be a growth and a enriching chance of knowing something new and empathize a bit more.
I think I’ll make my own post about it one day: don’t want to go out of topic on this thread

[Wi****]

I'm a trans woman and also aspiring submissive.
I have so many men jumping in my inbox all the time, none of which are truly dominants, they just think they are.

I've never been able to submit to anyone I've been with, mostly because they don't know how to get me to submit, they don't ask, they don't take time to know me as a person.

They just see trans woman and instantly see a sex toy to experiment/experience.

I just want someone that actually sees me as a person and wants to know me before anything sexual/kink.

I'm used to being on my own and in my own company, I have hobbies I enjoy but at the end of the day.. I'm alone.. I crave a safe person, a person that loves me for me, a person I can just curl up in the arms of and finally let my guard down.

I've been in fight or flight for most of my life, from early ***s to now (I'm 41) I can count the relationships I've been in on both hands and still have fingers free.

I know I have 0 experience as a submissive but I want to explore my submissive side, but I need to feel safe, loved and understood.

[te****]

This!!! Reading this is so relateable. The ache is real

[Ft****]

Wednesday at 06:27 PM, WildRachel said:

I'm a trans woman and also aspiring submissive.
I have so many men jumping in my inbox all the time, none of which are truly dominants, they just think they are.

I've never been able to submit to anyone I've been with, mostly because they don't know how to get me to submit, they don't ask, they don't take time to know me as a person.

They just see trans woman and instantly see a sex toy to experiment/experience.

I just want someone that actually sees me as a person and wants to know me before anything sexual/kink.

I'm used to being on my own and in my own company, I have hobbies I enjoy but at the end of the day.. I'm alone.. I crave a safe person, a person that loves me for me, a person I can just curl up in the arms of and finally let my guard down.

I've been in fight or flight for most of my life, from early ***s to now (I'm 41) I can count the relationships I've been in on both hands and still have fingers free.

I know I have 0 experience as a submissive but I want to explore my submissive side, but I need to feel safe, loved and understood.

Same here, they see trans and see object not person then get upset when you point it out. I'm a trans man and it's always either that or they ignore the trans bit all together.