Advice

[bl****]

So I’m new to the community but I’ve been self-conscious about my appearance throughout my life and grew up very sheltered. Being open to endless possibilities in this exiting world, my question is, who are the best people to meet up with when you are afraid about your outward appearance no matter how you look?

[sl****]

Forget about your appearance, that's not what this is about. This is about having a good time with people. Enjoying yourself getting laid in some sort of form, whether it's mental, physical or damn well intense, it's your imagination, your abilities and your wants that matter. Yes, physical attributes are nice that don't solve everybody's problems. It does make it for fun, but you know, it also makes for fun. Is your imagination seeing what you see? Your eyes are for you and your you are the beholder of them and they are the beholder of theirs. They could see more in you than you could see who knows you might find that perfect one person or that ten perfect people be yourself.My friend enjoy yourself accept yourself

[vikingpup]

Frankly there isn't such a "group" of people. There isn't any role who is better at making you feel better safer or more accepted. It's going to be an individual thing. I totally get what you're feeling and talking about, and I wish that there was a group of "these people" who are better for that. But there's plenty of great nice people, and terrible people, in every area.

[an****]

Welcome home. If you are able. Describe what exactly you are self conscious about and your sheltered conditions. This will help us identify how best to guide you.

[jj****]

I’m on the opposite end of the spectrum - my body is riddled with scars, stretch marks, old burns, etc. And I am frankly tired of hearing about it.

I have led a very full, very unsheltered life and I am not a delicate flower. I either meet people who are visibly bothered or people who think I want to cry about each fucking scar on my body.

I share this because you aren’t alone feeling self conscious about your history. I think everyone is a little bit. All that means is you fit right in.

[sn****]

Dude honestly? Confidence is the whole game.
You can be the hotter guy, richer guy, smarter guy, more experienced guy, bigger cock, nicer car, all of it. Doesn’t matter. The guy that’s comfortable being himself wins. Every fucking time.
Especially w/ BDSM. People are way more attracted to energy, presence, honesty, calmness, and someone who owns who they are than some perfectly polished image.
Most people aren’t judging you nearly as hard as you’re judging yourself. Half the people that seem “out of your league” are just people who stopped apologizing for existing.
You don’t need to walk in like some alpha bro. That shit usually reads insecure immediately (imo). Just be real dawg. Be respectful. Be open. Be confident enough to laugh at yourself and not crumble over every insecurity.
That alone will put you ahead of a massive amount of people. A friend of mine says “walk in with a hard dick” (METAPHORICALLY-cant stress that enough lol). Kinda silly but for some reason it stuck with me. Maybe it helps you too? Haha 😅 good luck out there bro! You got this! 💪🏼